Air your grievences.

Steph0871 · December 2010

I flame TK for screwing with the times. I'm all confused now.

beatlesgirl25 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : It might sound disingenuous but it certainly wasn't intended to.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

I know it's tricky when you judge or flame something here, and then someone you like is all, "but that's what we did." It's happened to me before, and you just talk it out. I guess I'm confused as to how you can really feel that people have good reasons for having large WPs, but still judge and disapprove of them.

Anysunrise · December 2010

I'm pretty sure LTZ isn't going to hate us for saying it. If she was, I wouldn't care about offending her anyways.

number55 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:24b9cdf6-7b35-4694-a8e3-ecc4a03e6d2d">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : What's the point of having an opinion at all if you're afraid to share it because it may be contrary to something one of your friends did?
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

<div>I never said I was afraid. I am not afraid of sharing my opinion. In general though (as in IRL) I don't tend to share them unless asked. </div>

betrothed123 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:96745739-8ad1-47b1-847f-11beb795f0e3">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : I know it's tricky when you judge or flame something here, and then someone you like is all, "but that's what we did." It's happened to me before, and you just talk it out. I guess I'm confused as to how you can really feel that people have good reasons for having large WPs, but still judge and disapprove of them.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
Yes this.

maratea · December 2010

EST is the best time zone ever. Unless I'm in CST, in which case, it is the best. I have a hard time figuring out what time zone we are in because we switch during DST. I get the governor wanting to do DST in Indiana, but at least make the entire state be in one time zone.

number55 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : I know it's tricky when you judge or flame something here, and then someone you like is all, "but that's what we did." It's happened to me before, and you just talk it out. I guess I'm confused as to how you can really feel that people have good reasons for having large WPs, but still judge and disapprove of them.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>Let me clarify...they have reasons that seem good to them, not necessarily to me.

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AllAboutTheBenjamin · December 2010

I think 8 person wedding parties are ridiculous if you are just having them because you want a ton of bridesmaids, or if you want to include every single last friend, cousin or sister, or if you just want to match your husband's side of attendants. But if that's the number that just happens because those are truly the 8 people closest to you for whatever reason - I don't really side-eye that.

I was a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding a few years ago - but she never even asked me to be a bridesmaid. She was planning the wedding fast, and I was one of her roommates, so we told her we would take her shopping and help her look for everything. I tried on BM dresses for her. She picked one. And then when they were up front paying for the wedding dress, she asked me what size dress I needed. I love this girl, she's awesome - but she has a TON of friends from high school that were all in the wedding, and when she picked me and a couple other college friends, I admit, we felt kinda like we were filler bridesmaids. Maybe we were and maybe we weren't, but, something just felt weird about it.

betrothed123 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:c5be03d1-7017-410c-bb17-3a3300462554">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : I never said I was afraid. I am not afraid of sharing my opinion. In general though (as in IRL) I don't tend to share them unless asked.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]
Now you're just playing a semantics game. You don't want to share them because someone you know may have done whatever it is you disagree with. Fear or not, my point still stands.

number55 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:fe314879-29ab-4b63-a18d-4f5e82ae341a">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : Now you're just playing a semantics game. You don't want to share them because someone you know may have done whatever it is you disagree with. Fear or not, my point still stands.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

<div>Not semantics to me but I feel like we are talking in circles and I am not sure what I am arguing anymore. You can think whatever you want about my 'backing down' from my judgement, I don't really see it as me backing down, I still don't like huge wedding parties.</div>

beatlesgirl25 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:2a76d706-0501-4e5f-ac51-e0e4a9eda218">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : Let me clarify...they have reasons that seem good to them, not necessarily to me.
Posted by number55[/QUOTE]

Okay, I get that. But then it just seems that you were placating LTZ by giving the impression that you weren't judging her decision, when in reality you still were. I'm not trying to stay on you for this, it just seemed like a weird way to go about it.

I like AATB's description of what makes her judge or not judge a huge WP. That's how it should be done, and allows for exceptions based on reasoning and not friendship. Also, I totally agree, AATB.

