So N and I are casually working through our music selection because we are doing the three things that we know will take the longest... dresses (my girls are family planning so we are looking for pregnant friendly dresses my ladies adore), venue (having the hard decision of do we want our "dream" wedding or accomodate our large families), and music (both music majors with very different tastes in music).
So we were getting to the special "dances." And here is our predicament.
My mom is married to someone different than my dad.
My dad has been with the woman I call my stepmom for 8 years and I love her to death.
N's mom has passed but his dad is very active in our relation, not seeing anyone.
N has only one sister who is my age (she is afterall how we met, she was a good friend of mine)
I have one brother I am really close with, and a half brother and sister. I am thinking of having my brother walk me down the aisle if I do not walk alone or have N meet me halfway.
I know a father/daughter dance is important to my dad. So I will not be able to get around it without hurting his feelings. At my first wedding he felt slighted because my ex and his mom danced together and we did not until the end because the DJ "forgot" and there werent any pictures of us.
I know N was really close with his mom and misses her and I am afraid that it will upset him to miss that moment with her.
But I was thinking maybe we could substitute a sibling dance for him and his sister because they are really close or work something that way.
What is everyone else doing? I dont want to hurt anyones feelings but I am stumped on how to work this all out.