Am I just being bitter?!?!

Kati0105 · September 2009

rude. you are all just rude human beings.Don't you feel so bad for our FIs and DHs?

torontobride17 · September 2009

I will NOT forgive you for not being older.

sarah0725 · September 2009

Something I learned the hard way a long time ago: P&E isn't a good place to rant when you are feeling emotional, because if you say something that comes off as unreasonable, people are going to notice and call you out for it. And if you are already feeling emotional, it will only make things worse. If you need to rant, talk to your FI, or your mom, or you best friend. If you want truthful answers on etiquette issues (or general shenanigans), come to P&E.

tlv204 · September 2009

Of course it's fine to be upset, I was too when one of my BMs didn't come to either of my showers or my bachelorette party, and its' also fine to vent here. Much better than acting this way to your friends. Don't take the responses too personally, since we don't know you and don't really know if you really are just venting or if this type of vindictive thought is common for you, but it does sometimes help to see things from an outside perspective. Think about the responses, be upset about all of this in private, go out and have a great time with those that will be there, and try to learn from this for the future.

gkb0910 · September 2009

Here's the thing...you said invites went out a couple of weeks ago. Your wedding is in a month. It seems like people were give 3-4 weeks notice. That may sound like a lot, but I am already booked almost every weekend until December. It's possible they just couldn't make it. Again I say, see if you can change things around to be more open house like (party at someone's house/sleepover) so people can come when they're able (pop in and out) or try to change the date to one when more people are free. If those aren't options, enjoy your party with the people who are coming.

nda_roxybabe · September 2009

What were their reasons for not being able to attend? Can we have a more accurate precentage? That is sucky but like MissSarah said you just have fun with those who can attend.... Also, we're not rude. We are honest.

shellydiane820 · September 2009

I know you're just venting, but even your venting seems extreme and over the top.

NuggetBrain · September 2009

Also, we're not rude. We are honest. Pfft, speak for yourself. Me personally, I'm rude as hell.

Julia2010 · September 2009

The girls on this board tend to be very mean, this is why I NEVER post questions here..... I would be VERY upset also.....

wadingmoose · September 2009

I think a lot of people don't understand that you can be rude while being honest. You can also be polite while being honest.Don't think that honesty excuses rudeness. It does not.

nda_roxybabe · September 2009

Haha Nugget- Right after I hit post I though ehhh I should've just said that about myself...regardless though, we are honest.

shellydiane820 · September 2009

Julia, we're VERY glad you don't post here

gkb0910 · September 2009

The girls on this board tend to be very mean, this is why I NEVER post questions here..... I would be VERY upset also..... 1. Don't lump everyone together. That's stereotyping and not accurate.2. If everyone here is so mean, why do you read/reply here?

Julia2010 · September 2009

You are 100% right I should not lump you all together, I just find a lot of the girls go right on the attack and really we should all be trying to support one another not attack one another. Just My Opinion.

mrsLesGrossman · September 2009

Julia2010 is a liar- [url]http://talk.theknot.com/boards/main_frame.aspx?page=showpost.aspx?postid=61800714[/url]

bbyckes · September 2009

It's okay to be upset and disappointed. I probably would too. But, I think you were looking for others to validate your outrage and seemingly bad behavior. No one did and you lash out by calling a whole board rude human beings? Who's being rude?Do you post here? Did you lurk? And Julie - you just need to STFU. We're so mean? Really? We can't all be mean biitches. The person who needs to get over themself is you, sweetie.

salt78 · September 2009

[i].funny..because im the furthest thing from a brat. get over yourselves. [/i] We call them like we see them. I could almost hear you stamping your feet as I read your OP.

Julia2010 · September 2009

Yup I am a liar cause I posted here a couple of times when I 1st started planning.

jen629 · September 2009

I would be upset too but no one even threw me a bachelorette party and it was fine a little disappointing but nothing to be bitter about

mrsLesGrossman · September 2009

Right, because we attacked you too? The same people responded here also responded in your post. So which is it, are we the helpful ones who give advice and ideas when you needed it or are we a bunch of biitches who rip people apart because they want validation?

nda_roxybabe · September 2009

Also true Wading....sometimes honesty is appreciated especially when done nicely.

mrsLesGrossman · September 2009

Yup I am a liar cause I posted here a couple of times when I 1st started planning. You posted less than a month ago, not six months ago. Regardless of how often you post, you still have. So yes, you are a liar and an ungrateful biitch for not being appreciative of the people who helped you.

salt78 · September 2009

[i]Yup I am a liar cause I posted here a couple of times when I 1st started planning. [/i] That post was from less than a month ago. Just sayin'.

Julia2010 · September 2009

I am not trying to start an argument with any of you ladies, I have found you very helpful in the past, however I have seen some posts where things get very mean.... I just thought we where all here to help and support one another......

salt78 · September 2009

[i]I just thought we where all here to help and support one another.....[/i] Brides dot com.

shellydiane820 · September 2009

Wow, you're good at backtracking.

kikibaby · September 2009

I would be sad if my friends didn't want to come to my b party. Even if just one didn't want to come, I'd be a little hurt. But yeah, people get busy and it's probably not personal. What were the actual numbers? Was it like 3 of 5 couldn't come, or like 40 of 45? (No, these probably don't equal 90%, I'm bad at math.) You do need to relax, though. Are you mad at people who RSVP'd no to the wedding or didn't RSVP at all? And people generally aren't being rude to you on here, just being honest and saying the things your friends/family wouldn't have the guts to say to your face (but they're thinking it).

nda_roxybabe · September 2009

And, you got mostly nice, honest, helpful responses to that post..

salt78 · September 2009

Kiki - She already said that she exaggerated the 90%.

tidetravel · September 2009

I just thought we where all here to help and support one another...... We are helping by not indulging the childish whining of an adult. We're also not going to validate idiotic behavior. I guarantee that if OP said what she did to her friends/family, they would smile and nod to her face, and turn around and say the same things we're saying behind her back. Please refer to warning in siggy for more information.

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