Sept 11, 2010??

wadingmoose · September 2009

My question would be "wow, before or after the attacks happened?"Because, before is way different than after. Obviously.

jilybeans4 · September 2009

Lala has a good point... I was kind of thinking along the same lines - I don't necessarily see a problem with having it on Sept 11 for many of the same reasons others have said...however, I don't want my yearly anniversary to be the same day as the anniversary of the terrorist attacks. I think it would be awkward trying to explain that one for the rest of my life. And personally, I still tear up every year when I watch the news on that day or when I am reminded of that day. I wouldn't disrespect someone for choosing that date, but I would not choose it for myself...it has such a bad emotion surrounding it that I wouldn't want that mixed in with my wedding.

laladypoet · September 2009

I'm not offended by it either. but I wouldn't want the hassle of having to explain it all the time.if you have a kid or a birthday on Sept 11, no one is going to think twice. it's not like that can be helped. so no one is going to ask for an explanation.but if you choose to get married on that day, people are going to wonder. some will think you're being flippant about what happened. some will assume you or your husband is in the military. some will think you are honoring a dead loved one. and people WILL ask.

meganbear · September 2009

I agree with the point that something tragic has happened on pretty much every day, but it really just depends on how close to home something is and how long ago it was. I think it was StageManager who pointed out April 19. I lived in Oklahoma City during the 1995 bombing, but I would still attend a wedding on April 19 because I was only 8 years old at the time, and I didn't know anyone who was killed or injured. I think that for our age group/generation it is too soon because most of us getting married right now were at least in our teens during the 9/11 attacks. In another 5-10 years, there will be people getting married who will only have been children in 2001 and won't have such vivid memories of the day. Also, it is a great point that the terrorist attacks are actually referred to as 9/11. But it is a lot easier to group the 3 locations/4 planes together by date.

JessAndTrav · September 2009

How many people would honestly not go if you received an invite to a wedding on 9/11?

laladypoet · September 2009

How many people would honestly not go if you received an invite to a wedding on 9/11?I only go to weddings with an open bar. so if there was an open bar, I'd be there. if not, it'd go in the "lame wedding" category along with the other five or six weddings I've skipped. I know what's really important.

JessAndTrav · September 2009

Nice, Lala.

Kati0105 · September 2009

I also know a lot of people who are too superstitious to fly on 9/11, so if you plan on having a lot of OOT guests that is something to consider as well.

meganbear · September 2009

Stage- I'm so sorry that your family had to go through that.

I figured you must have lived in the area and have been affected to point out that you wouldn't attend a wedding on that day. Most people have no association with April 19th. We were also military, living just outside of Midwest City, and now I am wondering if somehow we went to the same elementary school or something. Hmmm...

laladypoet · September 2009

yep, I do try.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2009

I wouldn't do it. Mainly because it's a very, very rough day for one of my close friends who will be at my wedding. (Of course, she likes to spend the day with friends to take her mind off her father, but it would still be hard.) Plus, that's what your anniversary would be. Not that other people don't have that anniversary or that birthday, but why do that to yourself to save a few bucks?And I am NOT against saving a few bucks, just not for something as important as my anniversary.

Pirata13 · September 2009

Kelly--when's your bday? I am November. yeah we're super stoked to have the RD on Friday the 13th!

tlv204 · September 2009

I skimmed a couple of the posts, but my 2 cents is that I agree with those who said it's important to keep living, and I think it's been long enough personally. But like many others with this opinion, I didn't lose anyone close to me on that day. I know it's not at all the same, but we got married on D-Day. Also, my friend has her birthday on 9-11 and hasn't been sulking every year for the past 9 years because of it. It doesn't "suck" to have that as a birthday, it's still her birthday.

Moneypenny424 · September 2009

I personally think it is a little soon, but then again, I also know people affected by it. While the majority of the difference between 12/7 and 9/11 is time, the bombing of Pearl Harbor also wasn't known as "12/7" the way that the events of 9/11 are. I'd still go to a wedding on 9/11 though, I just wouldn't throw my own.

Ciaram22 · September 2009

Go for it! Even if you live in NY or DC. Life has to go on. You can't not choose a date just because something tragic happened on it. I new people who died and I know that they wouldn't want the world to stop just because they and thousands of other people died.

lilgina64 · October 2009

think of it this way. A lot of people got married on September 11 before 2001. they celebrate their wedding anniversary every year on 9/11. Unless you are from NYC or DC I agree with most of the girls. Go for it, save the money and give people an opportunity to celebrate something on that day instead of mourning.A nice touch might be to hold a moment of silence for those who were lost or lost loved ones on that day. Nothing huge, just a few seconds to respect the dead just as you would hold a moment of silence for relatives who had passed away(grandparents etc) who could not be at your wedding.

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