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Agree or Disagree?

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Re: Agree or Disagree?

  • ddelo23ddelo23
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    edited December 2011
    I will state this again: "And either way, yes it's MY wedding, but my mom was excited too, and it was also a day for her to be proud, happy and excited. Why should I take that away from her by not letting her rejoice with her friends too?"there are plenty of reasons that your parents may have a close friend that you haven't met.  doesn't mean that your mom or dad shouldn't be able to celebrate their happiness with them too!!  Unless their not really celebrating, which in your case, I wouldn't doubt!
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  • erikag23erikag23
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    edited December 2011
    well, if brad is anything like his parents i can see why their guest list is so small.
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  • I <3 SeabassI <3 Seabass
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    edited December 2011
    Brad ~ Why is it a problem for you if you've never met them? Like I said assuming money isn't an issue, what's the big deal with meeting people at your wedding?
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  • littledaisieslittledaisies member
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    edited December 2011
    I disagree with it. Even if they pay for the entire wedding, it's still not their wedding so I don't think they should have full control of the guest list. They had their chance to have a wedding now it's their children's turn.  Maybe things are different with me but I pretty much know all of my parents friends. If I didn't know who they were, why would I want them celebrating one of the biggest days with me?
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  • erikag23erikag23
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    edited December 2011
    littledaises~ you must be brad's fi.
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  • brad1431brad1431
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    edited December 2011
    well put little daisy
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  • cvl105cvl105
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    edited December 2011
    littledaises - because it's also one of the biggest days of your parents lives and they want to share it with all their friends too. I don't live with my parents anymore and haven't for a long time. I also didn't go out with them when they went out with friends...so it's quite possible I don't know all their friends.
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  • erikag23erikag23
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    edited December 2011
    littledaisy and brad are two peas in a pod. 
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  • littledaisieslittledaisies member
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    edited December 2011
    erikag23- I guess I'm not allowed to have an opinion since it's different from yours. That's funny because you freaked out earlier at this brad person for the same thing.
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  • erikag23erikag23
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    edited December 2011
    oh littledaises, go play in traffic ;)  see it is annoying, right?  now you know how the rest of us feel when brad posts.
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  • I <3 SeabassI <3 Seabass
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    edited December 2011
    If I didn't know who they were, why would I want them celebrating one of the biggest days with me?Why wouldn't you? Are you socially inept? Are you allergic to strangers? I really don't get it. Someone please explain to me why it's such a big deal to drink and eat with people that are close to your parents but that you've never met before.
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  • Lola MinnieLola Minnie member
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    edited December 2011
    Socially inept = hits the nail on the head.
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  • littledaisieslittledaisies member
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    edited December 2011
    cv105- I understand what you're saying but I personally wouldn't want to celebrate with my parents business associates or golf buddies like the original post states. I prefer keeping my guest list to close family and friends that know me and can truly appreciate the day. I don't see how someone I never met can be excited and happy for us.
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  • cvl105cvl105
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    edited December 2011
    Because they are friends with your parents and want to celebrate with them.
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  • I <3 SeabassI <3 Seabass
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    edited December 2011
    I don't see how someone I never met can be excited and happy for us.Well then that's just sad.
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  • goaliegirlgoaliegirl member
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    edited December 2011
    When we got married both of our parents invited some of their friends whom we had never met.   Those people knew so much about us from knowing our parents, because obviously our parents talk about us.   And since we had heard about these people, it was cool to meet them in person, and we were honored that they would come celebrate in our day.  And it meant alot to our parents to have their friends there to celebrate with them.  And we paid for a majority of the wedding ourselves, and we still wanted our parents to have some of their friends there!
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  • brad1431brad1431
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    edited December 2011
    cvl my parents have their favorite waiter at Cheesecake factory, can he come too?  How about my mom's workout class, are they invited?  My dad should invite all his umpire buddies too, my brother's bowling buddies get an invite, and my nieces  and nephew's day care they can all come, they are all friends with people I care about, so they should all come along too, right?Or is that a little ridiculous, just like your parents inviting people you never met to your wedding????
