Reception Time Etiq

NuggetBrain · September 2009

paths outside to walk... I don't go to a wedding for a hiking workout. Just an FYI.

nydreamer29 · September 2009

Obviously the paths are not focal point, but if someone wants to go outside and enjoy the night air, smoke, whatever they can. It's all overlooking a lake.

tidetravel · September 2009

You could always do pictures before the ceremony, which would negate the giant gap. If you could start the reception at 4 that would be the best bet. Guests can start mingling/eating at 4 - you guys could still arrive at 5, which gives you almost 2 hours for pictures. This would also solve the issue of needing to serve dinner since food would start at 4, not 6.Your guests will be a lot happier and more into partying if they are well-fed and don't have to hang out for 3 hours prior to the event to start. If you want to "party into the night" you can always go out for an afterparty somewhere.

betrothed123 · September 2009

You're not backed into a corner here. You're making decisions that will inconvenience your guests that you CAN avoid, but are choosing not to. Then you're making excuses to justify not changing things that legitimately could be changed. If your guests' comfort was a high priority for you you'd find way to make sure they are not inconvenienced. It doesn't matter who wants the pretty pictures, bride or groom, but choosing to have all this time to take pictures over your guests comfort is a bad decision. Talk to your FI and try to find a compromise that will work better not only for you, but for your guests.What happens if all of your guests do decide they need to sit down at the same time? They're SOL and you don't care? Like PP said, people don't go to weddings to walk the trails at your venue. Don't count on peopel doing that and than use it as an excuse to not rent chairs/tables.

tidetravel · September 2009

Wow, I really think some of you are just too tight on the "rules."Well, you did come to an Etiquette board

Chrissymarie98 · September 2009

Not a fan of the gap at all. That's a long time and pretty inconsiderate to expect your guests to buy themselves dinner in b/n. If you are having a gap + having a dinner hour reception- you probably should serve dinner.

nydreamer29 · September 2009

I want to thank you for your help. But most of you are the bride I don't want to be and incredibly rude people. To say you wouldn't even show up to someone's reception just because you had to wait a bit? I talked to friends last night who had the gap and no one cared. The adults took a nap, the kids played in the hotel pool, and the 20 somethings grabbed a drink.I figure, I can easily shorten the gap. I will have it start at 5, giving the guests only an hour, maybe an hour and a half to kill (the reception is 20-30 minutes away from the church). No, there is not seating for every butt, but every wedding I have been to in the last year (all three of them) didn't have seating for everyone and no one cared. We just waiting until a few stopped eating and then sat down. There is also a huge deck with benches, a gazebo with benches, and plenty of places to set a drink down while munching. Some will be butlered and some at food stations. The food is a buffet of HD's. Heavy HD's. Steak, briscutt, chicken salad and ham sandwiches, bite sized soup in a bowl, I even made sure there was plenty to eat for my veg friends.I have taken your advice to heart and have changed some things to make it easier on the guests... but in this day, I always feel honored just to be invited to a wedding. If you get invited, say you are coming, and then don't show up to the wedding, you probably just kept someone else from coming. Not to mention, ditched the couple on the only day they will get married! That is the ultimate in RUDE. When I go to a wedding, I feel honored and not that I am going to be catered to. You shouldn't go to a wedding looking for a handout. Hopefully you aren't going for the free meal, but going to celebrate your friends' happiness. I understand that I need to feed my guests, and I am. The food is amazing. And we are having beer and wine and dancing. If anyone would be offended by that, I don't want them there.

Pirata13 · September 2009

Please look at your original post and be reminded that most of the responses were based off of the information you gave. Which was basically a 3 hour gap and light HDs and HOPING that people will GO OUT TO DINNER. Then you kept adding info as you went along, some of it was good info--like the HEAVY HD's compared to light, which does indeed make a difference in how well "fed" your guests will be. But some it wasn't so good--several OOT of town guests who you were going to be left to fend for themselves. You didn't hear what you wanted to hear--that it's YOUR day and people should be grateful to spend a $hitload of money to travel for your wedding to be inconvenienced and to possibly buy their own dinner when the food you are providing is enough--and you didn't like it. You don't have to listen to everything people say because this is all peoples' OPINIONS. But don't come to an etiquette board and get miffed when people try to guide you in proper etiquette. Call us rude all you like, but most of us, when faced with the same situation, found a hall that would allow us to have our reception with minimal gap and minimal inconvenience to our guests. Yes, our GUESTS. Next time find the Pretty Pretty Princess board or the All About Me board if you want people to brown nose.

ffmaid · September 2009

OP- Think of your least close guest. Now think of going out of town and spending say $300 each for you and husband for flights and then $100 a night at hotel $50 day rental car $150 gift and then being treated how you are treating your guests. You would not be honored you would be miffed and sitting at the bar bitching about how inconsiderate teh bride and groom were and how they care more about their photos then their guests. You would you know this is your heart. Now of course nobody is going to say this to the bride and groom but it will be said behind their backs and the only thing remembered from your wedding with be the lack of true gracious hospitality unless a bigger disaster like leaving at teh alter or a hurricane happens.

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