So... In a previous post, I explained that my mom and sister are throwing me a bridal shower, and are inviting all of my mom's cousins, and family friends, and even their friends that I'm not so close with. Because we're having a "destination wedding" in Hawaii (which, is where we reside) and because we are paying for it ourselves, we can't invite everyone to the actual wedding. I know most everyone says its a no-no to invite people to the shower, if they're not invited to the wedding. I feel like most people should understand that we simply cannot invite everyone because we just don't have the money and that we're already over out set budget. But I'm also sure some people would be offended. However, the problem is... my mom and sister already bought the invitations that say "bridal shower"... so we can't say its a engagement party or a luncheon. My sister said its my fault because we're the ones paying for the wedding, and because I'm the one who's not inviting these people. She said that I should explain that everyone isn't invited to the wedding at the shower. But to me- I couldn't care less if the people who aren't coming to the wedding come to the shower or not. But mom and sis are set on the guestlist and think that people would be offended not to be invited to either. What do I do? I don't want to feel awkward at my own wedding! My sis is including our registry in the card- should I add something to say that gifts are optional since we can't invite everyone? Or invite the rest, hoping they don't come (mom says they won't)- but I'm scared that they will, and my fiance would kill me. Ugh. Sorry so long. I need advice.