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I'm curious to know what bothers you most of all when it comes to weddings. A certain tradition, breach of etiquette, commonly used phrase, whatever. If you could narrow it down to one or two pet-est peeves... what are yours? 

I'd say mine is the phrase "my/her/your special day". First of all, there is another person in this marriage called a "groom", so it should be "our special day". Second of all, there are many many MANY special days in one's life. Births, graduations, promotions, etc. It's used too often as an excuse to get away with bad behavior. You know? 

My runner up would easily be having a personal attendant. From personal experience. (Not that I had a PA - I was a PA.)
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    Jager1219Jager1219 member
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    My cousin invited me and the family to her wedding.  Even though I haven't lived at home for over 5 years, 1 invite went to my parents house inviting them, me and my sisters (my FI - BF at the time wasn't invited).  It wasn't so much that he wasn't invited that POed me, it's that she never sent ME an invite.  And to futher it.  I gave her a separate gift from my parents.  1 thank you note went to their house...6 months later.
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    I totally second the "my special day" crap. My fMIL is like that. "Do whatever you want, it's YOUR day"... I'm like... what about your son?

    Another is people who assume they're invited. Maybe it was my fault for telling everyone that walked past me that I got engaged for the first week or so. But then everyone says "Oh, when is the wedding?" And I say "In May." Then I get "okay, I'll have to see what I can do. Try to get a day off. Etc"

    Um what.


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    Improperly hosting guests in any way, particularly by not providing enough seating.

    I can get over PPDs, Blists, Cash Bars, just about anything (even though they are still wrong and awful), except causing physical discomfot to a guest.
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    Mine is odd...

    Rehearsal dinners that occur two nights before the wedding.  Like, the wedding is on Saturday, but the rehearsal is on Thursday night.  This has happened to me a few times and I'm just like, "Do you have any problem solving skills??  I don't care that someone is in your venue the night before!  We can rehearse anywhere!  Your need to make sure I can walk down the aisle properly does not mean I should take more time off work, especially for me to do nothing on Friday.  Be more respectful of everyone's time."

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:60b9c2fa-134e-4f67-b827-22dbcd1526a1">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]Mine is odd... Rehearsal dinners that occur two nights before the wedding.  Like, the wedding is on Saturday, but the rehearsal is on Thursday night.  This has happened to me a few times and I'm just like, "Do you have any problem solving skills??  I don't care that someone is in your venue the night before!  We had rehearse anywhere!  Your need to make sure I can walk down the aisle properly does not mean I should take more time off work, especially for me to do nothing on Friday.  Be more respectful of everyone's time."
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
    Wow - people do this?  That's bad.
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    Huh.  I've never been caught without a drink during dinner, mostly because it was announced.  Sorry you don't like it, but I think it's actually a really cost-effective option, but it should be made known to the guests.

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    A personal attendant is a consolation title given to people not good enough to be BMs, but good enough to hang out while they get ready and fetch water bottles and such.

    ETA: That's my understanding of it anyway. I was called a PA (or maybe an Honor Attendant? I can't remember now) once, but I didn't do anything slavish like the title usually means around TK. I got ready with the other girls, and was given a corsage. I didn't want to be a BM and process in/stand up front for that long.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:81b31ce5-ade2-412b-b0e8-37296bf4c7b7">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have never heard of a personal attendant before I joined TK... can someone explain what it is?!  It sounds ludicrous.  My biggest pet peeve is when people try to tell me to do something I know is rude.  Like a HM registry or a charity donation favor.  I've had to put the kibosh on a lot of things so far that just make me c0ck my head to the side like a little confused dog. When I'm at a wedding, <strong>my biggest pet peeve is when people shut down the bar for dinner.</strong>  I know it's a cost effective thing, but it's usually without warning and then no one has anything to drink while they eat, and then everyone just complains during that hour.  I do NOT want to be that bride that's talked about all night! eta: c0ck is a verb so why the H is it censored.  dumb.
    Posted by mrskaiser22[/QUOTE]
    The only way I've seen this work is when a - they have wine at the table or b - they close it for 15-30 min when introductions/first dance are done.  Then it's opened again for dinner service.  When it's done that way I usually don't notice that it's closed because I'm distracted.
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    In Response to Re:Wedding peeves:[QUOTE]Mine is odd...Rehearsal dinners that occur two nights before the wedding.nbsp; Like, the wedding is on Saturday, but the rehearsal is on Thursday night.nbsp; This has happened to me a few times and I'm just like, "Do you have any problem solving skills??nbsp; I don't care that someone is in your venue the night before!nbsp; We can rehearse anywhere!nbsp; Your need to make sure I can walk down the aisle properly does not mean I should take more time off work, especially for me to do nothing on Friday.nbsp; Be more respectful of everyone's time." Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

