Ooh! I'm totally stealing this idea! I love the competitive-ness of the tosses, and I think they're a great opportunity for fun photos, but I agree that they can be a little awkward and weird. So great!<div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_skipping-the-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:ebddbd7f-d978-450a-9f24-b2601c5d789aPost:1409fea9-0378-493d-862c-8c8dea5c5a14">Re: Skipping the bouquet toss?</a>: [QUOTE]Most of the women at our wedding were already married, so instead of tossing a traditional bouquet my MOH made a lottery ticket bouquet with scratch tickets and I tossed it for ALL of the women at the reception. Everyone really liked the idea and the lady that caught it won $60! We skipped the garter toss. Posted by jlitus[/QUOTE]
I'm skipping them. I've always hated the garter toss, and the older I get, the more I dislike the bouquet toss. I'm really happy I don't have to go to any weddings between now and my wedding, so I never have to be singled out as being "single" again! Some people do an anniversary dance in lieu of the bouquet toss, but I'm not doing that, either. We have a lot of divorced people and widows, so I think it would just be too awkward.
Vintage and Traditional is sort of our theme so I really want to do that toss, but I agree that it can get awkward to be called out as one of the "single women". I had the idea to invite all of the women out onto the floor to catch the bouquet with the announcement that I would make a donation the the favorite charity of whoever catches it. Basically a way to stick with the tradition of tossing it and lose the tradition of separating out the single women. I was surpised however, when my maid of honor, who is single, seemed really disappointed that I didn't plan to do it the traditional way.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_skipping-the-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:ebddbd7f-d978-450a-9f24-b2601c5d789aPost:b4c32f0b-4420-47d4-a729-c3d804854bbf">Skipping the bouquet toss?</a>: [QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that? Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE] Agreed! Although it is our first wedding, we are in our 40's and my girlfriends are not interested in scrambling like lunatics for a bouquet! I love the idea of giving the toss bouquet away to the longest married! OR my niece will be married soon. Maybe I will hand it off to her.<div> </div>
I LOVE this idea! I would probably do the same, if the church wasn't so far from where my Grandma was buried!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_skipping-the-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:ebddbd7f-d978-450a-9f24-b2601c5d789aPost:2f6276f0-9640-4707-86ed-763dd4400ee3">Re: Skipping the bouquet toss?</a>: [QUOTE]I know this sounds strange, but - We're planning on skipping the bouquet toss & instead I plan taking it to my grandma's grave after the ceremony. Posted by JefferyandShan[/QUOTE]
I wasn't planning on doing the bouquet toss, but apparently my florist assumed I was going to and made me a second bouquet for it! Not sure what I'll do with the extra one!
I don't think that's strange, that's what I am doing with my flower arrangements!!!
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_skipping-the-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:ebddbd7f-d978-450a-9f24-b2601c5d789aPost:2f6276f0-9640-4707-86ed-763dd4400ee3">Re: Skipping the bouquet toss?</a>: [QUOTE]I know this sounds strange, but - We're planning on skipping the bouquet toss & instead I plan taking it to my grandma's grave after the ceremony. Posted by JefferyandShan[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_skipping-the-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:ebddbd7f-d978-450a-9f24-b2601c5d789aPost:b4c32f0b-4420-47d4-a729-c3d804854bbf">Skipping the bouquet toss?</a>: [QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that? Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]
We are having a small, intimate ceremony so we are not doing the bouquet or garter toss. Like the other brides above stated, I don't think many people will miss it.
agree with all the skipping it.. But I do have kind of funny story about a bouqet toss: We were at a wedding last summer (we had 10 weddings over the last year to go to, it was insane), and I grew to hate the boquet toss more and more (esp since we weren't engaged yet). But I was always forced to stand out there by friends/etc, so I would always stand at the very edge or in the back so I wouldn't get caught up in the madness. At one wedding, the bride threw it underhand (flung it really, after quite a few glasses of champagen), so it hit the ceiling and slammed down into my face. Needless to say, it was certainly unplesant. So for the safety of everyone, don't do it
In Response to Re:Skipping the bouquet toss?:[QUOTE]I know this sounds strange, but We're planning on skipping the bouquet toss amp; instead I plan taking it to my grandma's grave after the ceremony. Posted by JefferyandShan[/QUOTE]
Certainly agree on skipping both garter and bouquet toss considering I am age 44 and this is my first marriage. It would certainly be kind of ridiculous to do since all my friends are already married or of at the age that they just wouldn't feel comfortable participating.
