Acccckkkkk... Ok so, my MOH and BM's had planned a surprise shower for me, but I found out about it today. I got an email from a friend of mine telling me she was excited about my shower, that she'd just gotten the invitation, would I like something off my registry or something that isnt on it, etc. So then I turned around and called my MOH and told her I was getting questions about my apparent shower. So she asked me who it was, etc etc. and what she was asking. I said, "well, I am surprised that she would write me after seeing 'surprise shower' on the invitation." So my MOH is like, I didnt put that on the invitation, I think it's pretty self-explanatory. I was like, well, how do you expect anyone to assume that, though?? I told her that surprise showers just really arent that common in the south (we're both from NJ, where they are more common), and that she can't assume everyone would KNOW it's a surprise. Anyway she turned around and wrote a fairly snippy email to my friend, (see below) so now it's a whole big mess. I really don't think my friend did anything wrong, and it was really my MOH who should have made SURE it was clear that it was a surprise if that's how she wanted it to be. I wish I had never said anything to MOH to begin with!! :/Hi 'Mary' - I am 'Sue', Katherine's Maid of Honor. I just received a note from her that you contacted her about the bridal shower and had questions regarding her registry. It's supposed to be a surprise, as most are. I am sorry that was not clear on the invite - that was my fault, but I would appreciate it if you would not say anything further to her about it - location, date, time, etc. I am going to try to contact the other guests so that they know as well. Also she has a registry at four stores (x, x, x, and x), all are listed on the actual invite. If you have any other questions about the shower, please let me know. Thank you, Sue