23 days to go and this happens...

NuggetBrain · September 2009

She doesn't sound like an interesting woman, she sounds completely batsh*t crazy to me. Getting kicked out of a stationery store? Jesus. Just bypass your mom, go ask your dad, if you're sure he'll give it to you and won't end up deferring to your mother. I still don't understand why he hasn't just given you the money already, especially if he agrees with you on this whole thing.

jajph1974 · September 2009

J&K -- That was just my inner b!tch coming out. IRL I doubt I'd actually do that.

vicmo5 · September 2009

I agree that op doesn't need anymore grief. Coulda, woulda, shoulda. At this point I'd try to cut anything I could, but cutting guests is not really an option. And you can't uninvite your mother (at least until you cash that check).

buttaflai · September 2009

With only 3 wks left, I am not sure how much you can cut back on, you committed to things with your vendors and I am sure you have signed contracts.Yeah, but some cancellations will just keep the deposit and she might not have to pay the rest. Most vendors aren't paid fully 3 weeks before the wedding. A lost deposit sucks, but at least she doesn't have to find money for things her mother wanted.Unfortunately, you might just HAVE TO team up with Dad AGAINST mom.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · September 2009

If your dad has the money, I would ask him to LOAN it to you. You probably know by now that you shouldn't have spent the money without having it in your hand, but you took on that commitment yourself. If your dad was planning to gift you the money anyway, the ask him to help out with that. But if he wasn't, then you should ask to borrow it from him, explain the situation, and work out a payment arrangement.I hate to suggest that you start off in debt, but at least the debt is one that would presumably be without interest or hurting your credit score. And you do need to step up and be responsible for your party without blaming it on your mom (even though she clearly does suck).Good luck! We're date twins, I know how stressed you must be even without this. Something WILL work out

*BeachBride0410* · September 2009

I know 1 thing you don't have to pay for, a gift for mom!

BecW2be · September 2009

Tell her you'll cancel the entire reception, change the ceremony to you and FI and his parents only, and SHE'LL be the one calling the entire guest list to cancel it. I bet she budges then.

cnderella83 · September 2009

The agreement was that when we decided on this elaborate wedding my parents would not give us the cash, but would just pay the invoice for the recpetion. That is why they never gave us the cash. It was agreed upon that they would just pay the bill. Our venue... ram's head inn requires a bar package and on a staurday night they require a 5 hour package. The package is also for soft drinks so regardless of alchohol or sodas it's still $35 a head. Again... i did not want this option. but mom did.

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