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  • jcg98jcg98 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_im-actually-not-marriedvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:0ad6ec42-da5c-4c7e-a07b-a1664a621965Post:65ea060c-b1e9-4e77-aa01-9a106912127c">Re: So I''m actually not married...VENT</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: So I''m actually not married...VENT :  HA! Also, what I was told by my officiant that as far as 6mos before the wedding we can actually start the application process and it would be all set until your actual day. The place where you get the license from would hold it for you until then,<strong> She said it's kind of an unwritten rule, but a good way to get ahead of the game.</strong> Anyone heard about this?
    Posted by Phoenixashes[/QUOTE]

    I would avoid any "unwritten rules" when it comes to municipal bureaucracies.  I would wait until a month before your wedding on this one, your license is only valid for 30 days.
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  • rlavachrlavach member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_im-actually-not-marriedvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:0ad6ec42-da5c-4c7e-a07b-a1664a621965Post:d33ee573-33a8-48f2-8501-56418401cfbb">Re: So I''m actually not married...VENT</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: So I''m actually not married...VENT : I would avoid any "unwritten rules" when it comes to municipal bureaucracies.  I would wait until a month before your wedding on this one, your license is only valid for 30 days.
    Posted by jcg98[/QUOTE]
    I think what he meant was that your application for license is valid for 6 months, but the actual license isn't.<div>
    </div><div><p style="font-size:13px;font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;color:#000000;line-height:normal;background-color:#ffffff;"><strong class="burg13bold" style="font-size:10pt;font-weight:bold;color:#990000;">After you apply:</strong></p><p style="font-size:13px;font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;color:#000000;line-height:normal;background-color:#ffffff;">There is a 72-hour waiting period before the license is issued. The waiting period begins when the application is filed with the Local Registrar. There is no 72 hour waiting period for a remarriage; however, you must bring a certified copy of your existing marriage.</p><p style="font-size:13px;font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;color:#000000;line-height:normal;background-color:#ffffff;">The marriage license application is valid for six months from the date accepted, unless the Registrar has given prior approval to extend the validity of the application to a maximum of one year.</p><p style="font-size:13px;font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;color:#000000;line-height:normal;background-color:#ffffff;">Only one marriage license may be granted from a marriage application. If the license expires before being used, a new application must be made and another $28 fee remitted.</p><p style="font-size:13px;font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;color:#000000;line-height:normal;background-color:#ffffff;">The only exception to this requirement is in the case where a civil and religious ceremony are to be performed on the same day. In this case, the Local Registrar will photocopy the marriage application, marking one “A” and one “B”, and issue the corresponding marriage licenses, marking them “A” and “B” as well. One copy will be used for the religious ceremony and the other for the civil ceremony.</p></div>

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  • cindyn9178cindyn9178 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_im-actually-not-marriedvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:0ad6ec42-da5c-4c7e-a07b-a1664a621965Post:a9af3e99-7591-48d8-99f4-d469b32afe61">Re: So I''m actually not married...VENT</a>:
    [QUOTE]So I don't want to hijack this thread, but I am a resident of NJ, but was married in NY- we applied for our license in NY (Poughkeepsie where we were married)- am I legally married?
    Posted by KWats2011[/QUOTE]

    Yes, you are legally married. This topic applies to those who live in NJ, but get married in a different town from where they live. Also, when you get a license, it is only valid in THAT state. So if you had gotten your license in NJ and then got married in New York, you would NOT be legally married.
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  • bereasonable2bereasonable2 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_im-actually-not-marriedvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:0ad6ec42-da5c-4c7e-a07b-a1664a621965Post:0e9c4e30-3f42-404a-aa52-1840740ef8f7">Re: So I''m actually not married...VENT</a>:
    [QUOTE]Bereasonable...I've got 2 things to say. Number 1...I'm not quite sure how a parking permit and a marriage license are similar.  She's went and asked HER town where she should go and THEY gave her wrong information.  It's not like she went to the town that she got married in and said "oh please let me file here...it's just SO much easier". Number 2..It was the fault of the town that all of this is happening!  She shouldn't have to reapply.  The people who told her where to apply are the ones who aided in breaking the law.  The fault of this falls competely on the town that gave her the wrong information to begin with and THEY should correct it.  Regardless of what that means. OP...I'm so sorry this happened.  Please keep us posted with everything.
    Posted by BttrSkoch0604[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Maybe a poor example on my part. Nonetheless, if the law says she needs to file in her hometown, there's no way anyone is going to bend any rules regardless of who's at fault. It's unfortunate that she was given the incorrect information to begin with. How would it look if the state just gives her a marriage license without the proper paperwork?</div><div>
    </div><div>So, YES, she should have to reapply because without that application, the state's not just going to bend and give her a marriage license.

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  • bereasonable2bereasonable2 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_im-actually-not-marriedvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:0ad6ec42-da5c-4c7e-a07b-a1664a621965Post:720edbb9-db9e-432c-8103-6c7366234b85">Re: So I''m actually not married...VENT</a>:
    [QUOTE]UPDATE- We had to reapply this morning in the town we live in, and we will be legally married on Monday the 12th. Now we are fighting the city of Little Ferry to refund us the $28 fee to apply for a license that wasn't valid. Also they charged me $30 for 2 copies of a marriage certificate that isn't valid.
    Posted by TwoByTwilight[/QUOTE]

    <div>Now this I totally understand. I hope those bitches give you your money back. It's really the least they can do for giving you the wrong information and wasting your time.</div>
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  • sharstinsharstin
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    edited December 2011
    It looks like there may be some changes to these rules coming up.....

    http://www.courierpostonline.com/article/20111213/NEWS01/312130023/Assembly-panel-advances-two-wedding-bills

    Either way, I hope the the local admins dispensing this information get better informed of the rules so that this kind of thing doesn't continue to happen as often.
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  • cindyn9178cindyn9178 member
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    edited December 2011

    From that article, I'm not really sure how this makes any difference:

    "Greenwald’s measure also would allow state residents to apply for a license in the town where the ceremony is to be performed. The law currently requires New Jersey couples to apply in a municipality “where either applicant resides, making it less convenient” to hold beach ceremonies and other destination weddings, Greenwald said in a statement."

    Wouldn't it be the reverse of this? If you are having a beach wedding, but live 2 hours away from the beach, you'd then need to travel 2 hours to that town to apply for the license.

    If only one of you lives in NJ, the other person would still need to travel here to apply for the license, regardless of which town the application is done in. 

    The Military proxy things makes sense, but for the rest of us, this seems like it would be more of an inconvenience than anything. Unless of course they give everybody the option of where they want to apply - hometown or ceremony town.

    Am I missing something here?
     

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  • DeidresmilesDeidresmiles member
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    oh thats so strange! gosh, i'm so thankful for the knot explaining this. NJ has different rules than other places. I'm not from here originally but I guess now I know.
    At least its only a legal issue girl, and thanks for telling all of us : )
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