NWR: Dog Question...

ggmae · October 2009

Call me crazy, but I allow my cats on the bed and would never allow a dog. I really have no good reason why, but I grew up in a home where a dog's place was on the floor and not on the furniture. I think that if we had had a smaller dog though, it would have been allowed on furniture. When DH and I get a dog, we plan to train it to stay on the floor.In your case though, I agree with allowing Oscar on the bed when it's just you, but not lying to your H if he asks about it.

HDutko · October 2009

Both dogs sleep in the bed, and Joe has no problem with it. It's me that the dogs annoy all night. I think your DH could learn to get over it, but it;s definately a choice you guys hould make together because it is going to be confusing to your puppy.

goheels05 · October 2009

I did it when Possum was a puppy. Wes would put her back in her crate after breakfast, and her little beagle whining broke my heart, so I let her curl up with me. She knows to stay off the bed otherwise.

lpstl · October 2009

Yeah, I'm working from home today and our yet to be named puppy dog is laying on the couch with her head in my lap. I just yesterday convinced H that letting her on one piece of furniture would be ok.Neither one of us want her sleeping in the bed though, she's crate trained and loves her little cave. I'm afraid if we didn't put her in there at night we'd undo the training. Plus she runs around outside, and although we wipe her feet off when she comes in, you know there's still gotta be some dirt on those paws.That being said, I wouldn't have the heart to kick oscar out of bed.

carrieoz_76 · October 2009

Yea, my Ozzie always used to sleep on my bed, then FI was around and didn't want him on there so I tried to keep him in the laundry room on his bed with the gate up at night. Then I didn't like that b/c I felt bad for him and frankly, he's like a real live teddy bear - I like sleeping with him cuddled next to me. So back on the bed he came. Then FI and I moved in together, and we tried to compromise by having Oz sleep on the floor on a blanket next to the bed, which worked ... until we were asleep and then up he'd be, back on the bed. We're now to the point where he sleeps on the bed, and if I'm up before FI, he stays on the bed with FI. He's a major snuggler, and I think over time he just wore FI down. Plus, he's toasty warm.

So, just be warned that you may need to work something else out if Oscar starts to try to push things and get on the bed when your H is home.

mmm_080809 · October 2009

I love our puppy Mollie. She's sweet and adorable and oh so cuddly. But she's not allowed on the bed. It's not an allergy issue for me - it's that she's a dog and I don't want our dog on the furniture. I sleep in those sheets, and as wonderful as she is and as much as I love her, I don't want her dirty paws where I sleep. If I found out DH let her on the bed after I got up in the morning, I would have a HUUUUUUGE problem with it, and with him. I think it's wrong of you to keep this secret from your DH, and I think you two need to come to an agreement together on where the dog is and isn't allowed to be.

buddhagouda · October 2009

I honestly can't get on board with the "What he doesn't know won't hurt him" mantra. My husband is more important to me than my dog. If we had decided together that the dog wasn't supposed to be on the bed, I wouldn't sneak around behind his back and let the dog up. It's dishonest. There's no way to sugar coat that. It just is.

clseale13 · October 2009

Ehhhh...I can see how it's tempting...but it's not a good idea. For those that don't see the harm in it...for her DH I would guess it's a cleanliness issue. We wash our dog once and week...but he's still a dog. I snuggle w/him all of the time, but not on our bed. They shed, they have dander and they're dirty. Many people don't want that where they sleep. If he thinks it's gross and then it's done behind his back, it's wrong. Most trainers would also tell it's a bad idea. It's the whole,"leader of the pack would never allow other dogs to share his bed thing."

JaimeeP · October 2009

Teach Oscar that he can only get on the bed (or other furniture) with your or DH's permission. Otherwise, he may start to challenge DH over his 'territory', by growling, biting or marking (peeing).

katiewhompus · October 2009

At our house I'm the mean one who won't let the dog on the bed. In my defense though, she's an 80 pound dog who lets out some lethal gas at night and drools a lot. She's also old enough now that she can't get on the bed herself or get off of it herself. When we first started living together I caved in one night and let her sleep on the bed. I woke up on the floor with the cat while dh was asleep spooning the dog. My bed now.Then again, if we had a dog who was under...say..50 pounds, I'd probably be ok with it.

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