Who decorates grooms table?

allieclare · July 2009

I have a good friend whose 2 older sons got married and she shared with me how big a deal it was for her to decorate the grooms table. My FMIL and I have 2 different styles and if I ask her to do it by herself she will ask me questions about every little thing. So to cut down on stress and the sheer bulk of time it takes to put on a wedding I am wondering if it is rude for me to do the groom's table with minimal input from her? Since she is planning the rehersal dinner all by herself is it...which was an ordeal and is still in the making. Any suggestions?

kdcwedding · July 2009

What the heck is a groom's table?

TiDa2009 · July 2009

What's a grooms table?

V6CamaroGirl · July 2009

anna.oskar · July 2009

Our ceremony and reception will reflect BOTH of our tastes. Groom tables are a way to show the groom's tastes when the wedding and reception only reflect the bride's tastes and style.

danieliza1127 · July 2009

I've never heard of a groom's table either. Is this the table the groom's cake is put on? If yes, I don't see why your FMIL would have input. I would imagine it would just match the style of his cake.

Golfer'sLady · July 2009

Sorry, I've never heard of a groom's table.

shellydiane820 · July 2009

The bride gets an entire reception and all the groom gets is a table? Not fair!

MOBinFL2008 · July 2009

If the groom's table is supposed to reflect his taste, why would his mother decorate it?Does anyone actually sit at this table or is it just a random table sitting there?

TiDa2009 · July 2009

Groom tables are a way to show the groom's tastes when the wedding and reception only reflect the bride's tastes and style.Ah, kind of like a "man's room" in a couple's home because he has no say in how the house is decorated?Dumb.

anna.oskar · July 2009

"Ah, kind of like a "man's room" in a couple's home because he has no say in how the house is decorated?"TiDa nailed that one.just a table, usally with a groom's cake, memorabilia from sports he likes and manly type colors.

eastunder1 · July 2009

I would think whatever the heck this grooms table is, it would match the style and "theme" of the rest of the reception room. So whoever (you, friends, wedding coordinator, whatever) decorates the rest of the place would do it too, no?I think the idea of the whole room having one look, and one little table having a completely different one sounds terribly unsightly and tacky.

danieliza1127 · July 2009

I get that it must be a custom in some areas, but I don't really get it. The wedding and reception should reflect both the bride and groom's tastes, not just the bride.

eastunder1 · July 2009

Ditto Dani. Shouldn't his tastes already be seen throughout the event? Why would he be confined to one stupid little table to begin with, while everything else is what only the bride likes?

wadingmoose · July 2009

Pffft . I'm not even letting my FI decorate a table for a wedding. Nuh uh. And in the house, he got the basement. He can have his man cave, the rest of it is just stunning, why would I want that ruined with his...man stuff?

mwhitson14 · July 2009

J&K, now that you say that, I'm sure he will actually, he has gathered up the stuff for it and we're decorating after the RD.

tlv204 · July 2009

I still don't get it.

ashesfall · July 2009

So... your groom and you have nothing in common for you to incorp into the whole thing... you aren't doing two wedding colors ones that's your fav and one that's his.... Seems odd to me but if thats the case... let your groom decorate his own table... It is supposed to reflect his taste after all. Guess I just got lucky to score a man whos fav color is mine, (well a diff shade but its still green) is neat and tasteful, and loves japanese stuff as much as I do...

mwhitson14 · July 2009

I was trying to find a picture of a groom's cake from a wedding I went to last year, but you couldn't see it too well. In her case, her DH is a huge duck hunter, but she vetoed anything camo or duck related in the wedding. So his groom's table had his really cool groom's cake, and the table had a brown tablecloth with duck blind netting has an overlay, some cattails and tall grass as the flower decorations.

trix1223 · July 2009

Yet another thing that the wedding industry will convince couples they **MUST** have or their marriage is doomed. It amazes me how people can be separated from their $$.It also amazes me how something benign like a groom's cake can get blown all out of proportion and into a highly decorated table by people who have to one-up everyone else.Dopey. Just dopey.

mwhitson14 · July 2009

Trix, it's not that anyone is saying I MUST have it. FI wants it, so it's not like I'm going to say no.

allieclare · July 2009

OK ladies...for those of you that have no idea what a grooms table is...obviously this thread is not for you. Thank you to the one person who actually answered my question. For those of you who felt the need to judge what I do at my wedding...you have your own day.

tbh33 · July 2009

Sorry OP I forgot to answer your question. I would talk to the groom and see how he feels about decorating it. If he would rather do it, then I think he should. But if he says he wants his mom to have some input, then ask her for a few ideas. However, I have a feeling he'd probably want to have some input since it's technically his table.

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