My mother is driving me crazy. So way back when we started planning the wedding, we fell in love with our venue and decided that we'd find other ways to cut back if it meant that we could have the place. One way we talked about cutting back was doing a pot luck reception but I decided I really wanted to at least have the main course catered and then we could do apps and things in a pot luck fashion. My aunt (on my dad's side) is in the food service industry and has catered a few events in her time and she said she could help me with the catering. I told her my food budget for 100 people including all the serving dishes and any outside help she might have to hire would be $1500. When we first started planning, my mom volunteered a significant financial contribution. She is very frugal and cost conscious so she obviously wanted to know exactly where the money was going. Totally reasonable. I made sure that the food was not an area that her money would be going toward because she was very adamant that a pot luck reception was a way better idea than hiring someone to cater, even if that someone was my aunt. Well now that we're getting down to the wire, I had to give my aunt the money for the food order and she actually came in about $500 under budget. I was thrilled. Then my mom gets involved and tells me that I was absolutely insane to give her a $1500 budget and that she wants to know exactly where every cent of the money was being spent. I told her to leave it alone please and just let my aunt do her thing, but she said she didn't think it was unreasonable for her to just ask my aunt for a breakdown of exactly what food/equipment is being ordered/rented and the cost of each thing. Fine I said.Today I get an email from my aunt basically scolding me for not communicating better with my mother who apparently went to her this morning and not only asked for a detailed list of all the costs associated with the catering but also asked her to change things and omit things that she thinks are unnecessary (like she thought we didn't need both rice and potato, and she wanted to not have my aunt make a vegetarian course and instead ask her sister to make a vegetarian lasagna). I'm so unimpressed. I've told my mother a thousand times to leave well enough alone and she just can't. And yet I feel bad getting upset at her when it's just a huge part of who she is to be frugal and try to save money. Especially since she's contributed so much to this wedding financially, I don't want to upset or offend her, but I'm so grateful to my aunt for offering to cater this for me that I don't want to upset or offend her either. Can it just be Sept. 12th already? I'm so excited for this wedding, but I'm over the planning.