    I did mine two days before because it was easier on everyone. Then again, I got married on a Tuesday. So the rehearsal was Sunday night.
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    Oh where to start! 

    Insisting on a wedding when the couple can't afford to pay their bills!  Yes my best friend is getting married in August, planning the wedding, and he constantly is telling me "oh this person is suing me, I am about to lose my truck".  Makes no sense. 

    Gifts- I hate registries.  I have never gotten anyone a gift off the registry.  I never give cash.  I always give something unreturnable as well!  Kinda icky to pick your own presents! 

    People who are bitter about parents not giving money to help.  Uh-Your party, you pay for it!  I have two kids, I will NOT pay anything to a wedding.  I will however make a sizeable donation to their first home.  Lasts a LOT longer than one dang day!

    The whole wedding industry- This is why I think weddings are a waste of money. It's one day.  Spending a ton of money on a party doesn't make a couples wedding day more special than a couple who goes to the JOP.   Every vendor we have been to, the price is jacked up at least 20% just mentioning the word "wedding".

    However-with the whole planning, I have put on a smile for FH, while inside I am saying "all this money would be better served by making a donation to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society".  Smile

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:6437c55d-e821-4865-b77f-84ee44e0719d">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]Huh.  I've never been caught without a drink during dinner, mostly because it was announced.  Sorry you don't like it, but I think it's actually a really cost-effective option, but it should be made known to the guests.
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE
    Usually there's a reason it's not announced.  We're closing the bar 30 min before the end, but they bartenders can't annouce last call because then it encourages people to drink more (duh).  So if we did that, then our venue charges us extra.  Same with champagne toast at the table (they have to buy more bottles than normal).
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:2e7d7a30-92a5-49c3-8421-a991d72444ed">Re:Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Wedding peeves: I did mine two days before because it was easier on everyone. Then again, I got married on a Tuesday. So the rehearsal was Sunday night.
    Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

    If it's easier for everyone, that's one thing.

    But, when you're told that's what's happening, screw your schedule, take more time off for MYYYY wedding, then I have a problem.

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    Not letting girls pick their own BM dresses (Yes I totally understand the bride gets the final say but 9 times out of 10 is THEIR OWN money that they are spending. Why not let them get something they like.) Along the same lines... making them wear a specific or matching shoes. Who gives a damn whats on their feet?

    Brides who make their wedding party do a spotlight dance. (AKWARD - especially if someone in the WP has a SO amongst the crowd.)

    Ohhh and Pinterest. It gives me the most giant headache in the world. Yes some of the ideas are cute but honestly all those wonderful DIY projects on there you're not even going to get to see/enjoy on your wedding day and your guests probably won't remember them.  I'm getting married in the fall and there are all these pictures of women carving their initials into pumpkins. WTH? Yes- bc I really want to be carving pumpkins three days before my wedding. I care about the food, the music, my dress and marrying the man I love and celebrating with my family and friends!  (and I might are a tiny bit about the liqour to.)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:59750e02-a0a1-4386-bf23-d577965e096e">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding peeves : [QUOTE]Huh.  I've never been caught without a drink during dinner, mostly because it was announced.  Sorry you don't like it, but I think it's actually a really cost-effective option, but it should be made known to the guests. Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE Usually there's a reason it's not announced.  We're closing the bar 30 min before the end, but they bartenders can't annouce last call because then it encourages people to drink more (duh).  So if we did that, then our venue charges us extra.  Same with champagne toast at the table (they have to buy more bottles than normal).
    Posted by Jager1219[/QUOTE]

    Venues really do nickel and dime you for eeeeevertying, huh?

