Am I just being bitter?!?!

sarah0725 · September 2009

I just thought we where all here to help and support one another......I agree that there can be a mean element to this board, but I'm sorry, this is just a lame thing to say. I don't come to this board to look for "support." First of all, I don't think that being a bride lets me into some magical unicorn club, and also because I don't think that having a wedding is such a trying thing that it's necessary to get "support." Ask your friends, FI, and family for support, and also your bra. P&E is for fun, snark, and honest advice.

wadingmoose · September 2009

I dunno about everyone else, but I'm just here to talk about what's for lunch.

aerinpegadrak · September 2009

*points to sig quote*It's people being too polite (or too non-confrontational) to call out douchey behavior that allows douchey behavior to persist.

Julia2010 · September 2009

Not trying to backtrack just being honest.

wadingmoose · September 2009

I get what you're saying Julia.

NuggetBrain · September 2009

I'm with Moose. Even if she is Canadian.

sammyjo0320 · September 2009

i have been very understanding to everyone who tells me they cant come. its just very disappointing when you picture one thing..and then it has to literally be cancelled due to lack of people. out of everyone invited to my bach party only 4 can come. there is a difference between being honest and rude. i came here for honesty, not to be attacked with rude comments. i have been very understanding throughout the whole wedding planning process..and yes its very irritating i am being asked to contact these people. i should have nothing to do with it whatsoever. i know my venting may have been extreme but who else do i vent to? everyone around me has so many other issues going on i have nobody to biitch to. and trust me i know ill have fun with the very few attending because 2 of the 4 attending are my best friends. so i know we will have loads of fun..its just disappointing that noone else can make it. and next time..ill think twice about posting something like this here. i was warned right after i posted it that everyone in here can be very rude. and no i dont feel bad for your FI's..they obviously married you for a reason. and yes..i can control how i act..which is why i posted something rather than rant and rave to my friends about it.

kikibaby · September 2009

I dunno about everyone else, but I'm just here to talk about what's for lunch.I'm just here for the gang-bang.

Kati0105 · September 2009

How will you have fun with the 4 friends if it literally has to be canceled?

sammyjo0320 · September 2009

we have to pick something else to do..

kikibaby · September 2009

I only expect to have 3 or 4 at my b party. 4 is a good number! More than that and you have drama, or trying to find someone who wanders off...

tidetravel · September 2009

i know ill have fun with the very few attending because 2 of the 4 attending are my best friendsYou need to focus on this. Enjoy the people that can come - don't dwell on those that can't.And as far as it not being "what you pictured," I understand, but guess what? Nothing ever is. Wanna know a little secret? Your wedding won't be either. Something, or possibly SEVERAL somethings WILL go wrong. The way you feel after is all in how you choose to look at it. You can dwell on the bad, or embrace the good. For your sake, I hope you learn to let things roll off your back within the next month.

mrsLesGrossman · September 2009

You can easily have an insane amount of fun with that amount. You may even be able to do more than you planned. You should see it like the dead weight isn't holding you back.

sammyjo0320 · September 2009

i suppose that IS a good point..more women..more drama. im expecting things to go wrong at my wedding. im not a naive person..i guess im just a hopeful person.

kikibaby · September 2009

Stick around here and we'll knock that hopeful youthfulness right outta ya! Thanks for replying and not DD'ing.

sammyjo0320 · September 2009

im not that easily scared off...just curious..was does dd'ing mean? (can you tell i have been posting on these boards long?)

