Am I just being bitter?!?!

tlv204 · September 2009

I have been a VERY calm bride until this point.I don't believe you. At all.

mandysmear · September 2009

Wow. You take things so personally.This:i want to scream at all of them and tell them fine..DONT EXPECT ME WHEN YOU GET MARRIED! Reminds me of when I was in grade 2 and people couldn't make it to my birthday, so I was like "FINE! I WON'T GO TO YOUR BIRTHDAY EITHER!" Oh no, wait I didn't react that way because even at the age of 8 I knew that would be childish.PS. Having a kid is probably the biggest committment of your life, if of course you plan on having them. You can divorce a spouse, but you can't divorce a child. YWIA.

BecW2be · September 2009

Yes.

sunflower1998 · September 2009

With all due respect (and there shouldn't be much of that at all), you implied that you will be getting even for their inability to attend by saying "dont expect me when you get married."Grow up.

mrsLesGrossman · September 2009

You asked if you were being bitter, yes you are. There has to be a reason why people are saying no. Reevaluate your plans and stop trying to get validation.

eastunder1 · September 2009

I get being terribly hurt and disappointed. All the standard canned P&E answers aside (vomit), it would seriously suck if none of my friends could be bothered to find a few hours to come to a shower or bach party for me and it would really hurt my feelings. These are your closest friends. Wouldn't they at least try to make it? I hate showers with a burning passion, but I attend those for my good friends because thats what one does. They suck it up, eat their cake and support their friend. Of course everyone has their own lives, but imagine how totally unimportant you would feel to your friends every single one of them blew off a party in your honor. That being said, your handling of it is pretty bunny boiler. Maybe chill out a bit. Work through the hurt instead of acting like a psycho, hmmm?

vicmo5 · September 2009

Boohoo.

redheadfsu · September 2009

you said, "DONT EXPECT ME WHEN YOU GET MARRIED!"Yes, you are a very calm bride. Who even thinks this?!

tlv204 · September 2009

Seriously though, did the hostesses take others into consideration when planning the parties? Like Dani asked (and you never answered), was there lots of travel involved? Was it going to cost more money than some people could afford? There is probably a reason this happened, and you don't seem to care to find out what that reason is. If you sit down and think about it, it might help prevent stuff like this from happening in the future.

lyndausvi · September 2009

Calling all older brides: When you SammyJo do you not think of Heather Locklear on Dynasty? She was a brat also, right?

gkb0910 · September 2009

Seriously-did you read my post? It's possible they were waiting so long to try to work something out and they were unable to do so by the time you called. Were they given a lot of notice? Is something big going on? Can you change the date to accomodate more people? Rather than playing an eye for an eye by saying you won't be around when they get married, why do you try to make some changes and make it work?

[Deleted User] · September 2009

DONT EXPECT ME WHEN YOU GET MARRIED! This does not = calm bride. I have a feeling this is not the first temper tantrum you've thrown.

anna.oskar · September 2009

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veronabrit · September 2009

I would be upset too

sunflower1998 · September 2009

Oh, anna.. You are amazing!

TheSaltyPeanut · September 2009

Haha... I expect a DD soon

sarah0725 · September 2009

I'm with the calmer heads, and I'd like to know some of the details of these parties. A 90% decline rate usually means something.

temerityjane · September 2009

Three options:A. The party was extremely inconvenient in time/date, distance or expense.B. Her friends who declined aren't really close friends.C. They don't approve of the marriage.

sammyjo0320 · September 2009

no. it involved no travel..hardly any money. yes they were giving plenty of notice. yes im 22..forgive me for not being older. notice i said "i want to scream at all of them" not i actually am going to yell at them. this is just what was going through my mind at the time. but apparently none of you can be normal humans and answer a simple question..you'd rather than rant and rave about how young i am how much of a brat i am..funny..because im the furthest thing from a brat. get over yourselves. all this post was about was venting because i was getting upset that some cant come. i understand people have lives...hense me NOT saying anything to them. rude. you are all just rude human beings.

MissSarah786 · September 2009

Why not do something just really informal? And you could plan this, just a night out together, maybe just dinner, maybe lunch if that's better. Make it just a fun night, not a b-party. And if only 3 people show up, then that's fine, you'll have a great time with those 3 girls.

tidetravel · September 2009

I agree that there was probably some poor planning on the part of the host. Too expensive, too much travel, bad day of the week, etc. Something's up.And, right or wrong, a lot of people think that you only RSVP if your answer is "yes." Since everyone's answer seems to have been No, chances are that's why they didn't RSVP.

temerityjane · September 2009

"im the furthest thing from a brat."I think you're confused. You meant "I am actually so close to the thing that is a brat I am sitting on top of it, because I am, in fact, a brat."

sammyjo0320 · September 2009

thank you to the calm people on here who simply understand i am just disappointed in the turn out. and i was probably exagerating about 90%. it seems that way though..

ffmaid · September 2009

Sure you can be sad disappointed even. you can feel any darn way tyou please. How you react is what matters. You need to react graciously and understanding to those not attending and enjoy and focus on those who are attending and thanks to the hostesses

NuggetBrain · September 2009

you are all just rude human beings. Do you feel bad for our FIs too?Look, if it's not money issues, they were given plenty of time, and rather than them declining via RSVP with regrets they just didn't bother to let you know they weren't coming, you need to think about why you'd have almost nobody want to come to either of your parties. If I was in your shoes, I'd start by taking a good look at my behavior the last few months.

MissSarah786 · September 2009

Um, I was 22 at my non-bachelorette party and shower. I was 23 for just 3 days when I got married. Nothing to do with age. Yes it sucks that no one responded, but be happy with the people who did and enjoy your time with them, even if it's just 3 or 4 girls.

aerinpegadrak · September 2009

Yes, because your first post was so indicative of a calm and tranquil nature.You still shouldn't have been tracking down RSVPs for the party, especially if someone else is hosting. That's part of the planning process, which is none of your business. Butt out of it and dial down the bridezilla a few dozen notches.

[Deleted User] · September 2009

I'm gonna get a liger and you can't play with him! Hmmmph. That's what my son says when he's mad at me about something. Seemed appropriate here.

tidetravel · September 2009

You can't control how you feel. You can control how you react. Why did you have to cancel your b-party since it appears SOME people could come? Vindictive thinking may make you feel better now but it will do nothing for your future relationships with these people.

wadingmoose · September 2009

I get being upset.I don't get the anger you showed here, or your claim that you won't support them when they get married. It's a shower. Life goes on.Also, did you throw this shower for yourself? If not, then you shouldn't have been the one worried about RSVPs.

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