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Exciting news, tricky situation
One of BM's just found out she is pregnant!!! She and her H were so cute; they called us to tell us first before anyone else b/c they were worried about our wedding (they are both in it and their daughter is the FG). I told her of course I still want her in my WP!
Anyways, she is due late Aug. and our wedding is late July. She had complications with her last pregnancy and her daughter was two months pre-mature. Because of this, there's a chance she might be on bed rest towards the end of her pregnancy. My only concern is that I don't want her to shell out money for a dress and not be able to wear it (then her H and daughter might not be in it and they would also lose money for the tux and FG dress--they are already pressed for cash).
I am looking at dresses this week. Has anyone dealt with David's Bridal with an issue like this? Is there any way they can hold off on ordering until May or June? She also will have no idea what her measurements will be by then. Or is it easier to just say "Pick out a cocktail length black dress" and have her find one herself?
Last question: If she is unable to make it, should I still list her name in the program as a BM normally or put "honorary bridesmaid"? Does putting that make it sound like she has passed away?
Anyways, she is due late Aug. and our wedding is late July. She had complications with her last pregnancy and her daughter was two months pre-mature. Because of this, there's a chance she might be on bed rest towards the end of her pregnancy. My only concern is that I don't want her to shell out money for a dress and not be able to wear it (then her H and daughter might not be in it and they would also lose money for the tux and FG dress--they are already pressed for cash).
I am looking at dresses this week. Has anyone dealt with David's Bridal with an issue like this? Is there any way they can hold off on ordering until May or June? She also will have no idea what her measurements will be by then. Or is it easier to just say "Pick out a cocktail length black dress" and have her find one herself?
Last question: If she is unable to make it, should I still list her name in the program as a BM normally or put "honorary bridesmaid"? Does putting that make it sound like she has passed away?
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Re: Exciting news, tricky situation
[QUOTE]One of BM's just found out she is pregnant!!! She and her H were so cute; they called us to tell us first before anyone else b/c they were worried about our wedding (they are both in it and their daughter is the FG). I told her of course I still want her in my WP! Anyways, she is due late Aug. and our wedding is late July. She had complications with her last pregnancy and her daughter was two months pre-mature. Because of this, there's a chance she might be on bed rest towards the end of her pregnancy. My only concern is that I don't want her to shell out money for a dress and not be able to wear it (then her H and daughter might not be in it and they would also lose money for the tux and FG dress--they are already pressed for cash). I am looking at dresses this week. Has anyone dealt with David's Bridal with an issue like this? Is there any way they can hold off on ordering until May or June? She also will have no idea what her measurements will be by then. Or is it easier to just say "Pick out a cocktail length black dress" and have her find one herself? Last question: If she is unable to make it, should I still list her name in the program as a BM normally or put "honorary bridesmaid"? Does putting that make it sound like she has passed away?
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]
I would go the black dress route. We used DB for our BM's dresses and most of them were in well before the time frame they specified, but I think that would be cutting it a bit too close, esp since that is prime wedding season.
As far as listing her in the program, I am not totally sure on that one.
And, if she buys her dress from a department store with a good return policy and can't make it to your wedding, she can just return it. That way she won't be out any cash.
And definitely list her as a member of the WP in your program. She's still "in", even if she can't be there.
It's a girl!
[QUOTE]One of BM's just found out she is pregnant!!! She and her H were so cute; they called us to tell us first before anyone else b/c they were worried about our wedding (they are both in it and their daughter is the FG). I told her of course I still want her in my WP! Anyways, she is due late Aug. and our wedding is late July. She had complications with her last pregnancy and her daughter was two months pre-mature. Because of this, there's a chance she might be on bed rest towards the end of her pregnancy. My only concern is that I don't want her to shell out money for a dress and not be able to wear it (then her H and daughter might not be in it and they would also lose money for the tux and FG dress--they are already pressed for cash). I am looking at dresses this week. Has anyone dealt with David's Bridal with an issue like this? Is there any way they can hold off on ordering until May or June? She also will have no idea what her measurements will be by then. Or is it easier to just say "Pick out a cocktail length black dress" and have her find one herself? <strong>Last question: If she is unable to make it, should I still list her name in the program as a BM normally or put "honorary bridesmaid"? Does putting that make it sound like she has passed away?</strong>
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]
In my own personal opinion,which may differ from others,respectively, I would most definitely still ad her in the program. One of my groomsmen is over fighting in the war and will be unable to attend anything that goes along with the wedding (bachelor party,ceremony,ect) and we are still including him in the program.
If it turns out she can't be there, don't forget to have her bouquet sent to her!
I guess my question about the program, is that I definitely want to acknowledge her if she is absent and list her, but will people wonder why there are four names and three girls? Should I say anything about her beyond just listing her name or just leave it at that and people will understand (even if they don't know her) that there must be extenuating circumstances that she isn't present.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
I must say though, I love your whole outlook on this things, it is really great of you. And like someone suggested above, make sure you send her her bouquet that day.