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    Cloned BM's.  Nothing says bridezilla to me like same dress, same shoes, same hair, same jewelry.  I get where the tradition comes from.  I know that for several generations BM's matched.  It wasn't considerate then and it isn't know.  I don't care what you think, there is NO dress that flatters a size 2 and a size 22.  And as a bigger girl myself, don't you dare tell me an empire waist flatters me.  It makes me look pregnant.

    I find a bit of joy in watching the girls come down the aisle looking like individuals.  My first thought is that the bride was courteous and thoughtful and a good friend to her attendants.  When my nephew got married a couple of years ago his wife told her girls to get black, short dresses.  The incredibly pregnant BM glowed as much as everyone else did because her comfort and body were a top consideration.

    If it is just matching dresses I can get over it if it flatters everyone, but I have seen so many weddings where there is one BM who is built differently than the other BMs and she looks miserable because she knows her dress looks awful on her.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:f2e1254b-f9c6-4ee3-b5ca-546a6b3b5e16">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding peeves : We did it.  All of our WP was going to be here anyway and no one had to take off of work.  I have plenty of problem solving skills, and we actually DID have to be in our venue for the rehearsal since the entire point was to figure out how to position everyone so that they were comfortable and visible with a 150 year old wooden banister in the middle of the front of the church.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
    If people are already taking the day off, I'm all for it.  What I couldn't believe was what Joy described.  Wedding on a Sat. but WP needs to take off Thurs & Friday to travel & do the rehearsal Thurs. night.  I think that's really rude to the WP.
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    harper0813harper0813 member
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    I'm with Joy on the dinner bar issue. It's not only cost effective, some venues/caterers require it. My venue, which is catering, has to shut down the bar since it only does sitdown meals and they want to prevent accidents bargoing guests colliding with waitstaff. An alternative is having the waitstaff pour wine for dinner.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:7d6d6417-b380-4936-bbd3-b4429a2b2020">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding peeves : Venues really do nickel and dime you for eeeeevertying, huh?
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
    Oh yea.  And guess how much/person they were going to charge for it?  $15/person.
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    People who don't think they need to invite boyfriends or girlfriends/take it upon themselves to determine how long a couple must be together to constitute being their SO. Parents who force their kids to invite people they don't want to or don't really know. The chicken dance.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:b0bb1e2a-e161-4d2d-8ccb-7cf14e9dec1a">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]People who don't think they need to invite boyfriends or girlfriends/take it upon themselves to determine how long a couple must be together to constitute being their SO. Parents who force their kids to invite people they don't want to or don't really know<strong>. The chicken dance.
    </strong>Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

    Yeah I am trying to ban this. But my fiance has a HUGE polish family and apparently the music is some form of polka so I think I'm going to lose.

    LOL.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:96f0db28-bf15-425b-a2f0-ea2c4326196c">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh where to start!  Insisting on a wedding when the couple can't afford to pay their bills!  Yes my best friend is getting married in August, planning the wedding, and he constantly is telling me "oh this person is suing me, I am about to lose my truck".  Makes no sense.  Gifts- I hate registries.  I have never gotten anyone a gift off the registry.  I never give cash.  <strong>I always give something unreturnable as well! </strong> Kinda icky to pick your own presents!  People who are bitter about parents not giving money to help.  Uh-Your party, you pay for it!  I have two kids, I will NOT pay anything to a wedding.  I will however make a sizeable donation to their first home.  Lasts a LOT longer than one dang day! The whole wedding industry- This is why I think weddings are a waste of money. It's one day.  Spending a ton of money on a party doesn't make a couples wedding day more special than a couple who goes to the JOP.   Every vendor we have been to, the price is jacked up at least 20% just mentioning the word "wedding". However-with the whole planning, I have put on a smile for FH, while inside I am saying "all this money would be better served by making a donation to the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society". 
    Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]

    That seems kind of...intentionally mean. What if they get two of something? What if they legitimately don't need/want/have room for your gift? We were very grateful for all of our gifts, but there are only so many hot-pepper shaped quesadilla makers a house can hold.