Celles · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:a37e7b3a-e4c0-40dc-96e0-0fc114006ee8">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]EST is the best time zone ever. Unless I'm in CST, in which case, it is the best. I have a hard time figuring out what time zone we are in because we switch during DST. I get the governor wanting to do DST in Indiana, but at least make the entire state be in one time zone.
Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]

I feel this pain.

number55 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:6be2542e-c1f1-49c7-96b4-cca5669243e3">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : Okay, I get that. But then it just seems that you were placating LTZ by giving the impression that you weren't judging her decision, when in reality you still were. I'm not trying to stay on you for this, it just seemed like a weird way to go about it. I like AATB's description of what makes her judge or not judge a huge WP. That's how it should be done, and allows for exceptions based on reasoning and not friendship. Also, I totally agree, AATB.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes and to be fair, this is how I actually judge it IRL. One of DHs friends is engaged and she made a comment about having to ask all the girls' that she had been a BM for to be BMs and how big the group was going to be. I didn't say anything but I side eyed it. Since then she has changed her stance on it and from what I understand, she isn't necessarily doing it anymore.</div>

LessThanZero · December 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm pretty sure LTZ isn't going to hate us for saying it. If she was, I wouldn't care about offending her anyways.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]

Yeah I really took it as a general statement. I wasn't going to go and boot people out of my WP because of it. I saw it the way AATB said as there's a difference (at least to me) about having a large WP just because you want a bunch of random people to be in it as opposed to just happening to have a larger group of people close to you, that you'd want to share that with.

Plus you couldn't offend me if you tried, Any. Go ahead and try!! : P

chirpchirp · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:ff24a96e-2785-4dc0-8876-b292e4f1a58d">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]I flame JennaV for saying that some bad mothers should be involuntarily sterilized. Yes, there are some AWFUL parents that need to have their kids removed, and/or get psychological care or even be incarcerated. But sterilize them?
Posted by allisong23[/QUOTE]

Unless I'm mistaken, I don't think JennaV had that opinion. I thought it was a link from the bump? I could have missed an unpop opinion thread where Jenna did say that, but YIO saying Hitler was brought into it makes me think it was one of the crazies from the bump.

ETA: <a href="http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/44893333.aspx?MsdVisit=1">http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/44893333.aspx?MsdVisit=1</a>

beatlesgirl25 · December 2010

Well geez Number, why didn't ya say that in the first place?

Instead it came off that you think large WPs are the suck, period. Hence my perception of your backpedaling.

My personal take on expressing WR opinions on these boards is that it's usually better to be more specific ahead of time if you're going to side-eye something, because chances are someone you know and love is planning on doing it. And once that's revealed, anything you say is going to seem like placating your buddy.

maratea · December 2010

LTZ- I feel like your cat is judging me. And he looks offended. So by association, you are now offended, yes?

But judgy kitty is super cute.

laurenclaire1386 · December 2010

I don't have any grievances, but Beatles, I love your cat in the Christmas tree picture. That's Monkey, right? He looks like he's daring me to tell him to get out of the Christmas tree.

LessThanZero · December 2010

Thanks Mara. She does judge alot. Last night she followed me around judging me because her food bowl was only half full instead of filled to the brim, God forbid that happen.

ETA: I honestly just looked at the sig pic again after replying to you and she really does look like she's being such a jerk. She's got that "I'm s superior to you" look on her face.

betrothed123 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:3f481e11-5e02-4f01-bb33-bd35e3d576f1">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]Well geez Number, why didn't ya say that in the first place? ;) Instead it came off that you think large WPs are the suck, period. Hence my perception of your backpedaling. My personal take on expressing WR opinions on these boards is that it's usually better to be more specific ahead of time if you're going to side-eye something, because chances are someone you know and love is planning on doing it. And once that's revealed, anything you say is going to seem like placating your buddy.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
Beatles certainly has a way with words :)

Celles · December 2010

This is more of a confession than a grievance, but: I confess that when I saw wedding pictures on FB of a friend of a friend who had a ginormous wedding party (seriously! -- a dozen on each side!), I was instantly jealous of all the amazing group action shots they managed. If I were rich and friendless, I would totally hire extras for my wedding party.

