Waiting for a proposal..

melmac21 · July 2010

     I'm just looking for some ideas or opinions, because I don't know what to think anymore. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3.5 years. We are both 24. We've lived together for the past year without any real trouble. Sure we have our arguments, but we're currently working through them to build a healthier relationship.
     We've talked about marriage several times, always by my initiation and I can't ever tell what he's thinking. He sort of shies away and gets this goofy smile and giggle. Both our families have brought up marriage. I don't think he's feeling the pressure, because not 1 of his guy friends even has a girlfriend. I'm growing restless and at the same time I'm scared to keep bringing it up, because I don't want a proposal for the wrong reason.
     I'm in love with him and want to spend my life with him. I just don't know how long I'm supposed to wait around. We're not getting any younger. He knows that depending on timing, I'd prefer a year to year and a half engagement. If he's going to keep dragging his feet then I feel like I need to move on. It takes a while to build a relationship that's ready for marriage. I don't want to be in my 30's and getting married for the first time. I want to be young enough to fully be able to keep up with my kids. How much longer do I stick around??
     Please don't judge me or respond with nasty comments. I'm just curious on what someone else's take on this is... Thanks!

Goldlie11 · July 2010

Edit your post so that there are paragraphs. Then I will read it. I can't process walls of text.

katanne9 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm just looking for some ideas or opinions, because I don't know what to think anymore. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3.5 years. We are both 24. We've lived together for the past year without any real trouble. Sure we have our arguments, but we're currently working through them to build a healthier relationship. We've talked about marriage several times, always by my initiation and I can't ever tell what he's thinking. He sort of shies away and gets this goofy smile and giggle. Both our families have brought up marriage. I don't think he's feeling the pressure, because not 1 of his guy friends even has a girlfriend. I'm growing restless and at the same time I'm scared to keep bringing it up, because I don't want a proposal for the wrong reason. I'm in love with him and want to spend my life with him. I just don't know how long I'm supposed to wait around. We're not getting any younger. He knows that depending on timing, I'd prefer a year to year and a half engagement. If he's going to keep dragging his feet then I feel like I need to move on. It takes a while to build a relationship that's ready for marriage. I don't want to be in my 30's and getting married for the first time. I want to be young enough to fully be able to keep up with my kids. How much longer do I stick around?? Please don't judge me or respond with nasty comments. I'm just curious on what someone else's take on this is... Thanks!
Posted by melmac21[/QUOTE]

If he's ready to get married he should be able to sit down and have a grown up, straightforward discussion with you. Not giggle.

If you're willing to consider moving on without having a full fledged conversation with him about this I am skeptical of your commitment.

There is nothing wrong with being married for the first time in your 30s if it's to the right person. I have nothing else to say on that front.

Ana_2985 · July 2010

A) I can respond however I like.

Ditto Kat. If you are afraid to have an adult conversation about your future with him, that is a problem. If you are ready to walk away from someone you love just to fit the picture-perfect scenario in your head, that is a problem. You really should spend sometime thinking about your relationship, not because you are getting old but because it sounds like you are in it for the wrong reasons. Your priorities seem a little messed up, IMO. If you were 39 I might understand.

melmac21 · July 2010

Wow. Okay. I said please don't judge me and leave the nasty comments out of it. I didn't say there was anything wrong with getting married in your 30's, but by that point my boyfriend and I will have been together for a decade. As far as my commitment? I clearly stated that I want to spend my life with him. It's very normal to be curious about how long someone should wait until the next step.

