I have a good friend whose 2 older sons got married and she shared with me how big a deal it was for her to decorate the grooms table. My FMIL and I have 2 different styles and if I ask her to do it by herself she will ask me questions about every little thing. So to cut down on stress and the sheer bulk of time it takes to put on a wedding I am wondering if it is rude for me to do the groom's table with minimal input from her? Since she is planning the rehersal dinner all by herself is it...which was an ordeal and is still in the making. Any suggestions?