Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss)

mrsamyjones · April 2010

We're doing both, however we're skipping the whole digging around under the dress and FI will already have the garter to throw. I really like the idea of a toss bouquet that separates and has fortunes tied to each stem, just don't know how to go about doing this without increasing the cost of our florist bill.

SarahSmile23 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-stories-bouquetgarter-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:50681150-1823-4e2a-92d2-48cee3311182Post:ad1a62ec-b670-4ca7-942f-868796d4dfe8">Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss)</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm on the fence too. Apparently in Las Vegas (where I"m doing my wedding), everyone (married or not) participates. The part that scares me is the garter, although my FI swears he'll be tasteful with it. I think it's gross though. :(
Posted by spinner84[/QUOTE]
spinner, you can still do the toss without having him publicly remove it from your leg. that was our plan, but our stupid venue "forgot" and announced it...i was going to gently remind them we weren't doing it, but it was all set up w/ a chair and a crowd and i decided not to make a big deal out of it.

SarahSmile23 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-stories-bouquetgarter-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:50681150-1823-4e2a-92d2-48cee3311182Post:8d75476d-d6f4-4e74-84a8-e4532f28a781">Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : Meh, can you be trusted?
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

probably not. i watch fox news.

SarahSmile23 · April 2010

but i'm pretty funny and the trifecta makes a mean livermush.

and i have cute pics of my cats.

beatlesgirl25 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-stories-bouquetgarter-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:50681150-1823-4e2a-92d2-48cee3311182Post:8bfdf19f-8969-4d65-8ccc-1e81759eeec8">Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : probably not. i watch fox news.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]

BANNED!!! Don't forget I am also on an OB with nebb, bbycakes, formerly J&K, and mery (and whoever else was listed in FFF). I think Mery's pretty liberal, so this would never fly. Sorry Sarah.

SarahSmile23 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-stories-bouquetgarter-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:50681150-1823-4e2a-92d2-48cee3311182Post:0da8b0e8-92d0-43f2-9957-40e795dc2bbc">Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : BANNED!!! Don't forget I am also on an OB with nebb, bbycakes, formerly J&K, and mery (and whoever else was listed in FFF). I think Mery's pretty liberal, so this would never fly. Sorry Sarah.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

formerly j&k? why formerly? we'll take her since you don't want her. and our OB doesn't discriminate. so there.

sucrets4 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-stories-bouquetgarter-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:50681150-1823-4e2a-92d2-48cee3311182Post:8bfdf19f-8969-4d65-8ccc-1e81759eeec8">Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : probably not. i watch fox news.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]

Fair point.

We'll have to have off board wars another night, though. I'm tired.

spinner84 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-stories-bouquetgarter-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:50681150-1823-4e2a-92d2-48cee3311182Post:6a36b3c3-8a6f-4fa0-bedc-3fdeca09f6cc">Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : spinner, you can still do the toss without having him publicly remove it from your leg. that was our plan, but our stupid venue "forgot" and announced it...i was going to gently remind them we weren't doing it, but it was all set up w/ a chair and a crowd and i decided not to make a big deal out of it.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]
How does he get it then? Do you just hand it to him beforehand? Did you wear it at all?

beatlesgirl25 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-stories-bouquetgarter-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:50681150-1823-4e2a-92d2-48cee3311182Post:99bff8ea-e87a-4a5c-9902-1811b42b8423">Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : formerly j&k? why formerly? we'll take her since you don't want her. and our OB doesn't discriminate. so there.
Posted by SarahSmile23[/QUOTE]

Haha, I'm too lazy to dig through FFF. She got voted off the island for doing something shady I think. I'm still not sure how I ended up on it either.

miss.jawright · April 2010

I usually "go to the restroom" when the bouqet toss occurs so we aren't having one. My Best friend did the fortunes though and I liked that. I just hated the idea of putting all the hopeless ladies on the floor so they could fight to see who the next woman to get married would be. That felt very icky to me.

amalama · April 2010

I hate the bouquet toss. They have it at almost every wedding I have been to even though everyone else seems to hate it too. And usually everyone just stands there and one of the little girls catches it.

I also have a circle of friends that just cannot fathom how I can stand to not be married after me and BF have been together for so long (and we have a kid, the horror!!) so I think the bouquet toss is particularly painful for me since it usually leads to some joking about how if I tried harder and caught it maybe he would finally marry me. Thanks guys, makes me feel awesome.