MidniteRae · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm just looking for some ideas or opinions, because I don't know what to think anymore. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3.5 years. We are both 24. We've lived together for the past year without any real trouble. Sure we have our arguments, but we're currently working through them to build a healthier relationship. We've talked about marriage several times, always by my initiation and I can't ever tell what he's thinking. He sort of shies away and gets this goofy smile and giggle. Both our families have brought up marriage. I don't think he's feeling the pressure, because not 1 of his guy friends even has a girlfriend. I'm growing restless and at the same time I'm scared to keep bringing it up, because I don't want a proposal for the wrong reason. I'm in love with him and want to spend my life with him. I just don't know how long I'm supposed to wait around. We're not getting any younger. He knows that depending on timing, I'd prefer a year to year and a half engagement. If he's going to keep dragging his feet then I feel like I need to move on. It takes a while to build a relationship that's ready for marriage. I don't want to be in my 30's and getting married for the first time. I want to be young enough to fully be able to keep up with my kids. How much longer do I stick around?? Please don't judge me or respond with nasty comments. I'm just curious on what someone else's take on this is... Thanks!
Posted by melmac21[/QUOTE]

I think you need to have a serious talk with your bf about your life goals and where you want to be in 1,5,and 10 years. What are your current conversations with your BF about marriage like?

leia1979 · July 2010

Not trying to be mean, but you did just basically call me an old maid for being 30 and unmarried. You're 24, you still have plenty of time. It sounds like your BF isn't ready for that yet and is uncomfortable with the topic.

Your families bringing up marriage should have no bearing on this whatsoever. It's good you realize making him propose is bad. You should have an adult discussion about timelines. Maybe there's some milestone he wants to hit first. Maybe he just wants to enjoy his twenties.

I was going to say more, but I don't have it in me. It's tough being this old and slow.

melmac21 · July 2010

And as far as having an adult conversation... I was looking for advice on how to approach it, because I don't want him to feel as though I'm pressuring him or that "I'm in it for the wrong reasons" as you're suggesting.

loves2shop4shoes · July 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_waiting-proposal?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:dbfa9938-1c65-4aad-819c-d833f783850aPost:299ee9bd-fe5f-4613-ba51-0e1c12ba5054">Waiting for a proposal..</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm just looking for some ideas or opinions, because I don't know what to think anymore. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3.5 years. We are both 24. We've lived together for the past year without any real trouble. Sure we have our arguments, but we're currently working through them to build a healthier relationship. We've talked about marriage several times, <strong>always by my initiation and I can't ever tell what he's thinking. He sort of shies away and gets this goofy smile and giggle.</strong> Both our families have brought up marriage. I don't think he's feeling the pressure, because not 1 of his guy friends even has a girlfriend. <strong>I'm growing restless </strong>and at the same time I'm scared to keep bringing it up, because <strong>I don't want</strong> a proposal for the wrong reason. I'm in love with him and want to spend my life with him. I just don't know how long I'm supposed to wait around. We're not getting any younger. He knows that depending on timing, <strong>I'd prefer a year to year and a half engagement</strong>. If he's going to keep dragging his feet then I feel like I need to move on. <strong>It takes a while to build a relationship that's ready for marriage.</strong> <strong>I don't</strong> want to be in my 30's and getting married for the first time. <strong>I want</strong> to be young enough to fully be able to keep up with my kids. How much longer do I stick around?? Please don't judge me or respond with nasty comments. I'm just curious on what someone else's take on this is... Thanks!
Posted by melmac21[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Ok, I'm going to be as honest and not-nasty as possible here. </div><div>
</div><div>First things first...you're 24! Not 34 or 44. I say this not to belittle you, but as a fellow young person (I'm 22.) If both of you aren't 10000% ready, then what's the RUSH?</div><div>
</div><div>Read the things I've bolded! YOU initiate the conversation, you haven't blatantly asked your BF his thoughts on the matter, and he shies away from the wedding talk. This should be the first indication that he is simply not ready yet.</div><div>
</div><div>Next, look over how many times in your post you described what YOU want. What about what your BF wants? That should be important to you, considering you're considering MARRYING him.</div><div>
</div><div>Next, it's hard for me to believe that you really want to spend the rest of your life with your BF if you're already thinking about how long it would take you to get into another marriage-worthy relationship.</div><div>
</div><div>If you really love this man, you should HONESTLY and OPENLY talk with him about your plans for the future and establish a MUTUAL timeline for things. COMMUNICATION IS KEY. If he doesn't want to ever get married or if you simply CAN'T live with his timeline, then maybe you should consider moving on.</div><div>
</div><div>But honestly, 24 is WAY too young to say "We're not getting any younger." Period.</div><div>
</div><div>

