I have been reading alot on here about cash bars being "rude" or against proper etiquette... I am having a Semi- Open bar...We are providing Sodas, juice, Water Wine, Beer and Champagne for the toast...If they want mix drinks or shots of anything it is on them. Is it rude to expect guests to pay for the mixers and shots? My Fiancee and I are working on a budget and paying for the wedding ourselves... I never thought a cash bar would be considered rude, until I read it on here.... (I mean unless you also had to pay for soda, water and juice). I also should add we have 1 or 2 people that are immediate family that are alcoholics and as well as 17 children between 17-2 yrs old- We want to be proper hosts but also want to moniter how much certain attendees drink.