SarahSmile23 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-stories-bouquetgarter-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:50681150-1823-4e2a-92d2-48cee3311182Post:4067a077-c8db-408c-8360-c8c1556a34fd">Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss) : How does he get it then? Do you just hand it to him beforehand? Did you wear it at all?
Posted by spinner84[/QUOTE]
i wore one (my mom made it and wanted me to wear it for my "something blue") and planned to slip into the bathroom to remove it to hand to him for the toss!

hayleymajayley · April 2010

I can understand the hate for bouquet tosses if people call out the single chicks, but if they don't is it really that bad? you don't HAVE to go up. I never knew people disliked them until someone mentioned it here. I never minded them, if I was at a wedding where I didn't know anyone or felt akward I just didn't participate.

though, I think removing a garter in front of everyone, and tossing one you've been wearing for hours is disgusting. We never ever considered a garter toss. I think if someone mentions a bouquet toss maybe we'll do it, but i'm not planning on it. I don't think i'll have a sentimental attachment to my bouquet so I'd just toss the regular one.

kimheartsscott · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tell-stories-bouquetgarter-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:50681150-1823-4e2a-92d2-48cee3311182Post:d7d4235c-13cd-4aa3-8893-2133f93dbd35">Re: Tell me your stories! (Bouquet/Garter Toss)</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>I can understand the hate for bouquet tosses if people call out the single chicks, but if they don't is it really that bad? you don't HAVE to go up.</strong> I never knew people disliked them until someone mentioned it here. I never minded them, if I was at a wedding where I didn't know anyone or felt akward I just didn't participate.
Posted by hayleymajayley[/QUOTE]

There is always that random pushy aunt/cousin/friend/whatever who just HAS to make a big deal if the single chicks don't go rushing up there like the bride is tossing them freakin Ryan Reynolds. They always make me uncomfortable, because even if I don't have to go up there, I have to pretend to be shuffling through my purse so nobody heckles me.

Kati0105 · April 2010

So, my story is actually pretty funny. At my best friend's wedding in October two of our friends who have been dating their BFs forever literally fought to the ground in $400 BM dresses, like something you'd only ever see in a movie. Prior to that I had NO intention of doing a bouquet toss or garter toss but it was literally the highlight of my friend's wedding so we decided to re-create it at our wedding. One of the friends couldn't make it (randomly, she was on a pre-planned vacay with her BF which ended in them getting engaged) but it was still a lot of fun.

We definitely weren't planning on doing a garter toss because I think they are skeezy but the one friend from the other wedding who was at my wedding was pissed that she again didn't catch the bouquet so she begged me to have a garter toss to give her a second chance. She kept pestering me about it and finally I was like "fine, friend, if you really want to see a garter toss, I'll have one just for you." So I went to our DJ and was told him we were going to do one specifically for said friend.

So when the time came he announced it by saying "we're going to be having a garter toss... but the rules are a bit different than usual... the only contestant will be (friend's boyfriend)!" So essentially we just totally embarrassed my friend and her boyfriend, but they were game for it since we've been giving them a hard time about getting engaged forever. Only, he got down on one knee and proposed to my (single) mom

It was fairly epic.

danieliza1127 · April 2010

We skipped the tosses. We hardly had any single people at our wedding besides kids and teenagers, so it seemed pointless. Plus at almost every wedding I've been to, it ends up being kids trying to catch it, or actually catching it, and the adults don't want to try and have to be coaxed up there. So I didn't want to do something that my guests would dread, what's the fun in that?

Pirata13 · April 2010

We have people who want to do it, so we're doing it. But also keeping the garter removal modest and we are actually combining the bouquet/garter toss as one event, and done to "Take Me Out to the Ballgame". We'll toss the items on the "And it's 1! 2! 3! strikes you're out at the old ballgame!" line. Try to make it somewhat different and fun.

opalsky007 · April 2010

We did the tosses. We were the first of our friends to get married, so everyone was single and seemed to enjoy it. We didn't announce it, so there wasn't that mortifying walk up to the dance floor that you see at a lot of weddings. We just danced to "Single Ladies", I grabbed the bouquet, tossed it, and then H took off the garter and tossed it as the girls sang and danced along to "That's Amore".

tracy_k · April 2010

Here's my story. I attended the wedding of a family friend in my parents' hometown. The time came for "all the single ladies" to make their way to the floor and to my unyielding horror, it was me, a 12-year-old, the flower girl, and a handful of elementary-school-age kids.

Now, at the ripe old of 26 I certainly was not bemoaning my spinster state. I was quite happily single, no anxiety over it, etc. I'm also pretty accustomed to being in the spotlight (I've been a drama nerd my whole life, I am to this day a singer and performer).

And I was horrified and totally embarassed. I flat-out refused to leave my chair and the poor wedding DJ had to change it to asking all the women present to come out on to the floor.

That was when I decided that I would NEVER, EVER, EVER subject my friends to putting their relationship status on display in front of an audience like that. Not everyone feels happy about being single, and something like that can be a slap in the face.

I say particularly if you're older than 25, think VERY carefully about your guest list before you decide to do a traditional bouquet toss. And if you have even one friend who might be upset about something like that, DON'T DO IT.

There are plenty of lovely alternatives to the bouquet toss.

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