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PandaBurr · July 2010

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[QUOTE]It's tough being this old and slow.
Posted by leia1979[/QUOTE]

Hahaha.

jeanacorina · July 2010

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[QUOTE] He knows that depending on timing, I'd prefer a year to year and a half engagement. If he's going to keep dragging his feet then I feel like I need to move on. It takes a while to build a relationship that's ready for marriage.

I don't want to be in my 30's and getting married for the first time. I want to be young enough to fully be able to keep up with my kids. How much longer do I stick around??
Posted by melmac21[/QUOTE]

To be honest, you sound a lot like I did a couple of years ago. And a couple of years ago, I was 24... so that's about right.

You wait as long as you know he's the one. If you don't KNOW he's the one, then you move on now. Time isn't going to change that after 3 years. If you can't imagine living happily without him, then you stay even if he never marries you. And you have a happy life together regardless.

If you absolutely must get married, and that is what you want... and if he doesn't want to get married then he's not the guy for you... then think about how long you CAN wait. You stay that long. Then you go if he's still not ready to get married.

Frankly, though, I thought 30 would be SO OLD to have kids. I thought I'd be tired and I always wanted to be a young mom so I could have fun and play and be energetic and ready for all the crazy things kids do.

But, here I am, almost 27, and it's likely to be a couple more years before my husband and I have kids. But I'm not tired. I feel great. I feel young. I feel prepared to take on motherhood anytime between now and whenever. There's no expiration date on my eggs. I'm not getting younger, but I certainly don't feel OLDER.

I've been able to accomplish things I may not have otherwise. I have time to do things I want to do (like take oil painting classes, volunteer for an animal rescue, and finally finish college). 27 isn't as old as I thought it was when I was younger.

I imagine 30 won't be old either, considering it's only 3 years away and my joints aren't popping yet. Heck, by 30 I might be in the best shape of my life.

Don't let your assumptions about an imaginary deadline cause you to throw away a great relationship. Think about this. If he is the guy, then you'd be happy just to BE with him.

It was only a few months after I realized that, my boyfriend of 5 years proposed... and now he's my husband. And nothing has changed. He's the same guy, I'm the same girl. We love each other, we have disagreements, and we are still each other's family, just like we've been for years.

Ana_2985 · July 2010

You say something like this:

"BF, I am very happy with the current state of our relationship. However, my family member brought up marriage and it got me thinking about our future. Where do you see us in 1 year? 3 years? 5 years?"

Listen to his answers. Think about it. Then say:

"I see us being X in 1 year, Y in 3 years, and Z in 5 years."

melmac21 · July 2010

You guys are taking this completely the wrong way and now clearly making it about yourselves. wtf? seriously this was my first time ever posting to a message board and will absolutely be the last. I was looking for help. Not rude people to come in here and make me feel like crap.

katanne9 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Wow. Okay. I said please don't judge me and leave the nasty comments out of it. I didn't say there was anything wrong with getting married in your 30's, but by that point my boyfriend and I will have been together for a decade. As far as my commitment? I clearly stated that I want to spend my life with him. It's very normal to be curious about how long someone should wait until the next step.
Posted by melmac21[/QUOTE]

Fair warning, our posts are perfectly polite. Members of this board are honest. We aren't sugarcoating life to make you feel warm and fuzzy.

To answer your question, it's less about time and about maturity. If he was mature and ready to be married I would give you a different timeline.

If he can't sit down and talk to you about your timeline and getting married, he isn't ready. You need to sit down and have a frank discussion with him.

