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Tacky?

Do you think it's tacky to type out your thank you on the computer, print it out and glue it to a thank you card?  My cousin did this for his graduation thank yous.  Not to mention I hounded him for a thank you card (his graduation was 3 months ago and we have that type of relationship).  Plus, he didn't even address the envelope.  Does this scream tacky?  Or maybe just lazy?  Or am I just looking too much into this?

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  • I should mention his mom addressed the envelopes.  It was very impersonal...
  • Tacky, but not as tacky as asking someone for a thank you card.
  • Absolutely tacky. And you shouldn't hound people for thank you cards. That in itself is tacky.
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  • Tacky and lazy.  Write the TYs - they're not novels, just notes.
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  • Tacky to print and glue, tacky to bug for a TY note.
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  • Tacky to bug him for one yes.  But he is my little cousin, more like a little brother.  He needs to learn appreciation.
  • Tacky & lazy. I really don't like it when people type their thank you notes -they could use the same generic phrase for everyone. IMO, this is right up there with people spelling your name wrong in the thank you or in your address.
  • Maybe sent you the thank you he did because you hounded him?  That's what I would have done.
  • Or maybe that's why he sent one at all.  My parents gave him quite a bit of money for a gift and still have yet to see a thank you or even hear a thank you in person.  It's just sad that a lot of kids these days have lost basic manners.
  • Tacky.If someone goes to a store, spends money on a gift, gift wraps it, drives it to the post office etc etc Especially if it's a nice gift, you can spend 20 SECONDS hand writing a short thank you note.People are unbe-fvcking-lievable.
  • It's just sad that a lot of kids these days have lost basic manners. So you think by acting rude he is going to pick them up? You are not his parent. It isn't up to you to teach him to be polite.
  • Wow!  It was a statement.  Way to take it somewhere else.
  • Does this scream tacky?  I suppose. Or maybe just lazy?  Likely, he's a teenage boy. Or am I just looking too much into this?  Definately.There ya go.
  • why cant people be like me and write their thank you notes on post it note in crayon?
  • Thanks mochabeans!  That's what I wanted to hear.  Thanks for answering my original questions rather than dissecting my post.
  • That had a more sarcastic intention, but okay.
  • I think it's rude and tacky to hound someone for a thank you note. 1. It's not your job to raise him, that job belongs to his parents.2. You hounded for a thank you note, you got your thank you note...and now you're going to gripe that it's not quite up to snuff?
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  • It sucks that you guys don't know my family because then I think you might understand.  Oh well.  At least I figured out I wasn't the only one who thought it was odd.
  • Pot, meet Kettle.

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  • I would assume any thank you note is better than none...if its done on a computer, handwritten or written with lipstick on a back of a napkin...not that I even notice if I get thank you notes for anything.  My family is BIG on writing thank you notes and so at this point I have gotten soo many of them that I open them in front of the garbage can and it gets tossed right in.  is that horrible?  Now I do think a text message thank you would be the ulitmate in lazy.
  • ha ha ha, it sounds like it's more effort to type it up, print it out, cut it, glue than just write something on the d@mn card in the first place!  stupid boys....
  • If there is absolutely nothing wrong with the boy, I think it is pretty tasteless. That being said...here comes the "but"  My son just started high school and has Aspergers' Syndrome.  He can't write in cursive and his handwriting hasn't changed since about the 3rd grade.  I am dead serious on that one, and it was sloppy in 3rd grade.  When his time comes, I have already realized he won't be handwriting them - no one will be able to read them.  I will find thank you's that can go thru the computer, he will write a personal thank you to each person and he will scrawl his signature on the bottom.  He also won't be mailing them out 3 months afterwards either!Anyone who would be getting a thank you from him already knows about the Asperger's.  If anyone has a problem with it, they are the problem, not my son, who WILL take the time to do a personal thank you to everyone.If we are talking tacky here, hounding someone for your thank you card should be on the list also.  
  • Lazy and tacky but at least he sent out thank yous. So C on the etiquette grades. Hounding someone over thank yous is self rightous and tacky so D-
  • At least he typed it up himself! I have customers (I work in stationery) that order pre-printed thank-yous for their grads. I HATE IT! They all say something like, "thank you for the generous gift and for being an important part of my life. Love, Brian" -- all Brian has to do is stick it in an envelope and mail it. He doesn't even sign it! I HATE IT!Honestly, people ask for pre-printed thank you notes all the time. I'm always explaining that it's best to handwrite a short note on regular stationery. Some people are happy for the etiquette lesson, others just go for the lazy way out.
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  • at this point I have gotten soo many of them that I open them in front of the garbage can and it gets tossed right in. is that horrible?Yes, that's horrible.  You should recycle. 
  • I would have to say both are tacky.  As for the thank yous, it's the same line as appreciation cards after a funeral (we just wrote out over 160 of this for my fh's dad). The people your sending these to took the time to select a card (some gift/some not but at least a card), they deserve the respect of your taking the time to handwrite the thank you, it shows that you 'did' in fact appreciated the gift (thier making the time to come, select a gift/card or even if it was just mailing a card after the fact).It may just be the way I was raised but I think there are more that will agree than not.
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