Kati0105 · September 2009

You can have some of the girls who want to come to my b party. Since it is in Vegas people are literally coming out of the woodwork asking when it is and what the plans are. Trying to navigate Vegas with 20+ girls should be... interesting.

sarah0725 · September 2009

Honestly, a small bach party with only four people, two of them your best friends, might be the most awesome thing ever. The only bach party I've ever attended was for a good friend in grad school, and of the ten or twelve other attendees I only knew two or three. It was just weird, because although we were all close to the bride, we didn't really jell with each other and so the party was too big to be intimate. The ingredients you have now might be the best thing ever.Honestly, for my bach party if there is one, what I'm envisioning is to get my best friend, my sister, and maybe three other friends and do a ridiculous bar crawl in NYC that involves singing Broadway songs while walking down the street and taking inappropriate pictures with monuments. Something like that is best with a small group.

tidetravel · September 2009

DD = dirty delete. It usually happens when whiny beebee brides come here looking for validation for poor behavior. When they don't get the answers they are looking for, they whine and tell us they feel sorry for our FIs and then delete the post. Hence, why you got some of the responses that you did.The fact that you haven't acted in such a way says a lot about you.

sammyjo0320 · September 2009

a ridiculous bar crawl does sound rather amusing..

gkb0910 · September 2009

DD=dirty delete It's when you delete your post because you don't get the answers you wanted or think people are being mean to you.

Terri Bridelee · September 2009

I'm curious about the number invited to your shower. Is it just a couple of friends you're upset with for not coming? Or were all of the women on the guest list invited and maybe they're not coming because they don't really know you? I was quite upset with my aunt for not coming to my shower. She did send a gift, so that's not even close to why I was upset. I didn't want a gift - I wanted HER to come. She didn't because her daugher and granddaughter, with whom I'm NOT close, were not invited (NO cousins were invited. It was parents, siblings, and first degree aunts and uncles. That's it.). So I totally get being upset for certain people declining to come.

kikibaby · September 2009

kati- I am doing the Vegas thing, too! I'm only inviting family/very close friends, though. But I have had a few people say they'd like to come just so they can party, even if they're not invited to the wedding. ha!

sammyjo0320 · September 2009

im not THAT big of a baby

Kati0105 · September 2009

kati- I am doing the Vegas thing, too! I'm only inviting family/very close friends, though. But I have had a few people say they'd like to come just so they can party, even if they're not invited to the wedding. ha!This is exactly what is happening to me. Somehow everyone I went to college with/worked with/met once has heard about it through word of mouth and now it is a ginormous clusterf**k. At the end of the day I know I'll end up spending most of the time with my close friends and having a blast but in the meantime it is stressing me out. Luckily I think everyone who plans on attending will be invited to the wedding at least. ::crosses fingers::

[Deleted User] · September 2009

I think you'll have a great time with 2 - 4 girls doing a bar crawl. I always cringe when I see those enormous bach parties with like 20 girls screaming and running around with diicks everywhere.

NuggetBrain · September 2009

I'm not really looking forward to my BP. Some of the girls that will be invited have never gone out on the town with me before, and they are kind of uptight. My brand of dancing will probably freak them out. They're really nice girls, and very sweet, just more Donna Reed than Edie Britt. Plusalso, I'm bummed that his sisters won't be able to make it since they live in Florida, and I lurrrrrrrve hanging out with his sisters.

amlewis83 · September 2009

That was a lot of reading, so I jumped through a lot of responses. I just wanted to get my @ cents in before work. I am sorry that you had to track these people down. It should not have been your job. The hostesses should of done that and if they found out only them and 3 others would be attending, they could make the adjustments to the day/night. You would be none the wiser. Enjoy every moment with every friend you have in life. Don't look for what/who is missing, but experience and enjoy all that is there. Those are my poetic ramblings of the day.p.s. Breath, it could be a lot worse.

ffmaid · September 2009

4 is the normal number that comes to a bachlorette to have had 90% decline you would have invited 40 friends. do you even have 40 gal pals invited to your wedding total?? Seriously relax . Yes it is disappointing but enjoy your 4 friends

duckie1905 · September 2009

There were five of us, including me, at my b-party and it was one of the best nights of my life. Quantity is not nearly important as quality.And your original rant was not because people didn't RSVP and you had to call them. You are really mad that people aren't coming to your b-party. Too bad, so sad. Time to let it go. i know my venting may have been extreme but who else do i vent to? everyone around me has so many other issues going on i have nobody to biitch to.You have a FI, yes?

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