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Knot Pet Peeves

So since I am a crotchety old woman stuck in a crotchety young woman's body, I have many pet peeves.  However, I have a few that seem to be relatively Knot specific.  And I'm sure you do as well.  So share them with the group, and we can all be crotchety women together and feel bad for our respective husbands/FIs.

I absolutely hate when a convo on here goes as follows:

Knottie 1: "Insert non-controversial opinion/comment/idea here."
Knottie 2: "Insert 2+ paragraph flame on Knottie 1, making sure to throw in at least three snide and/or sarcastic remarks."
Knottie 1: "Reponse to Knottie 2, usually including at least one snide remark but nothing over the top."
Knottie 2: "OMG you're getting all worked up for nothing, chill out."

NO.  NO YOU ARE WRONG.  When you come out of the woodwork to flame-up somebody out of nowhere, and they respond in kind, you don't get to claim that they are getting all worked up for nothing.  You're the one who started snarking it up first, don't get all uppity and condensending and trying to claim that they are the ones who are getting worked up for no reason when they respond in kind.  Unless the person is advocating the kicking of puppies, or the re-installation of slavery, or honeymoon registries, you don't get to have a freak out and then try and act like you were calm and collected and not a bitch.  This goes doubly when Knottie 1 is saying something a lot of other people in a thread have said, but gets singled out for no apparent reason.
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  • OH MY GOD THIS IS THE LAMEST FUCKING POST EVER.









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  • My pet peeve is when people post a question on the board that is easily answered by just looking around the Knot.  I mean, the main Knot section has sections for EVERYTHING wedding related.  If people would just look there instead of posting here, they would find quick and probably more reliable answers.
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  • Knottie 1: "Standard lame Knot party line that, while usually sound advice, doesn't really apply to the situation, but I don't know that because I was in such a hurry to post the approved E advice first that I didn't really bother to appreciate the details of this situation."
    Knottie 2: "Different advice."
    Knottie 1, 3-1 billion: "If you hate us so much, Knottie 2, why don't you just leave?"

    Also, continued misunderstanding of an obvious point.

    Also also, being biitchy for the sake of being biitchy.
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  • I don't like when OPs ask a question, people respond and ask for more info, and the OP never comes back.

    I also feel people are often a little to quick to say, "Well if you don't/can't/won't _____  (or, if you think_______), then maybe you aren't ready to get married."
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  • When a person has a question and a billion other people answer the exact same way as the first poster who answered the question.  If the first poster is correct and you just say the same thing you are contributing nothing to the conversation.  I feel like it's just a way to be like "Ooo! Ooo!  I'm right too!  I'm an etiquette expert!"
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  • Excessive punctuation and lack of spell checking. Its RIGHT THERE. It makes me so angry when people do not use it, and then complain and whine when someone points out that their grammar and spelling sucks.
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  • I would also like to say that my pet peeve rage is also applied to convos like this:

    Knottie 1: "Insert non-controversial opinion/idea/advice here."
    Knottie 2" "Insert freak out/flame up/bitch out here, completely out of context with the opinion/advice/idea."
    Knottie 1: "Um okay, no need to freak out."
    Knottie 2:  "OMGLOLZ I'm so not freaking out lolololol!!111"

    Yes.  Yes you are.  Everybody knows it.  Stop frontin' and own up.

    So I guess, basically accusing someone of freaking out "for no reason" when you did it first and they're just responding in kind, or not admitting that you freaked out for no real reason when you did.
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  • I hate it when people say that you're not allowed to have your opinion on a public board.  You're entirled to your opinion, and I'm entitled to tell you why you're wrong, in any manner I choose fitting. 
  • I'll jump on the bitchy-for-the-sake-of-bitchy bandwagon.