I am so glad to see so many people say skip it. I too hated being dragged out there as one of the lone single gals. If fact at a few events they had the dj page me to the dance floor. If I do toss mine it will be as we head to the car. So it won't have to stop the party, can't lead to a garter being taken off, and possible a cute photo op for the end of the night. AND i will not single out any lady who happens to not be hitched up.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_skipping-the-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:ebddbd7f-d978-450a-9f24-b2601c5d789aPost:b9439c03-50d4-4294-8b91-09520590ec05">Re: Skipping the bouquet toss?</a>: [QUOTE]I am so glad to see so many people say skip it. I too hated being dragged out there as one of the lone single gals. If fact at a few events they had the dj page me to the dance floor. If I do toss mine it will be as we head to the car. So it won't have to stop the party, can't lead to a garter being taken off, and possible a cute photo op for the end of the night. AND i will not single out any lady who happens to not be hitched up. Posted by lrobi13[/QUOTE]
<div>I completely identify with you. This is how I came to hate the bouquet toss. It would be one thing if they did it, and let those who were interested come up, but at every (yes, every) wedding I went to as one of the only single women, someone (or a group of people) would make a huge scene out of trying to pull me up. I hated being one of the last single women in our group, and the last thing I wanted was to have a whole bunch of attention focused on it. I once left the room entirely to go into the restaurant bar when I saw them setting up to do it, and people came and found me there. I won't be doing a toss.</div>
In Response to Re:Skipping the bouquet toss?:[QUOTE]agree with all the skipping it.. But I do have kind of funny story about a bouqet toss: We were at a wedding last summer we had 10 weddings over the last year to go to, it was insane, and I grew to hate the boquet toss more and more esp since we weren't engaged yet.nbsp; But I was always forced to stand out there by friends/etc, so I would always stand at the very edge or in the back so I wouldn't get caught up in the madness.nbsp; At one wedding, the bride threw it underhand flung it really, after quite a few glasses of champagen, so it hit the ceiling and slammed down into my face.nbsp; Needless to say, it was certainly unplesant.nbsp; So for the safety of everyone, don't do it : Posted by dem068[/QUOTE] Is it posted on YouTube? I swear I saw a clip just like your story the other day...
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_skipping-the-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:ebddbd7f-d978-450a-9f24-b2601c5d789aPost:b4c32f0b-4420-47d4-a729-c3d804854bbf">Skipping the bouquet toss?</a>: [QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that? Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]
We skipped both garter and bouquest tosses. I'm pretty sure nobody cared. We had only about 5 single people and I didn't want to put them on the spot because I think most single people don't like it anyway.
Will be skipping the tossing of stuff. Only two singles are invited, so it would be very strange. Also, I'd like to preserve my bouquet. I would have put it on my grandparents' graves, but we're too far away. And I hate dried flowers, and getting it silvered is very expensive here. So I'm going to dry and then make pot-pourri of it, and keep it forever
I'm in the same boat (second wedding, a bit older, most friends already married, or not wanting to be pointed out). All the suggestions are great. My FI and I decided to just skip both.
My wedding was yesterday, and we skipped the bouqet toss as well as the garter toss. Nobody said a word about it, and nobody has mentioned or asked me why we didn't do them. I wore a garter "just in case" some of the guys wanted to get playful, but mainly because it was my "something blue". I never thought twice about not doing the bouquet/garter toss. I wanted to keep my bouquet, and didn't want anyone else to get it! We did the Longest Married Couples dance, and I gave the winning couple a nice bottle of wine instead of giving them my bouquet, which is usually given. I also didn't have anyone walk me down the aisle, as my father passed away several years ago and I didn't feel the need to pick someone else to walk me down just to have somebody walk me down. Nobody cared about that either.
[QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that? Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]
It's your choice. But as for me? I'm doing it!! As a matter of fact, for the garter toss, my husband is going to crawl on all fours and growl like a dog. Then I'll tell him to sit and pat him on the head before he removes it with his teeth. I've waited a long time to get married and I'm going to enjoy every moment of my wedding as well as the long life with him afterward.