We'd also ride hot air balloons to the reception, and the balloons would coordinate with my wedding colors.

beatlesgirl25 · December 2010

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[QUOTE]I don't have any grievances, but Beatles, I love your cat in the Christmas tree picture. That's Monkey, right? He looks like he's daring me to tell him to get out of the Christmas tree.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

Haha, yes that's Monkey! I think we named him aptly. And yeah, that's pretty much what he was doing. Trying to pull him out of the tree only results in him grabbing whatever he can to take down with him. We spray him with water, but he just braces himself until we're done. So all we can do at that point is take pictures!

beatlesgirl25 · December 2010

Well how's this then: "I heart B."

I'm a poet, don't you know.

LessThanZero · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:f1b29a21-5fbc-4419-8e22-0eff363064a2">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]This is more of a confession than a grievance, but: I confess that when I saw wedding pictures on FB of a friend of a friend who had a ginormous wedding party (seriously! -- a dozen on each side!), I was instantly jealous of all the amazing group action shots they managed. If I were rich and friendless, I would totally hire extras for my wedding party. We'd also ride hot air balloons to the reception, and the balloons would coordinate with my wedding colors.
Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

Oh c'mon you'd have to take it further than that! The hot air balloons would have to have each of your faces on them so that you could demand that NASA give you the satellite pics of all of your heads floating above earth for your wedding album.

maratea · December 2010

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[QUOTE]Thanks Mara. She does judge alot. <strong>Last night she followed me around judging me because her food bowl was only half full instead of filled to the brim, God forbid that happen.</strong> ETA: I honestly just looked at the sig pic again after replying to you and she really does look like she's being such a jerk. She's got that "I'm s superior to you" look on her face.
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]

Our cat does this all the time. It's like she gets afraid her bowl will go empty before I make a trip to the basement and "omgmomfeedmenowmeow!" I feel bad because she gets under my feet and I'll accidentally kick her or I'll trip and step on her paw.

betrothed123 · December 2010

Oh yeah, I just remembered another flame I had. I wanted to flame YIO for her comment in the "Dont' call me Shirley" thread. Due to Meg's response I know I'm not the only person that read it as eagerness for the next celebrity to go. It was really creepy to me.

J&K10910 · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:496bc7c7-80cb-45ab-8429-97ee32e09465">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh yeah, I just remembered another flame I had. I wanted to flame YIO for her comment in the "Dont' call me Shirley" thread. Due to Meg's response I know I'm not the only person that read it as eagerness for the next celebrity to go. It was really creepy to me.
Posted by betrothed123[/QUOTE]

That was creepy and odd to me too. Regardless of whether it was eagerness or just curiosity, I don't get my kicks sitting around and speculating on things like that, so it was very odd to me.

LessThanZero · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:824044d7-20cb-4b46-bbc6-51198c3da659">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Air your grievences. : Our cat does this all the time. It's like she gets afraid her bowl will go empty before I make a trip to the basement and "omgmomfeedmenowmeow!" I feel bad because she gets under my feet and I'll accidentally kick her or I'll trip and step on her paw.
Posted by maratea[/QUOTE]

Yeah same here. She follows me around a lot even regardless of food. I know cats are curious but my goodness! She tried to follow me into the bathroom the other day and I didn't realize she was right behind me and went to shut the door. It's a good thing I didn't push too hard because her paw got caught and all I heard was "MMMEEOOWWW!!!"

I felt really bad. Especially when I walked out and saw her sitting on the floor, licking her paw with hatred in her eyes, haha.

marissa_claire · December 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_its-wednesday-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:ed3a44fb-205a-4952-8443-64939111943ePost:14ff3331-a29c-4e18-b2e9-664da5818e55">Re: Air your grievences.</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks Mara. She does judge alot. Last night she followed me around judging me because her food bowl was only half full instead of filled to the brim, God forbid that happen. ETA: I honestly just looked at the sig pic again after replying to you and she really does look like she's being such a jerk. She's got that "I'm s superior to you" look on her face.
Posted by LessThanZero[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>My cat does the same. Have you seen Simon's Cat? <a href="http://www.simonscat.com">(link)</a>

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AllAboutTheBenjamin · December 2010

I have co-workers who are fascinated with famous people dying. They actually compile a list every year of celebrities they think are going to die, and they get excited when someone dies and they "got it right." Freaking weird.

Air your grievences.

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