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I'm marrying my best friend on 1/22/11 & am having 6 bridesmaids, 3 of which are sisters. All of the bridesmaids' dresses have been ordered except one of my sister's. This past Friday she said she was available to go on Sunday so I booked an appointment for today. I told her about the costs, the little time it would take, etc, all on Friday & confirmed the time again yesterday - we agreed it was going to be a "sister date" for the dress & coffee/chat time following.
There was a huge accident on the tollroad to get there about an hour before, so I sent her a text message & called & left a voicemail telling her to meet at my house & I'll take the back way to get there..no answer. Twenty minutes later I called again to let her know that I had left the house since I hadn't heard from her & will just meet her there. I get to the salon on time - 10 minutes goes by, no answer..30 minutes, she's not responding to my call.
An hour later she calls & says she forgot..no I'm sorry, no lets reschedule, nothing. She went to the gym, forgot her phone at home, & was now drenched in sweat. Operation BM dress completion - FAIL.
A few months ago my mom showed up to my only dress appointment an hour late, after I had found my dream dress & finished everything. Minus my amazing grandmother, my family has had zero interest in anything to do with the wedding. My fiance's family has made every effort to be involved or at least encouraging to both of us.
Am I the only one? I was mad at first, but I didn't raise my voice or be mean to her when she called..I'm really just hurt.
There was a huge accident on the tollroad to get there about an hour before, so I sent her a text message & called & left a voicemail telling her to meet at my house & I'll take the back way to get there..no answer. Twenty minutes later I called again to let her know that I had left the house since I hadn't heard from her & will just meet her there. I get to the salon on time - 10 minutes goes by, no answer..30 minutes, she's not responding to my call.
An hour later she calls & says she forgot..no I'm sorry, no lets reschedule, nothing. She went to the gym, forgot her phone at home, & was now drenched in sweat. Operation BM dress completion - FAIL.
A few months ago my mom showed up to my only dress appointment an hour late, after I had found my dream dress & finished everything. Minus my amazing grandmother, my family has had zero interest in anything to do with the wedding. My fiance's family has made every effort to be involved or at least encouraging to both of us.
Am I the only one? I was mad at first, but I didn't raise my voice or be mean to her when she called..I'm really just hurt.
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You don't really have to be there with your sister when she gets measured for the dress, right? One of my BMs is in Houston and another in DC. I doubt if I'll see either of their dresses before the wedding day, other than a camera phone picture. I'd say give her the order due date, and step back. Maybe ask another sister to call and remind her closer to that date. Unless she doesn't want to be in the wedding (which I doubt since she's already agreed to be a BM) or is completely incompetent, she'll get the dress.
The bright side is that you DO have your best friend (FI), amazing grandmother, and you're marrying into a family that loves you and is excited for you! Try to remind yourself of that when you get down. Hopefully, it will help a little.
Try to stay focused on the people who are excited for you and really take the time to enjoy planning your wedding, even if some members of your family aren't as excited as you had hoped.
Thanks for the kind words & reminders, ladies! I do appreciate it.
I hope things work out for the best! Glad you found your dress on the first go! I had to find "the dress" then make my mom come to the store to see it before I bought it. Luckily she liked it because she didn't know I already bought it.
DFW: I've ordered one of my other sister's dress that way since she was out of state. I didn't think about doing that for this one since she's so close, but great idea!
I am going to tell her she'll need to go by herself by a certain date & if it doesn't happen, then I'll order it for her. I'm glad your mom liked your dress!
Terri: That's crazy that they would act that way! Maybe it's just normal that others don't care as much until they're in the same situation. I think the emotionally distancing from their involvement will be the best way for me as well. Otherwise, I'm just going to resent them.