Memory Candle question

Re: Memory Candle question

• Leah&Christian09 member

  

  September 2009

  Wait until 3-6 months before the wedding. This is still really raw for your FI, and he's not going to be ok to really think about his friend and the wedding yet. As you get closer, and he's had another year or so to heal, bring it up with your FI and see how he's like to handle it. We did one for my brother at the ceremony. It was on a small table in the church in front of the unity candle. My mom lit it when she lit the unity candle. If he had a spouse or sibling that will be on the guest list, maybe you could have that person come up and light it at the beginning of the ceremony before the mothers are seated.

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• RandiKay1226

  

  September 2009

  We are going to have his daughter as our flower girl she will be about 3 by then. I was thinking of maybe having her light it (with the help of an adult obviously) but im not sure.... Its just hard because you know he was always supposed to be his best man and now that can't happen so when we talk about who we are picking for brides maids and the ppl he wants to pick he just can't think of anybody... idk what to do.

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• ffmaid

  

  September 2009

  Wait at least a year and then let FI decide what if anything he wants done. Not your friend and not your choice and not a choice that should be made until much closer as pain heals

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