    I disagree that registries are icky, but can see why they can be percieved that way. I think of it as more helpful to the guests that would like to get you something you would enjoy without all the guesswork.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:9f1f4084-48e8-4356-b88c-182f64ebf0d2">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding peeves : Wow, you're a peach.  You realize registries are done for the convenience of the GUESTS, right?  
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    This is just MY peeve.  My opinion of registries.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:96f0db28-bf15-425b-a2f0-ea2c4326196c">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]Gifts- I hate registries.  I have never gotten anyone a gift off the registry.  I never give cash.  I always give something unreturnable as well!  Kinda icky to pick your own presents
    Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]



    Ummm....what? That's kind of a crappy thing to do to people.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:be497924-ea7a-4455-a66f-ac8d56c9764b">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding peeves : This is just MY peeve.  My opinion of registries. 
    Posted by antibride2013[/QUOTE]
    I would take a guess that many of your gifts ended up at goodwill since they were unreturnable.  I got a bunch of gifts at our engagement party (clearly I hadn't registered yet) and I think I only kept 2 out of probably 10.
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    [QUOTE]Mine is odd... Rehearsal dinners that occur two nights before the wedding.  Like, the wedding is on Saturday, but the rehearsal is on Thursday night.  This has happened to me a few times and I'm just like, "Do you have any problem solving skills??  I don't care that someone is in your venue the night before!  We can rehearse anywhere!  Your need to make sure I can walk down the aisle properly does not mean I should take more time off work, especially for me to do nothing on Friday.  Be more respectful of everyone's time."
    Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

    Yup we're doing it cause mostly everyone in the WP is local and those who aren't are either SAHMs so no work issue or planned to come before Friday anyway.  Mostly though the church layout is very unique, elaborate catholic church and circular with multiple altars and it will be very easy to get confused for those who have never been inside.  It's my church and I would be confused too without being able to hold it there with instructions.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:3ca8a46f-e9a0-4de9-a6c8-8695e9a1d877">Re:Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Wedding peeves : I already said it's cost-effective.  I know how cost-effective it is.  I'm saying I hate when you have nothing to drink and no one said anything. Even a sign on the bar saying "Bar will be closed for one hour during dinner" would be great.  Then I can get myself a glass of wine and a glass of water and be all set.
    Posted by mrskaiser22[/QUOTE]

    <div>I'm not arguing with you - I'm just being part of a conversation. I agree that it's frustrating. That's why wine service with dinner is nice.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:eb281c6e-1c21-4197-b622-2732f8160bc1">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]A personal attendant is a consolation title given to people not good enough to be BMs, but good enough to hang out while they get ready and fetch water bottles and such. ETA: That's my understanding of it anyway. I was called a PA (or maybe an Honor Attendant? I can't remember now) once, but I didn't do anything slavish like the title usually means around TK. I got ready with the other girls, and was given a corsage. I didn't want to be a BM and process in/stand up front for that long.
    Posted by bunni727[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>When I was a PA, I wasn't even good enough to hang out. I was only good enough to drop off their bouquets and be sent off with a little sandwich so I could set up the ceremony and reception sites. I wasn't invited to the rehearsal dinner, either - even though I had traveled 6 hours to attend the wedding.</div><div>
    </div><div>I know some people don't like the role of usher, either. I guess personal attendant for a girl is usher for a guy. Not good enough to be in the party.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:1fe3f62e-90c8-4e1b-89f0-30a8b943df17">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding peeves : True.  But that is not doing the RD 2 days beforehand that is the issue.  It's a selfish inconsiderate couple who puts their wants over their WP's comfort and convenience.  
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
    Bingo.  Sorry if I wasn't clear before.
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    Jager1219Jager1219 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:c2a383c9-0baa-46e5-a53b-97e225253fb0">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding peeves : Yeah I am trying to ban this. But my fiance has a HUGE polish family and apparently the music is some form of polka so I think I'm going to lose. LOL.
    Posted by SJM7538[/QUOTE]
    I'm Polish & we have to do a polka (even though only my parents know it/will dance to it).  So our band is playing one, but it's not the chicken dance.
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    antibride2013antibride2013 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_wedding-pet-peeves-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a8d092ac-c63a-4a3d-a0b2-c62befd68f05Post:4d258caa-abb9-453f-9029-e2da7626f8c9">Re: Wedding peeves</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding peeves : Ummm....what? That's kind of a crappy thing to do to people.
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

    No, No!  All the weddings I have attended, I have know the couple very well.  I usually get the couple a picture frame from Tiffany's (no one registers at Tiffany's), and get it engraved with their names and wedding date.  It is NOT a mean or crappy thing.  I wouldn't do that! 
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