So, I have seen a few posts on this.. And I'm unsure of the reaction I am going to get, but I feel I should post this anyway. My husband and I were recently married in the local court house (for extremely personal reasons.) for a quick, cheap wedding. Not many people were invited and his family was a little hurt. However, we have wanted to plan a sort of "second wedding" that we know will be a vow renewal. We want to do the whole "wedding" thing with it, however. I know a bunch of people will tell us not to do it, but... You know, I dont know. His family knows it will be a renewal and so does mine, but they all know that it is going to be the 'actual' ceremony where everyone can go to instead of the small one we had to have. I dont go with the "well, you had your chance.." approach some people have -- if everyone involved KNOWS what is going on and AGREES to it, why shouldnt we? No one got us money or gifts for the first wedding, so it's not like we are going to make people feel like they have to gift double or anything.
But that is not my real reason for being here. My real reason is that I have never been to, seen or organized a 'real' wedding before and since I want my 'renewal' to be just like one, I have no idea how to go about it. We know what colors we want and that is about it... You see, I'm not keen on putting a "budget" out there yet. I dont know how much anything costs and I'd RATHER put together what I WANT, see how much it would cost for that, then BUDGET from there! Is there anyway to do it like THAT? Because we can save up for the next few years until we have the money we need, so that's also a reason I dont care for putting a budget up first.