Hi,I just felt I had to speak up to the regulars particularly on the wedding party board. The advice you guys give is crummy and quite frankly, mean. It makes brides feel like bitches no matter what they do and that's not fair. Here are my thoughts #1 Asking a bridesmaid to step down is not necessarily a friendship ending move, and if what you guys say is true that all they do is show up with the dress on the wedding day, then being kicked out shouldn't be the end of the world to them. Sometimes they just aren't the friends the bride thought or they just aren't compatible in this specific situationa and you shouldn't ask a poor bride to put up with being unhappy just because you guys say she can't change her wedding party once she's chosen it. As long as she isn't being hurtful to her weddingparty and does any changes in a respectful way with legitimate concerns, there is nothing wrong with this if her weddingparty isn't up to snuff.Which brings me to my next point:#2 A bridesmaid does more than just show up on the day of with a dress, again if this weren't the case then you guys wouldn't preach about how they aren't just roles to be filled and that you can't replace them on a whim. They are the bride's best friends, and therefore should be wanting to be there for the bride- they should be supportive and encouraging, they should see their role as important and yes, take it SERIOUSLY. The bride can't tell them to be there for her, but if they aren't being there for her, she has a reason to feel hurt. They should be helping her because they WANT to- she is their friend.and to my next point #3 there are things less ridicoulous then complete betrayal or a psychotic bridesmaid which warrants kicking a girl out. Sometimes friendships seem like one way on the outside, but when you are asked to be a little selfless, you really see people's true colours and how they feel about you. An unaccommodating bridesmaid could be a sign that the friendship is not as strong as the bride thought and only the bride can know this- you can't constantly give the stock answer that almost nothing warrants kicking a bridesmaid out.#4 You HAVE to replace a MOH. YOu must have someone sign the license/registry and therefore, if your MOH bows out or you kick her out - you MUST promote someone or legally you're not married. By definition, the MOH signs the register. That's the biggest reason she's the HONOR attendantand last #5 This whole street goes both ways- you guys always tell brides to consider the BMs feelings, that she may be overwhelming them, hurting them, blah blah blah- what about the bride??? Sometimes there are brides who are just asking for a little help, and if their FRIEND is not willing to help out then maybe she has a right to be upset. The bride may have been there for her BMs wedding or maybe did some great things for this girl, or thought they had a close relationship and that she'd be there for her when she needed her. This more than just wearing a dress on the day of the wedding.Just my two cents. I think you guys need to stop giving your angry stock answers to every bride who might be having problems with her WP. This makes girls in wedding parties resentful when the brides asks them to do ANTYHING- which isn't fair, because you agreed to be in the BRIDE'S wedding (not their own) and unless the bride is torturing, embaressing or hurting a bridesmaid, they should be supportive and go along with the bride's decisions. All this is of course within reason- I'm certainly not saying that all requests are reasonable, but I am saying that bridesmaids need to be accommodating and the trend I'm noticing is that bridesmaid are becoming resentful and unhelpful not because brides are more demanding - hell, BMs have been doing showers for DECADES- it's because they feel a sense of need to control things as the media and YOU KNOTTIES have struck the fear of "bridezillas" in them so that any request seems like the bride is wanting too much.