MOH planning on bringing her 1 year old to wedding

LucyD1029 · August 2009

This post keeps getting stranger and stranger. FWIW, I couldn't imagine my wedding day without my stepson present. To each his own, but I would never choose "black tie optional" over my family. Also, your MOH is about to give birth to a baby she didn't know she was having until 3 months ago, and you're the one freaking out?

ErinMike2 · August 2009

kebmtm071605- There is another option, the babys father. It is not the brides responsibility to find a babysitter for the MOH, the baby is her and her boyfriends responsibility. She already has a babysitter and he will just be sitting at home. Mara may have come across mean but I'm sure its just because she is aggravated and venting where us brides are supposed to vent and ask for suggestions, the knot boards. This should be a place where we can vent and ask for suggestions not be criticized.

ErinMike2 · August 2009

Sorry my posts are coming out bold, not really sure why that is happening

Ainslie325 · August 2009

ErinMike, That's just it! It's not for us to say, as brides, whether something is or is not an option for our wedding guests, especially when it comes to the way they parent their children. There are numerous reasons why she might not see this as an option at this point-- most of all because she's nine months pregnant and doesn't know what the situation will be for her/child/family in a year. Neither the OP nor any of we who've responded has any idea why this might not be a viable option for her MOH. Also, I think the fact that the original post was presented (asking for advice) brings a different set of responses than those posts titled "Just Need to Vent," or similar. We felt like honest advice was being solicited, but you're right-- as this has wound up, it does seem more like a bride-to-be who wanted to vent. I guess neither she nor we got the response we were looking for!

hapark11 · August 2009

This should be a place where we can vent and ask for suggestions not be criticized. The original post asks for advice. If original poster can't handle objective advice, original poster shouldn't be asking for it. If you want someone to rub your back and tell you it's totally ok to be a bridezilla b/c it's 'your special day' then it's probably best to talk to your mother.

Scarlet856 · August 2009

Hapark, I totally agree with you. Well said. No sugarcoating here. I wonder what responses she would have gotten on P & E!???

ErinMike2 · August 2009

Yes asking for advice for asking to be told if they were her MOH they would have dropped out or telling her she is selfish or mean

evseidl · August 2009

those girls would have torn her a new one. Best to keep this on this board.

Ainslie325 · August 2009

Come on, ErinMike! You're ignoring all of the constructive responses, too? I agree that sometimes posts can devolve into personal attacks (not a good thing), but I would suggest that the reason for this (in general) is the attitude with which the OP rebuffed the more constructive posts.

Scarlet856 · August 2009

Evseidl, Oh without a doubt she shouldn't post there! I was just saying is she thinks that we were mean ...

jenwindy · August 2009

This thread really sparked some debate...I've got nothing to add.

hapark11 · August 2009

Yes asking for advice for asking to be told if they were her MOH they would have dropped out or telling her she is selfish or mean Commas and periods are oftentimes helpful when trying to decipher posts.

evseidl · August 2009

right on scarlet.

those girls are awesome and not afraid to voice ideas and opinions. on second thought-- if Mara wants some really good advice (i'm talking about people to actually mediate the conversation between her and the MOH), then P&E is a perfect place.

foolforfood · August 2009

hapark - game.set.match. jenwindy - YGM!

hapark11 · August 2009

Ainslie, your posts in these sorts of threads are always so wise and collected. You are like the mama bear...or something

That's a compliment, in case it doesn't come off that way!

Scarlet856 · August 2009

Now that's a post that I would love to see!

erilouboston · August 2009

Evs - It's all a smoke and mirrors little lady - I'm really a pessimist

I think Mara stopped reading this post 40 responses ago, which is a shame because I really feel there is some helpful advice on here. I think there is a line between being strong in your opinion and what you want and being a bridezilla - and it's a hard line to walk and not cross (some might say a "tightrope" - Ok, ok, only Evs will think that's funny). I don't necessarily thing she's being a bridezilla - but I do think there is background information here that we just aren't party to.

erilouboston · August 2009

Agree with with PP about Ainslie's posts - very insightful and well written, Mama Bear... hehe...

Ainslie325 · August 2009

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evseidl · August 2009

My cube-mates at work are raising eyebrows over my giggles from reading the "tightrope" comment.

evseidl · August 2009

Ainslie... will you be my new mommy?

You're posts are always perfectly placed.

erilouboston · August 2009

Thank goodness I am alone in my office today. Just snorted out loud when I saw the elephant walking the tightrope... my eyes are tearing up... Ainslie - LOVE the Mama Bear - I used to love those books as a kid! Wow... we've really gone off in a tangent here girls.

Ainslie325 · August 2009

Yes, but you're not coming to my reception. We already over our number and my Mom couldn't handle the last minute addition of an adopted adult child. (-:

Mara Tascione · August 2009

I acutally have read everyone responses. I did ask for advice and that's what I got. I appreciate everyone spending so much time putting in input. I'm not trying to ruin a friendship. Yes there's a lot of background that doesn't really involve the initial issue. My fiance has made a choice not to keep his son up till midnight. That is his personal choice. I'll offer to get babysitter for MOH and tell her the situation. My MOH actually told me to respect my fiance choice of about children. Before she was pregnant she was in agreement that it was fine to have no kids. It looks like I'm one of a few who choose to not have kids at the wedding. Its a whole year away so I'll let the cards fall. I've learned I should say I'm venting so that my emotion does not get in the way of my question. Thank you all.

Ainslie325 · August 2009

Well, grandchild for her, I guess.

erilouboston · August 2009

Ainslie - that's just what you need though, an adopted adult child with a shoe fetish and letterpress

JK, love you Evs!

Ainslie325 · August 2009

Mara- well done! Not so much on your decision (even though I personally think it's a good one), but on the tone of your response. Good for you. I'm glad that something in here was helpful, and that you weren't turned off entirely.

hapark11 · August 2009

I'd kill for an adopted adult child with a letterpress

ErinMike2 · August 2009

Like I said she may have come across as mean but nothing in your wedding planning has made you aggravated and maybe said something you didnt mean. I do agree with very few of the criticism but I just don't think people should jump on her so much.It is not her decision what people do when it comes to thier children but it is her decision who she invites to her wedding and what the age limit is

evseidl · August 2009

I'm up for grabs to the highest bidding mommy. a few considerations: 1. must love to clean2. feed me when i'm not in my cage3. provide me with as many new shoes as possible-- i especially love the impractical ones. I may be staying in the orphanage a bit longer than expected with those requests...hahaand Mara: just read your response. Good for you on the response. I hope this works out for you and the whole wedding crew!

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