    Also when people start their post with, "I know someone just posted about (addressing/hosting/thank you's/whatever), but MY situation is different so I wanted to start MY VERY OWN thread about the same exact subject."
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9307a3a7-e87b-4924-9db8-9aa6ed093607Post:6a0fede5-4a8e-43f9-81fd-2bcb1e306cda">Re: Knot Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE] I also feel people are often a little to quick to say, "Well if you don't/can't/won't _____  (or, if you think_______), then maybe you aren't ready to get married."
    Posted by Sing2phins[/QUOTE]

    Word. This one has been really getting to me lately. In some cases, it's extremely obvious that the couple is likely young and immature. In other cases, it's really ridiculous. "If you have to ask for advice on how to tell your divorced mom that you'd rather your dad walk you down the aisle than her, maybe you're not ready to get married!" "If you need help knowing how to make the extremely uncomfortable and awkward phone call to tell guests that their children aren't actually invited, maybe you're not ready to get married!" Ooooh come on.
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  • In general I agree with that one.  However, people often confuse whether they are knottie 1 or knottie 2 in that scenario, and that's when it gets extra ugly. 

    I also dislike when there's a love fest thread and people name the posters whose pics currently show up on the top right.  Uh, ok. 

    Groupthink.  That irks me every time.  Have an opinion of your own.  If your knottie friends are really your friends, they'll respect you more for saying what you think and then being able to calmly and logically discuss it.
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  • AND starting a flame-free thread specificallly so you can post something incredibly controversial JUST so you can "get away" with it.  (Apparently, some boards actually respect this flame free aspect and when I don't, well... )
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    [QUOTE]When a person has a question and a billion other people answer the exact same way as the first poster who answered the question.  If the first poster is correct and you just say the same thing you are contributing nothing to the conversation.  I feel like it's just a way to be like "Ooo! Ooo!  I'm right too!  I'm an etiquette expert!"
    Posted by andyandhillary[/QUOTE]

    Sometimes it does get repetitive, but sometimes I think the OP needs to hear that multiple people have the same feeling about a situation to realize that it's not just one person on here who thinks that, it really is etiquette.
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    [QUOTE]In general I agree with that one.  However, people often confuse whether they are knottie 1 or knottie 2 in that scenario, and that's when it gets extra ugly.  I also dislike when there's a love fest thread and people name the posters whose pics currently show up on the top right.  Uh, ok.  <strong>Groupthink.  That irks me every time.  Have an opinion of your own.  If your knottie friends are really your friends, they'll respect you more for saying what you think and then being able to calmly and logically discuss it.</strong>
    Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

    Seeeeriously.  This is why I avoid um, certain boards.
  • Jumping on squirrly's train with the love fests - I get that it's a cute and fun thing we do, but it's pretty meaningless when you just list off every name you can think of. Honestly, seeing that someone mentioned my name in a long list of every name of every person they've ever talked to doesn't really do it for me. The scramble to make sure you don't "forget someone" and adding a post at the end that goes "Oh yeah, and so and so!" and nothing more is kind of super lame? And so and so what? And so... you said their name? WTF? Those threads are meaningless.
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  • Temerity Jane.

    It means something.
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    [QUOTE]In general I agree with that one.  However, people often confuse whether they are knottie 1 or knottie 2 in that scenario, and that's when it gets extra ugly.  I also dislike when there's a love fest thread and people name the posters whose pics currently show up on the top right.  Uh, ok.  Groupthink.  That irks me every time.  Have an opinion of your own.  If your knottie friends are really your friends, they'll respect you more for saying what you think and then being able to calmly and logically discuss it.
    Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]


    No.  I'm sorry.  If you're going to be my friend, you're gonna have to think like me.  Should we EVER disagree on ANYTHING we can't be friends anymore.  Nope.  Nuh uh.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Knot Pet Peeves : Sometimes it does get repetitive, but sometimes I think the OP needs to hear that multiple people have the same feeling about a situation to realize that it's not just one person on here who thinks that, it really is etiquette.
    Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

    I think this is definitely true with validation threads.  Most cases though I don't think it's necessary.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-pet-peeves?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9307a3a7-e87b-4924-9db8-9aa6ed093607Post:646c817c-79d0-4ecd-9325-f697f47337f1">Re: Knot Pet Peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]Temerity Jane. It means something.
    Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