Ana_2985 · July 2010

I don't understand when people don't want to be judged. Isn't that how you give advice? Judge the situation as an objective party and then decide how to proceed.

What would the correct response have been?

Your BF is a diick. Get out now before your eggs are depleted.

Edit: That was a question, not how I really feel.

katanne9 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]You guys are taking this completely the wrong way and now clearly making it about yourselves. wtf? seriously this was my first time ever posting to a message board and will absolutely be the last. I was looking for help. Not rude people to come in here and make me feel like crap.
Posted by melmac21[/QUOTE]

How are we taking it the wrong way? We can only work off the information you supplied to us.

We're offering you help. I hope you take it.

jeanacorina · July 2010

WTF did you want us to say? If you wanted a pat on the head and all the answers to life laid out in front of you, then you're in the wrong place. We don't have the answers to life. For any one questions, you'll get like 5 or more different answers based on other peoples' experiences and how they see your situation.

That's how communication and advice works. Nobody was mean to you. They might not have been sweet as candy... but not one person was mean.

Until now, anyway.

notquiteblushing · July 2010

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[QUOTE] I don't want to be in my 30's and getting married for the first time. I want to be young enough to fully be able to keep up with my kids. How much longer do I stick around?? Please don't judge me or respond with nasty comments. I'm just curious on what someone else's take on this is... Thanks!
Posted by melmac21[/QUOTE]

And this bride in her 30's (for the first time!) says good day to you sir!

leia1979 · July 2010

Not to oversimplify, but if he's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, then do so. If he feels the same way, then you stick together and get married at some point.

If you feel you must be married and pop out a kid by 30 and you don't think that's going to happen with your BF, then it's time to start looking elsewhere.

We're actually being pretty nice, but you should realize that your post was a little insulting. Unintentional, I'm sure, but it was.

notquiteblushing · July 2010

Ok seriously, I'm back and will play nice for a minute. I can sort of see where the crazy is coming from. When I was 26 I had been with a guy on and off for three years. And it was like I MUST get married at 28, first baby at 29, second at 31, etc. etc. It was a fool proof plan except the guy wasn't ready and in fact, wasn't even the right guy. I took some time for myself, met and awesome guy and a year later we were engaged and now a year and a half after that (at 30, gasp!) we're getting married next week. I understand trying to map out your life but guess what, if your BF never talks about marriage and responds with a "goofy grin" when you bring it up then he's not ready. Slow it down. Ask him where he sees himself/you guys as a couple in 3 years, 10 years, etc. Don't put an artificial time line on your life.

Ana_2985 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]Not to oversimplify, but if he's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, then do so. If he feels the same way, then you stick together and get married at some point. <strong>If you feel you must be married and pop out a kid by 30 and you don't think that's going to happen with your BF, then it's time to start looking elsewhere.</strong> We're actually being pretty nice, but you should realize that your post was a little insulting. Unintentional, I'm sure, but it was.
Posted by leia1979[/QUOTE]

Craigslist!

leia1979 · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Waiting for a proposal.. : Craigslist!
Posted by Ana_2985[/QUOTE]

Good thing I don't drink and read at the same time. You would have owed me a keyboard!

loves2shop4shoes · July 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Waiting for a proposal.. : Craigslist!
Posted by Ana_2985[/QUOTE]

<div>Craigslist Ad:</div><div>
</div><div>Single, 24 year old female seeks single, straight male who is willing to get married & make babies by my timeline. Personality is a plus.</div><div>
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PaigeMcC · July 2010

Wow, everyone was really nice to you and gave you great advice.

I'm the same age as you. The difference between us is that I am able to sit down with my FI and have these conversations without feeling awkward or pushy. Ask him how he feels about it. Ask him where he sees himself. Ask him if he wants to get married.

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[QUOTE] I'm in love with him and want to spend my life with him.[/QUOTE] <--Tell him this!!