I'm not a fan of the bouquet toss, but there will be a lot of little girls at my wedding. I'm having my florist make me up a loose bundle of individual flowers. I plan on tossing them at once and letting them fly separately so that all the girls can get a flower. Hopefully this will create less pandemonium (not more)!
I am skipping, mostly because I am 30 and have less than 5 single friends attending. IMO after you hit a certain age and the scales tip from "everyone is single" to "everyone is married", it's humiliating for those singled out and not exciting for anyone else to watch.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_skipping-the-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:ebddbd7f-d978-450a-9f24-b2601c5d789aPost:5dc8f359-b055-4cf5-a9ec-9a64fc8a6818">Re: Skipping the bouquet toss?</a>: [QUOTE]We're skipping it. Leads to my question, do we need to do a Grand March? Posted by katiesal7[/QUOTE]
Re: Skipping the bouquet toss?
[QUOTE]Most of the women at our wedding were already married, so instead of tossing a traditional bouquet my MOH made a lottery ticket bouquet with scratch tickets and I tossed it for ALL of the women at the reception. Everyone really liked the idea and the lady that caught it won $60! We skipped the garter toss.
Posted by jlitus[/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?
Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]
Agreed! Although it is our first wedding, we are in our 40's and my girlfriends are not interested in scrambling like lunatics for a bouquet! I love the idea of giving the toss bouquet away to the longest married! OR my niece will be married soon. Maybe I will hand it off to her.<div>
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[QUOTE]I know this sounds strange, but - We're planning on skipping the bouquet toss & instead I plan taking it to my grandma's grave after the ceremony.
Posted by JefferyandShan[/QUOTE]
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_skipping-the-bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:ebddbd7f-d978-450a-9f24-b2601c5d789aPost:2f6276f0-9640-4707-86ed-763dd4400ee3">Re: Skipping the bouquet toss?</a>:
[QUOTE]I know this sounds strange, but - We're planning on skipping the bouquet toss & instead I plan taking it to my grandma's grave after the ceremony.
Posted by JefferyandShan[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?
Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]
We are skipping both. No one will miss it.
Thats very sweet!
Certainly agree on skipping both garter and bouquet toss considering I am age 44 and this is my first marriage. It would certainly be kind of ridiculous to do since all my friends are already married or of at the age that they just wouldn't feel comfortable participating.
[QUOTE]I am so glad to see so many people say skip it. I too hated being dragged out there as one of the lone single gals. If fact at a few events they had the dj page me to the dance floor. If I do toss mine it will be as we head to the car. So it won't have to stop the party, can't lead to a garter being taken off, and possible a cute photo op for the end of the night. AND i will not single out any lady who happens to not be hitched up.
Posted by lrobi13[/QUOTE]
<div>I completely identify with you. This is how I came to hate the bouquet toss. It would be one thing if they did it, and let those who were interested come up, but at every (yes, every) wedding I went to as one of the only single women, someone (or a group of people) would make a huge scene out of trying to pull me up. I hated being one of the last single women in our group, and the last thing I wanted was to have a whole bunch of attention focused on it. I once left the room entirely to go into the restaurant bar when I saw them setting up to do it, and people came and found me there. I won't be doing a toss.</div>
Is it posted on YouTube? I swear I saw a clip just like your story the other day...
[QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?
Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]
We skipped both garter and bouquest tosses. I'm pretty sure nobody cared. We had only about 5 single people and I didn't want to put them on the spot because I think most single people don't like it anyway.
It's your day do whatever you want. I am skipping it and giving the bouquet to my Grandmother.
You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.
[QUOTE]I am considering skipping the bouquet toss at my wedding. This is my second wedding and most of the ladies who will be there are either already married or young girls. The reception is very short and I want to prioritize what all we do. We are definitely skipping the garter toss. Is it weird to skip the bouquet? Have any of y'all ever done that?
Posted by lindseymon[/QUOTE]
We're skipping it. Leads to my question, do we need to do a Grand March?
[QUOTE]We're skipping it. Leads to my question, do we need to do a Grand March?
Posted by katiesal7[/QUOTE]
What's a grand march?