Need Your Advice: Plow Ahead or Push Back?

natalie0131 · September 2009

Forgive me knotties for I have sinned. It has been about 2 weeks since my last knotting.I haven't even been lurking. Been MIA for almost a month and now I am selfishly asking for your help. This is my situation: I graduated from grad school in June and have been on the job hunt ever since. (Are you so sick of hearing me say that? So am I...) Been on a ton of interviews, etc but no job. I'm broke. FI and I are living with my parents (ah!) while we figure out our next step. Our wedding date is set for November 15, 2010. We "reserved" the date with our resort, but haven't put the deposit down yet to confirm it. FI was in the army for a few years and is now just starting over in school. He'll be in school during our wedding and is also relatively broke right now while we are waiting to see what's happening.Unless I get a job in October, I'm worried that we won't have enough time to save up the money to pay for the wedding in November 2010. We are both basically broke and any money we would have for the wedding would come from my future career and FI's GI living expenses check once he's back in school. (If he enrolls in school we could get about 1500-2500/mo just from that depending on where we move.)My mind is going a mile a minute so I'm sorry if I'm being unclear. I'm just wondering what would you do in this situation? Should I just cut the sh!t and cool my jets until I see what happens w/ my job situation in October? Or should FI and I start considering pushing back the date? Is a year too short to save up for a wedding if you're starting from financial scratch?

you knotties. TIA

drm6285 · September 2009

I am a firm believer that you should NOT go broke paying for your wedding, if that means pushing back the date, then I think you should do it. The economy is tough right now as it is without the stress of student loans, unemployement, etc coupled on top of that. I feel for you and I'm sorry you have to be going through this! Lots of job vibes for you!!!I would sit tight until you find out for sure in October and then decide, that's still a year in advance if you need to change anything. GL!!!

sapphiredaizy · September 2009

I agree with pp. Don't go broke paying for your wedding. You'll kick yourself later!Sending :::::find-a-good-job-fast ::::: vibes your way!

Future.Mrs.H. · September 2009

I agree 100%, push back if you have to.And if you think you can save (be real), that's fine, if not...don't go into debt because you are paying a wedding...remeber that a lot of couples have problems over financial issues and if you add going into your marriage with debt because of the wedding, then that's not good.Just be patient...and I hope everything goes well for you guys and I hope you can fugure everything out soon.

tiffany8610 · September 2009

If I were you, I would wait until October, or whenever you are able to get a job and make a budget. Seriously, Excel works wonders! Put down what your monthly income will be and figure out how much you need to save each month to reach that goal. Look at the money that's left and decide if you have enough to live on. Sounds really nerdy of me, but it honestly works! It makes things a lot clearer and helps you be realistic. I've done that myself... since I'm in school and won't know if I can get a job right away.

chosen175 · September 2009

As someone who pushed her date back, I know how much it stinks! *HUG* But in the end, we decided that we'd rather have a nicer wedding than going with the bottom of the barrel cheapie options that we'd need to do if we kept our original date. In the beginning, it really upset me. Now I'm VERY grateful that we decided to wait. If you don't have a generous friend/relative you can borrow $$ from if you're close to your original date, I say push it back. Weddings are hard enough to plan with an ample budget and long timeline - I can't imagine planning one, going to school, looking for a job, AND adding on all the stress of worrying about every last penny. In the end, you'll be just as married and it will be worth it!

FutureMrs.McC · September 2009

Wait til October and see how it goes. All the pps have given great advice so I won't repeat it. The living expenses income is great but once you're out of your parents house, that money will be gone very quickly. GL and Knottie vibes for the job!

FutureMrs.McC · September 2009

One more thing, it's really hard to say if a year is enough time without knowing what your bills, income, and wedding costs are.

Kahtie41 · September 2009

Man, the economy just doesn't realize that us girls want to get married!

Seriously though, it really does suck and I feel for you. VIBES that you find a job soon! That said, I also say you should push it back. Plus, even if you push it back a few months, you might be able to plan the wedding so that it would fall over you FI's spring break, which would be easier for his schedule too. Good luck to you guys and hang in there!!!

natalie0131 · September 2009

Thanks ladies. Maybe (Probably) I jumped the gun in even asking this but FI and I were talking about it yesterday and I totally freaked out. He's really sweet and is like "I don't care when the wedding is I just carry about marrying you, so if that's tomorrow or ten years from now, I don't really care." Ugh. Sweet boys.

I just want to get freakin married! ha. And I've always been the girl that didn't want to get married until she was like 28. (I'm 24.) I hope everything works out this month because I feel like I can't wait anymore just because I'm excited. I knew it would take a while to get a job, but I never thought it would take THIS long. oy. ok rant over. Again, thanks ladies.

you all.

SimplyMistaken · September 2009

Oh Natalie, I am sorry! I agree, push back if you need to, get the wedding you want!

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