    I thought you were listing me as a pet peeve at first. And I was all, "What have I ever done to you, crfische?" and I wasn't going to say anything back, but then I realized that if I said something back, you'd laugh when I called you crfische and all would be forgiven so all my bases would be covered.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Knot Pet Peeves : I think this is definitely true with validation threads.  Most cases though I don't think it's necessary.
    Posted by andyandhillary[/QUOTE]

    ZOMG, Hillary, calm down!!!!111!1

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    [QUOTE]Jumping on squirrly's train with the love fests - I get that it's a cute and fun thing we do, but it's pretty meaningless when you just list off every name you can think of. Honestly, seeing that someone mentioned my name in a long list of every name of every person they've ever talked to doesn't really do it for me. The scramble to make sure you don't "forget someone" and adding a post at the end that goes "Oh yeah, and so and so!" and nothing more is kind of super lame? And so and so what? And so... you said their name? WTF? Those threads are meaningless.
    Posted by temerityjane[/QUOTE]

    What bugs me about them is that once a few people list the same names over and over, the ENTIRE thread is just those same people over and over.  It's like there are so many that post here that you can't think of everyone, so you just resay the ones that were already done.  It gets repetitive.  And then people get butthurt because their name wasn't mentioned.  Plus it's just cheesy anyway.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Knot Pet Peeves : Sometimes it does get repetitive, but sometimes I think the OP needs to hear that multiple people have the same feeling about a situation to realize that it's not just one person on here who thinks that, it really is etiquette.
    Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this as well.  You don't need 95 people to say the same thing, but at least 3 or 4 is good.  It adds weight to that original opinion and makes it more "real" to the OP.
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    Re: Lovefests

    They seem really needy to me. And pointless. The people who I love on here clearly know who they are. 
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  • I hate when a newb comes in with a question that's ridiculous, and people are calmly trying to explain to her why its a bad idea.

    Then here comes a smart-ass Knottie that says something completely mean and bitchy for no reason, just because they think its funny or whatever.

    Then the original Newb flies off her rocker accusing everyone of being "mean and nasty" and decides to forget the legitimate advice she was given before someone decided to be an unnecessary asshat.

    I'm fine with btchiness if its warranted, but sometimes the gun gets jumped on the flaming and then the whole thread turns into a snarkfest, and all good advice then gets ignored.

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    [QUOTE]I hate when a newb comes in with a question that's ridiculous, and people are calmly trying to explain to her why its a bad idea. Then here comes a smart-ass Knottie that says something completely mean and bitchy for no reason, just because they think its funny or whatever. Then the original Newb flies off her rocker accusing everyone of being "mean and nasty" and decides to forget the legitimate advice she was given before someone decided to be an unnecessary asshat. I'm fine with btchiness if its warranted, but sometimes the gun gets jumped on the flaming and then the whole thread turns into a snarkfest, and all good advice then gets ignored.
    Posted by mags0607[/QUOTE]


    I agree.

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  • Mags, you are 100% right on that one.  I hate that.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Knot Pet Peeves : ZOMG, Hillary, calm down!!!!111!1 :)
    Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

    Whatever, TR, you are the one who attacked me and didn't agree with my opinion! 
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  • I think love fests only work when the overall board is being completely b*tchy.  Sometimes it's needed to pull ladies out of their funk.  They're over done and should be used more sparingly if they want to stay effective. 
  • salt78salt78 member
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    Oh another peeve that I'm not sure if it was mentioned.

    OP comes in asking for advice. Receives very legitimate advice. Proceeds to delete the original post. 

    I never understood why people do that. 
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    [QUOTE]Oh another peeve that I'm not sure if it was mentioned. OP comes in asking for advice. Receives very legitimate advice. Proceeds to delete the original post.  I never understood why people do that. 
    Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

    This makes me want to scream. I don't get why people do that.
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