What do you remember from a wedding?

andyandhillary · May 2010

I was at dinner tonight with some of my roommate's friends for her birthday and we got talking about weddings. One of them made sure to tell me that she never remembers the food she had at a wedding because it's all horrible but she remembers cake.

Not going to lie, I was a titch sad about it only because that's the one thing I was very insistent upon for my reception: good food. The rest of the wedding will be lovely but I was "counting" on people caring about that and not about the invitations, flowers, etc.

So, what do you come away from weddings remembering?

I remember food: what it was, if I liked it, if there was enough, etc.

I never remember what the invites looked like. Ever.

katiewhompus · May 2010

I remember what happens with the cake, as far as jamming it in faces or just feeding each other.

Um...yeah that's about it, although I've only been to...2 weddings? And one was when I was 15.

Oh, I remember obnoxiously long gaps.

louisvillebride21 · May 2010

I always remember the atmosphere. Was I comfortable enough to dance? Was it a 'party' or a sit down dinner, fancy smancy affair?

shellydiane820 · May 2010

I remember food (obviously) and usually decor. Centerpieces, flowers, that sort of thing. The dress...the family outcasts are always entertaining too...not intentionally of course.

RachNRich · May 2010

I don't even remember half of the crap at my own wedding.

That being said, I do remember food at weddings. At the bar. And the dancing. And definitely the decor.

katiewhompus · May 2010

Oh and I remember bad vows. Like the groom telling the bride that he loves her "even though she is a spoiled brat, and nags a lot" and she loves him even though "he's kind of a jerk and gets drunk all the time."

pandasquishy · May 2010

I usually remember pretty much everything, except the dress. Invitations, colors, flowers, food, cake, I remember.

jasmineh7777 · May 2010

The food, the cake.

nda_roxybabe · May 2010

The food. Not exactly what it was but whether it was good or not. Unless it was exceptional (like T's oldest sisters wedding) then I remember exactly what it was.

kimheartsscott · May 2010

I remember how the guests were treated overall. I will never stop harping about the 5 hour, no chairs, cheese plate for about 30% of the guests, cocktail hour.

Oh, I also remember if any guests got super drunk and did crazy dances. And if the bride and groom cried during the ceremony.

kimheartsscott · May 2010

Oh, and I usually remember the decor, too.

Simply Fated · May 2010

the overall atmosphere

ThePinkSuperhero · May 2010

I remember if I had fun and the overall gist of the party. That's about it.

thesuninherhead · May 2010

I am also very food focused. I remember the food (particularly if it is good), the awesomeness (or lack thereof) of the dancefloor and party, and the sweetness factor of the ceremony.

maggyruth · May 2010

I normally remember how the bride looked. I remember when my cousin got married...I thought she looked like Cinderella.

andyandhillary · May 2010

I am really relieved you guys remember the food. I was about to feel like I just threw a whole lot of money out the window.

budvar1012 · May 2010

delays always stick out in my mind

salt78 · May 2010

The bar, the music, and the food. And whether or not the venue sucks.

ricksang · May 2010

The Food, the music, and how the couple interacts with each other.

thesuninherhead · May 2010

Our guests still talk about how awesome our food was, 8 months later, so it obviously was memorable to them. I think food is something that tends to stick in most peoples' minds, as it's a little more meaningful to them than some of the other details.

texasbridesmaid · May 2010

I remember the food if its particularly good or bad (or if they run out).

nda_roxybabe · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_remember-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:27805f51-7874-4946-9fd4-46853a33c7f5Post:57cdfd71-e9de-4ec4-ac01-f6d334f14d90">Re: What do you remember from a wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]Our guests still talk about how awesome our food was, 8 months later, so it obviously was memorable to them. I think food is something that tends to stick in most peoples' minds, as it's a little more meaningful to them than some of the other details.
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]
It's been 8 months?! Geez

kimheartsscott · May 2010

I never remember the food. Weird.

thesuninherhead · May 2010

Actually, now you ask Roxi, i just looked at the date and it's 8 months exactly today. Sep 12th (and currently the 12th here).

nda_roxybabe · May 2010

Dang, a baby almost coudl've been born in this time.

Albireo · May 2010

I've been to four weddings in the past five years. I remember the food, the cake, what the venues looked like inside (both ceremony and reception), what the bride and groom wore. Oh, and entertainment if there's anything special.

What will define each of the four weddings in my memory:

1) The sparse but beautiful church, visiting with family over dinner (and the soggy, salty stir fry that passed for a vegetarian option), and the bride's beautiful dress made by her MIL.

2) The outdoor lakeside ceremony on a sunny day in June, and the cake with physics equations written on it in blue. And seeing classmates and profs who I hadn't seen in ages.

3) The vast amounts of spicy Guyanese food (including cassava cake, which was yummy and I had never had before) and the tent with pillows where guests could smoke hookah and hang out.

4) Being a bridesmaid (duh), cuteness in the ceremony (Priest, upon seeing blue and white unity sand: "Aha, Maple Leafs colours." Bride and groom, protesting: "No no, Blue Jays!") and a somewhat drab banquet hall that I barely noticed because of the great party and all my friends.

sarah0725 · May 2010

Food, but especially apps. One time I had an endive with crab dip on it, and it was the most delicious thing ever. I hope that someday, sometime, another endive with crab dip on it comes my way.

I remember whether the bride cries, and whether that makes me cry.

I remember particularly fun moments during dancing, like that one time at my boss's wedding in college when one of my supervisors asked me to dance and it turned out he was a ridiculously good dancer, and it was kind of disorienting because he is otherwise a dweeb.

I remember flirting with one of the groomsmen at my cousin's wedding when I was a teenager.

I remember nice venues, and good conversations.

But I don't tend to remember decorations or desserts.

thesuninherhead · May 2010

haha funny you should say that Roxi, one of our groomsmen's gf's got pregnant right after our wedding and is due next month. Exciting stuff!

nda_roxybabe · May 2010

Aww very exciting!

christen80 · May 2010

I tend to remember my impressions of weddings, like the tone of the ceremony, the vibe of the reception, the quality of the company. Thinking back to the weddings I've attending, I could only list a handful of details that I remember.

tenofcups4me · May 2010

I mostly remember what falls outside the norm -- if something is especially good or bad.

I remember an overall feeling for the ceremony, but typically not details unless the officiant says something I consider really offensive (which has definitely happened) or the rare occasion when something especially nice is added in.

I remember the overall tone of the reception -- if it's elegant, cheap, fun, warm, boring, etc., if the band or DJ was good and helped get everyone onto the dance floor

I remember the food if it's really good or abundant or if it's bad.

I remember how the couple acts -- do they seem happy or stressed? Do they make the rounds or not? Do they seem to having fun or going through the motions?
I remember if centerpieces are especially nice or really chintzy, but not the middle ground ones.

I DON'T remember:
bride's dress
bridesmaid's clothing
groom or groomsmen's clothing
cake
linens (though I might if they were exceptional)
invitations but I do hold onto them in a file so I can see them
programs
toasts unless really good or bad

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