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First major Bridezilla moment

slevesquemutslevesquemut
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I'm just a little bit ticked off at my cousin right now.  She's 20, just had a baby, and got engaged.  Her wedding is a couple of weeks before mine, two months before my AHR.  I've been pretty open telling people the AHR will include a pig roast.  So what has she decided for her wedding?  A Renaissance style pig roast.  She also wanted me to have my AHR in her mom's backyard so we could split the cost of renting a tent.  I know this is going to sound really juvenile, but I'm really pissed off.  Does she want it to look like I'm totally piggybacking her wedding?  I should feel happy for her, but I can't help feel like people are going to think I copied her idea.  Ugh!  I probably sound really unreasonable here, but that was my idea!  I'm still going to do my pig roast, and the only people who will know about hers will be my family.  I can't even believe I'm upset about this!  Like I said, my first Bridezilla moment, and totally juvenile.  Am I justified, or should I just get over it?
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  • soccer155soccer155 member
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    I dont think you sound unreasonable at all! I would be very upset too! First thing is first dont share any more information to her about your AHR. You could keep the pig roast just maybe change it up from hers. I am sorry you are having to deal with this. I dont think you are being a bridezilla at all. You would think she wouldnt want to do something that someone else is doing either. Good luck!
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  • kreeves42kreeves42
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    I think being a bit upset is justified. I would also not share any other details with her about your reception. Also, if you are in contact with her, maybe try to help her with ideas and info so that she can work towards personalizing her own wedding. With different details than yours of course. ;) My BFF got married about a month before me and there were a few times I got upset that she was going to use some of the same ideas as mine, but for the most part it was nice to have someone IRL to bounce ideas off of and to complain to about WR stuff. HTH!
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  • salt78salt78 member
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    She's 20 and her wedding is stil not for another 300+ days? There's always that chance that it will never happen....
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  • CNN in 2010CNN in 2010 member
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    It would upset me too.  You thought of this creative way to have your ahr and now your cousin is stealing it from you.  Had you not mentioned it she probably wouldn't be doing it. You stick to your plan and just tell her kindly no thank you, I already have all my vendor set for our ahr reception but I appreciate the offer.
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  • LadyBird9LadyBird9
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    are you justified to go and throw stuff at her like a [i]real[/i] bridezilla would? probably not. but are you justified to be upset? absolutely!!!! i dont know how close the two of you are... but i may even tell her that you would prefer her not to do a pig roast, because you were really excited about your unique and creative idea for [i]your[/i] reception. tell her you would be happy to help her think of something just as unique and creative. sorry that you have to deal with all that... big hugs and a bigger glass of wine! :-)
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  • SimplyMistakenSimplyMistaken
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    So sorry to hear that! Not juvenile!  I went through a similar thing where my cousin and I were having weddings 8 months or so apart and kept picking the same things!  Totally randomly-but now since mine is 8 months after hers, it looks like I am copying all her things!  Neither one of us planned it but are both having beach weddings, with OOT bags, with starfish themes, etc..!
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