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Cranky, not dealing with this well.
Cliffnotes--SIL is pregnant, I am not. We're waiting until my student loans are paid off (about 4 more years) to have kids, and I'm kinda bummed.
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Re: Cranky, not dealing with this well.
Look on the bright side? Nieces and/or nephews!?
You're going to be an awesome mommy one day. You'll be 100x more prepared and educated.
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While I'm super excited about FSIL's pregnancy and I know she'll be an awesome mom, I am feeling slightly jealous and have a tinge of bridezilla "she's stealing my spotlight" fever. I'm hoping it will pass.
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[QUOTE]She also ate Subway 3 times last week. Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
I understand your frustration and that she is happy being ignorant. That sucks. You will be a much better parent when its your turn.
One question, though.. What does Subway have to do with it, specifically. I know that tuna intake should be limited, but there are lots of other foods there. Maybe I am a bit ignorant, but I googled and didn't find a connection. Please enlighten me.
Oh, and I didn't quote the whole thing so you can edit later ;)
I knew that in reality, Fi and I were not ready for that. He wasn't even Fi at that point, and we want to be as financially ready as possible when kids arrive. Still, it didn't make me want to be the pregnant one any less.
On another note, once the baby was born, that feeling really went away. I don't know if it was because of how much stress a baby really causes, or that I am around her enough to get to appreciate her cuteness and quell the want for my own for a little while.
I think it's pretty normal to feel this way, especially in the circumstances of you two wanting to TTC but doing the right thing and delaying while she is completely unprepared and in your face about the pregnancy.
At 7 weeks, does she realise there's a very real chance that she may lose one/both babies as the pregnancy progresses? I wouldn't be announcing anything to the world at that point, if I was her.
I'm a wee bit annoyed that FMIL is going crazy with excitement about the pregnancy but is basically neutral towards the wedding. She's not even buying a new outfit. She pretty clearly likes FSIL better.
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[QUOTE]Sarah: it's the lunchmeat. Nitrates or something. I forgot what they are, but they come with a risk of birth defects.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
Are you allowed to do <em>anything</em> while you're pregnant? It seems like everything is a no-no.
I think you're totally justified in your feelings. You're the responsible one and she's not and that sucks to know that it could/should be you.
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[QUOTE] At 7 weeks, does she realise there's a very real chance that she may lose one/both babies as the pregnancy progresses? I wouldn't be announcing anything to the world at that point, if I was her.
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]
Nope, not a clue. Never even crossed her mind. She's already AWed it on her FB twice. If, God forbid, something were to happen, she's going to be a wreck. Her husband and inlaws got her baby stuff for Christmas.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cranky, not dealing with this well. : Are you allowed to do anything while you're pregnant? It seems like everything is a no-no.
Posted by cocoreo3[/QUOTE]
I agree, Coco. Every time I hear about something you are NOT supposed to eat during pregnancy, I wonder to myself wtf CAN you eat?
My first thought about the Subway thing was that the meat is processed and maybe it had something to do with that.
Pink - I agree. I am a picky eater, but turkey sandwiches are one of my favorite things.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cranky, not dealing with this well. : Are you allowed to do anything while you're pregnant? It seems like everything is a no-no.
Posted by cocoreo3[/QUOTE]
Based on my pregnant friends, it's pretty much organic homemade everything.
Though I think the lunchmeat risk is fairly low. If you eat it now and then, you aren't likely to have any issues, but 3 times a week is pretty nuts.
Reason #563 why I'm never having kids.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cranky, not dealing with this well. : Are you allowed to do anything while you're pregnant? It seems like everything is a no-no.
Posted by cocoreo3[/QUOTE]
Actually, a lot of the things you hear that you can't do when you're pregnant are perfectly fine. For some reason people think seafood is a huge risk. Seafood is fine, you shouldn't have high mercury seafood more than once a week, but who do you know who eats shark, yellow-fin tuna, and the like more than once a week? Exercise is fine, caffeine is fine in moderation, some doctors are even saying an occasional glass of wine in your 3rd tri is fine. Most of the stuff you can't have when you're pregnant is bad for you anyway. Processed deli meat is terrible for you, pregnant or not.
I don't mind if people do their research and decide for themselves that this food or that food isn't high enough of a risk to warrant worry, just like parents have to make many decisions (circumcision, disposable or cloth diapers, breast-feed or formula). What does bother me is not doing any research at all. If you're preg or TTC you should at least be aware of concerns like that, and then you can read the research yourself and make an educated decision.
On a serious note, she sounds like a gem announcing her pregnancy in front of those cousins. And ditto about her announcing already, there's a reason many people wait until the first trimester.
Hang in there and just realize that she only affects you if you let her. The worst part is the "When are YOU going to have kids?" crap you will undoubtedly start to hear more often. Just tip your nose a tiny bit higher in the air and smile sweetly and resond with how responsible you are being as a parent, planning and saving for the baby, unlike others who just jumped right in and started stealing fruit off the holiday table.
[QUOTE]She sucks. You're going to be an awesome mommy one day. You'll be 100x more prepared and educated.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
I just saw this. Thanks, MNIN, that means a lot to me!