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Donations for Wedding Photos
So...my sister is already married but because her husband is military they didn't have a chance for a wedding. So we're having the wedding later. The issue is that they already have housewares and everything they need, but she's worried that she won't be able to afford a photographer for the event. They don't need gifts, but I've seen instances where couples asked for monetary donations towards their honeymoons, and I was wondering if you guys think it would be okay to do something similar with the pictures. I was thinking of setting up a PayPal button on the website so people could just click on it and donate however much they want. Then we could order a bunch of pockets and send one to people in the thank-you letters so they can see what they gave the couple basically. What does everyone think?
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Re: Donations for Wedding Photos
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[QUOTE]So...my sister is already married but because her husband is military they didn't have a chance for a wedding. So we're having the wedding later. The issue is that they already have housewares and everything they need, but she's worried that she won't be able to afford a photographer for the event. They don't need gifts, but I've seen instances where couples asked for monetary donations towards their honeymoons, and I was wondering if you guys think it would be okay to do something similar with the pictures.<strong> I was thinking of setting up a PayPal button on the website so people could just click on it and donate however much they want. </strong>Then we could order a bunch of pockets and send one to people in the thank-you letters so they can see what they gave the couple basically. What does everyone think?
Posted by ahoyamy[/QUOTE]
<div>Oh dear lord NO. It's never ok to blatantly ask for money. If they can't afford a photographer for their vow renewal, then they have the option of waiting until they can afford what they want, or scaling back on other things to make room in the budget. </div><div>
</div><div>Does everyone know they're married?</div>
"Halloween may have loose women scantily clad...
But Christmas has a pregnant virgin.
Way cooler." - anna.oskar
I don't meet many condescending twelve year olds.
Edit: I thought about it, and when I was 11, I thought some 12 year olds were condescending. So what are you, OP, 11?
[QUOTE]Okay, I would have gotten the message if people had just said "No". No reason to add rude comments that I have to ignore. Sorry I'm new to the wedding world and am unsure of what is acceptable these days. Perhaps if instead of working and going to school full time I spent my days at home watching wedding shows I would know better. I think twelve year olds would be less condescending than some of you people. Maybe I'll go to Yahoo answers and ask them because at least they wouldn't add to this already stressful situation with snotty replies to a fellow wedding person just trying to figure it out. To those who responded patiently, thank you. To those superior weasels who know who they are, I hope your wedding day is awesome and you don't get divorced two years later, which is likely.
Posted by ahoyamy[/QUOTE]
<div>Two wrongs don't make a right... No need to be just as a rude back. Many of these ladies feel very strongly about the "rights" and "wrongs" of the wedding world. You asked a question and got answers. Don't complain just because you don't like what they have to say.</div>
"Halloween may have loose women scantily clad...
But Christmas has a pregnant virgin.
Way cooler." - anna.oskar
[QUOTE]Ha, I'm totally going to start calling people weasels.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]
adamar, I feel sorry for your husband
[QUOTE]Okay, I would have gotten the message if people had just said "No". No reason to add rude comments that I have to ignore. Sorry I'm new to the wedding world and am unsure of what is acceptable these days. Perhaps if instead of working and going to school full time I spent my days at home watching wedding shows I would know better. I think twelve year olds would be less condescending than some of you people. Maybe I'll go to Yahoo answers and ask them because at least they wouldn't add to this already stressful situation with snotty replies to a fellow wedding person just trying to figure it out. To those who responded patiently, thank you. To those superior weasels who know who they are, I hope your wedding day is awesome and you don't get divorced two years later, which is likely.
Posted by ahoyamy[/QUOTE]
Gonna go with Snippy's term from this morning.
You're being a massive snatchface.
Books read in 2012: 21/50
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[QUOTE]Okay, I would have gotten the message if people had just said "No". No reason to add rude comments that I have to ignore. Sorry I'm new to the wedding world and am unsure of what is acceptable these days. Perhaps if instead of working and going to school full time I spent my days at home watching wedding shows I would know better. I think twelve year olds would be less condescending than some of you people. Maybe I'll go to Yahoo answers and ask them because at least they wouldn't add to this already stressful situation with snotty replies to a fellow wedding person just trying to figure it out. To those who responded patiently, thank you. To those superior weasels who know who they are, I hope your wedding day is awesome and you don't get divorced two years later, which is likely.
Posted by ahoyamy[/QUOTE]
Because Yahoo answers is a credible source of information <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" />
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Books read in 2012: 21/50
[QUOTE]Okay, I would have gotten the message if people had just said "No". No reason to add rude comments that I have to ignore. Sorry I'm new to the wedding world and am unsure of what is acceptable these days. Perhaps if instead of working and going to school full time I spent my days at home watching wedding shows I would know better. I think twelve year olds would be less condescending than some of you people. Maybe I'll go to Yahoo answers and ask them because at least they wouldn't add to this already stressful situation with snotty replies to a fellow wedding person just trying to figure it out. To those who responded patiently, thank you. To those superior weasels who know who they are, I hope your wedding day is awesome and you don't get divorced two years later, which is likely.
Posted by ahoyamy[/QUOTE]
Sorry you didn't get the type of responses you wanted, but there is no reason to be nasty back. What about the situation is stressful? Your sister is a married woman planning a vow renewal. Vow renewals are usually not gift giving occasions, so asking for money for a photographer would be like someone saying "I'm having a superbowl party, you can donate towards the decorations if you want".
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
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[QUOTE]Ha, I'm totally going to start calling people weasels.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]
SUPERIOR weasels. It's way funnier that way.
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Donations for Wedding Photos : Because Yahoo answers is a credible source of information
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]
<div>I know, right? I want to see the results if OP seriously asks this on Yahoo answers. I would love to see what the trolls there come up with.</div>
[QUOTE]Haha, DelBride said "vowal renewal."
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
Twice <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Donations for Wedding Photos : adamar, I feel sorry for your husband
Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]
<div>That's OK. I just had lo mein on my face. He feels sorry for himself too.</div>
"Halloween may have loose women scantily clad...
But Christmas has a pregnant virgin.
Way cooler." - anna.oskar
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Donations for Wedding Photos : That's OK. I just had <strong>lo mein </strong>on my face. He feels sorry for himself too.
Posted by adamar15[/QUOTE]
Is that what the kids are calling it these days?
Everything the light touches is my kingdom.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Donations for Wedding Photos : Is that what the kids are calling it these days?
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
<div>Oh god that actually made me LOL. </div>
"Halloween may have loose women scantily clad...
But Christmas has a pregnant virgin.
Way cooler." - anna.oskar
[QUOTE]I also am not buying the "sister" story. OP is way too butthurt for this to be about someone else.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]
YES!
Also why the big rush for a vow renewal? Save the money for the photographer first!