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Wedding Etiquette Forum
AmoroAgain
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Sometimes, I wonder...
How some people got this far in life based on the questions they ask. Like the girl on Registry who was wondering where people got their Thank You's from.
Really? You needed to ask that? Like there's some sort of magical place that sells super secret thank you's that have Wedding Dust thrown in them?
Really? You needed to ask that? Like there's some sort of magical place that sells super secret thank you's that have Wedding Dust thrown in them?
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Re: Sometimes, I wonder...
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Just because it's on a list somewhere stating that it might be a good idea to have something, does NOT mean you NEEEEEEED IT. Like Favor Girl.
FWIW, I've never written a thank you note.
"You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
[QUOTE]I'm shocked at the number of people who neglect to send out thank-you cards. I've bought gifts for 3 weddings and one baby shower this year. I have not recieved a thank-you from any of the parties involved. I just find that odd - if this is the direction we're headed in, I don't like it.
Posted by bbyckes[/QUOTE]
I've also been to 2 weddings and 2 baby showers this year- no TY's from any of them.
This subject really hits home with me too Amoro. It really frustrates me especially because, being a younger bride, everything surrounding weddings is very new to most of my peer group. I think it is completely understandable in some regards, but it also kills me to see the severe lacking of common sense is reveals as well. I can see not knowing a lot of details of planning as a newly engaged woman, but as a guest, how can you NOT realize asking to bring a few friends with you to a wedding is just rude? How can you not see asking to be in the bridal party is rude? I could go on and on...
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[QUOTE]I'm shocked at the number of people who neglect to send out thank-you cards. I've bought gifts for 3 weddings and one baby shower this year. I have not received a thank-you from any of the parties involved. I just find that odd - if this is the direction we're headed in, I don't like it.
Posted by bbyckes[/QUOTE]
Ditto. I have only received one thank you note from the last 4 wedding I have been to.
I failed to send a ty note to my grandmother when I was 12 and didn't receive a birthday present the next year because I was "obviously ungrateful". I haven't skipped a ty since.
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Bonus, I've written thank you notes before.
I think the other things with weddings is that people just assume everything related to the wedding is special somehow. So if they needed thank you cards for a regular party, they'd probably figure it out, go to the card store or Target or something. But since it's wedding related, they think somehow that it must be a specific thing or a specific place you need to buy it from, you know?
I do have a new fascination with paper now so who knows
"You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
"You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
[QUOTE]I carry TY cards in my purse. I was taught, regardless of relationship of the gift giver, a TY note was thoughtful and appropriate. <strong>I even send TY's to people who've had me over for dinner for a special occasion.</strong>
Posted by mag920[/QUOTE]
My best friend's sister invited me to their home with her family for Thanksgiving one year when I couldn't go home, and they were only an hour away. I most definitely sent a thank you note, and brought a bottle of wine! Good call.
As much as I dislike writing them, I still do it to acknowledge the time and thought someone put into getting me the gift and sending it to me.
I got a TY note when I had a friend stay with me who was visiting form another country (she's living abroad for two years). She didn't get in until around 8pm and had to leave early the next morning, so we just had snacks and played board games. But she sent me a nice little letter about how she was so happy to visit me. It was really nice and appreciated. The last two weddings I've been to? No TY notes.
FI's family sent wrapped Christmas presents home with us over Thanksgiving. I'm debating if I should send them TY notes, since I won't be opening them in front of them...
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[QUOTE]How some people got this far in life based on the questions they ask.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]
The one that always gets me is about chair covers. I've seen it more than once- "Are chair covers a wedding necessity?" They're fabric to drape over chairs! They serve no practical purpose! If you really aren't sure whether or not that's a "necessity", I wonder about you.