As to how much longer you stick around : That is up to you. If you are in love with this guy and feel like you can`t be without him then you stick around as long as you feel this way and keep having those important conversations. If it turns out that you feel otherwise then it`s time to move on.

IMO, 24 is young. You`ve got lots of time to get married and pop out some spawn.

zipis1 · July 2010

"Honey, I really need to talk to you about some concerns I'm having. I need you to listen to me and be openly communicative so that we can be sure we're on the same page. Where do you see this relationship in two years? Five years? Ten years? I'm in this for the long haul. Are you?"

That's really all you need to do. Then you wait, listen to what he says (and I mean really, truly listen) and think about if his answer is satisfactory. If he tries to get out of it repeat one more time that this is important and you need him to take it seriously. If he refuses still to answer...well. There's your answer, and then it's up to you to decide what you want to do.

If he answers with something along the lines of, "I love you. I really do. But I'm not ready at this stage of my life for marriage and just want to be with you," I would then say it would be OK to ask for a general timeline, which kind of brings you back to the "2, 5, 10 year" thing.

"OK. I understand that. Do you have a guess as to when you'll be ready?" (<--- probably not the smoothest way to ask that, but I'm sick today so I'm not feelin' all that smooth). Again, once he answers, it's up to you to decide what you want to do.

In my personal opinion, you're worrying too much. If you're 30 when you get married you will have plenty of energy to keep up with your kids, barring some horrible illness. 30's really not that old, neither is 40. I get wanting to be a younger mom. I get worrying about your fertility. But trust me. you have time.

melmac21 · July 2010

I do appreciate the replies with the helpful advice. I don't understand why some of you feel the need to mock me, but I guess that's more your problem than mine. I wasn't trying to sound offensive by stating that I feel ready for marriage before I'm in my 30's. I apologize if that was rude to some of you. @jeanacorina: i didn't mean you earlier. your post actually made sense, so thank you.

jeanacorina · July 2010

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[QUOTE]@jeanacorina: i didn't mean you earlier. your post actually made sense, so thank you.
Posted by melmac21[/QUOTE]

Oh, well, that's better... because I am totally NOT a meanie. I was like, SHENANIGANS! I GAVE GOOD ADVICE!

PaigeMcC · July 2010

Word of advice OP, people were pretty nice to you. You might want to consider choosing a local board or some other site b/c this will not be puppies and rainbows. We are honest...which some people think is mean.

**Mutley** · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I do appreciate the replies with the helpful advice. I don't understand why some of you feel the need to mock me, but I guess that's more your problem than mine. I wasn't trying to sound offensive by stating that <strong>I feel ready for marriage before I'm in my 30's.</strong> I apologize if that was rude to some of you. @jeanacorina: i didn't mean you earlier. your post actually made sense, so thank you.
Posted by melmac21[/QUOTE]

Can you explain how someone feels ready for marriage when she cannot even communicate that to her boyfriend? The basis of a great marriage is communication. If you do not feel comfortable openly talking about marriage, then I truly do wonder how you think that you are ready for it.

It seems as if you think you are ready because your timeline says that you should be ready, not because your relationship is actually ready for marriage.

melmac21 · July 2010

I understand that. I didn't post this expecting to make friends.. but to say things like Craigslist! and tell me my priorities are messed up... it's out of line.

I didn't say I can't communicate.. I said I was scared, because I don't want to make him feel pressured and was wondering if there was a good way to start the conversation.

PaigeMcC · July 2010

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[QUOTE]I understand that. I didn't post this expecting to make friends.. but to say things like Craigslist! and tell me my priorities are messed up... it's out of line.
Posted by melmac21[/QUOTE]

So we're being out of line is we joke about things? Wow, you need to grow a thicker skin. We were being nice and people were even joking around. If you don't want an opinion then don't post on an international forum.. Go find somewhere that will pet you on the head, we don't do that here.

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