Kind of hurt...am i being overly sensitive?

greenbean79 · August 2009

I'm not asking her to compromise her morals...i know her well enough to know that it's more of a discomfort thing than religious/moral. Either way, no i wouldn't make her do something she didnt want which i'm not doing...like i said, WP dance is gone. What i am bothered by though is she keeps complaining about things (pictures, bridal shower, how long the day is going to be , etc etc)...i sincerely think the 'i'm not dancing with a guy' line is just an excuse to get out of being a BM. She's danced at clubs before with guys, but again, that's not the point. So i might just tell her that if she's uncomfortable with being in the wedding in general, she doesnt have to be in it. yes it's a long day, it's tiring for everyone, pictures aren't always fun to take ... but i honestly believe that someone who cares about you would do this one day out of their life (it's a wedding for Godsake...half the time they're sitting at a table eating).

greenbean79 · August 2009

Sorry , i really fail to see where I was at all rude.

bablingbrooke · August 2009

kristen, I'm very easy to get along with. I'm doing you a favor; few people will take you seriously if you make up big words like that.

bablingbrooke · August 2009

Oh and it's "grammar" not "grammer".

jenni2349 · August 2009

In the end, should friend #2 drop out of the WP, she is actually doing you a favor. If she is complaining now about every little thing (length of day, etc) imagine how much more it will get on your nerves as your wedding day gets closer. Put on your big girl pants and move on. If she isn't ready or willing to make changes in her personal beliefs or behavior, so be it. Yes, maybe you would do anythng if it was her wedding, but its your's and sadly, she isn't you. Hopefully, after all is said and done, you can still have a quasi-friendship. Feel disappointed, sure, but I'd let it go.

greenbean79 · August 2009

Stagemanager - when others are being 'snippy' i have all the right to be 'snippy' right back. Especially when I see comments like this response to Kristen's post:That is the absolute WRONG attitude to have. And it's "supposedly", not "supposively". Makes me question the true intent of some of the people who post on here

bablingbrooke · August 2009

My true intent is to whack sense into girls like her who think the world must fall to their feet just because she got a ring on her finger. It's terrible to think that you should put your friends through things you know they'll hate just because you think they will just go with it. It's a terrible attitude to have. Who thinks like that?

greenbean79 · August 2009

My preference is that NOBODY be snippy. Remember the rules of rudeness: you don't repay it in kind, or you are guilty of the same.I still don't see where I was at all rude, but i can point out areas where others were. We're getting too many complaints about this board. I don't frequent these boards too much, but if you are getting complaints, there must valid reasons for them.Please remember that we're here to help.There is a way to help people without pointing out typo's, name calling, etc. Some users are respectful but direct (even if they disagreed with my point of view) and i am grateful and thankful for their advice, but many others are disrespectful and condescending in their responses. I don't know if everyone's intention here is sincere. How is pointing out spelling/grammar errors helping anyone?In this instance, the OP got good advice, but chose to take issue with it. I was expressing my opinion in response to the posts i was getting. I don't see how I was rude at all. It seems like it's ok for frequent users of these boards to express their opinions, rude or not, while newbies expected to censor themselves.

bablingbrooke · August 2009

greenbean, you got advice and now you're having a meltdown. You won't change the character of this board; many have tried, none have succeeded. Retread is the moderator and is very good about policing things that go beyond what is appropriate and will delete posts that violate the terms of the board. Spelling and grammar are very important. It bothers me and many others on this board that people think that when you go online you get to check those two things at the door. Very few people take you seriously if you write that way. The other poster's writing style and ugly attitude toward her friends provoked a response from many people, not just me, and you will notice that on threads where people type like 12 year olds they get corrected, not just by me. So ease up.

greenbean79 · August 2009

I still don't understand where I was being rude and why I am being accused of being rude, while frequent users are allowed to express themselves in any way they like (rude or not).Also, everyone makes a typo now and then. If you criticize people for that, you're not going to have many using these boards. Just my advice.

bablingbrooke · August 2009

Thanks for the advice, but I've been posting here regularly for over a year. And it wasn't a typo, she was using a word that didn't exist.

banana468 · August 2009

Thanks for chiming in Retread. I had no free time today. :-(Please remember that when you say things like, "I have to do this because I've been provoked," it makes it sound as if it's acceptable to be rude/curt in response if you feel provoked.Unfortunately that will only provoke others and what can be a constructive thread will turn into name calling fast.

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