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  • Dizzy1687Dizzy1687 member
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    edited December 2011
    I know a wedding is a big deal, but I don't really consider it "Your Day" per say.
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  • ddelo23ddelo23
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    edited December 2011
    Brad that's just retarded - no one is saying invite these completely random people.  But if your mom or dad is close with someone, or feels that they are close enough to invite them, then who gives a shyte???  Maybe they spend day in and day out with someone at work, and talk about you all the time, so this person knows a lot about you.  Just because they don't know YOU, doesn't mean they can't be happy and excited for your parents and join in the celebration.
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  • Lola MinnieLola Minnie member
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    edited December 2011
    Brad, I really hope you do not procreate and bring children into the world with these views.
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  • ddelo23ddelo23
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    edited December 2011
    Brad - arguing with you is like treating a yeast infection with a loaf of wonder bread.  It's almost sickening.
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  • Dizzy1687Dizzy1687 member
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    edited December 2011
    He's not, he's saving his fi's wedding gown for his nieces.  Strange I tell ya.
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  • mrs.spunky1508mrs.spunky1508
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    edited December 2011
    Exactly Laurie! My mom's coworkers, who were not invited btw, last time I was in for my eye exam were all gushing about the wedding pictures my mom showed them, pictures of our dog, how much my mom talks about us, our house, our dog, my H's recent promotion and this and that. They don't "know" me but it made me feel good that my mom actually talks about her life outside of work, how proud of me she is, etc.
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  • I <3 SeabassI <3 Seabass
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    edited December 2011
    Brad ~ Are you ignoring me or do you just not have a good answer to my question? Why are you so opposed to meeting people for the first time at your wedding?
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  • Lola MinnieLola Minnie member
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    edited December 2011
    He ignores negative comments towards him and only responds when he agrees with something.  It's his method at getting under our skin.
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  • brad1431brad1431
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    edited December 2011
    seabass, I thought I did, a wedding is to celebrate the joining of two families, why would I invite a stranger to our wedding to celebrate the joining of two families when the person doesnt know either family.  To me it is like uppereast said, some upety ahole father trying to show off to his golf, business, or political buddies.  Maybe if it is one or two people who for whatever circumstances you couldnt meet, but I am talking when 25% plus of the guests are strangers, cause daddy had to invite his buddies to show off.  If my father invited 1 person I havent met, I would just make a point of meeting that person before the wedding.
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  • mrs.spunky1508mrs.spunky1508
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    edited December 2011
    "seabass, I thought I did, a wedding is to celebrate the joining of two families, why would I invite a stranger to our wedding to celebrate the joining of two families when the person doesnt know either family." But they DO know either family, they know either FIL or MIL or my mom or dad. Family =/= every person I am related to. I am married to my H. We are a family. My mom & dad and my MIL and FIL are also my family but they do not know everyone my family knows, as in everyone my H and I (who are a part of their family) know! Your view of family is messed up if that is the case.
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    I have nothing to say except I am so glad I don't have to see brads asinine responses I now heart the make brad shut up button. Oh and I really hope what pp said about his nieces with the gown is not true!
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  • brad1431brad1431
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    edited December 2011
    mrs spunky, but they dont know the bride and groom and isnt that kinda the point of a wedding???  Why not invite your FIL mailman, they are friends, and the mailman's wife, and all their family, and their family has friends, then invite the entire world, cause we are all related at some pointthere has to be a cutoff...
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  • njbrowneyedgrl74njbrowneyedgrl74 member
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    edited December 2011
    I invited all my aunts/unlces (except one of my mom's sisters because she and her family are crappy people)and first cousins.  I then asked for a list from Mike's dad.  His list was a lot bigger than Mike or I expected, but most did not come thankfully.  If we could have afforded more, the more the merrier.  Mom and Dad chose not to invite their friends/co-workers because of the money, but I would have been to happy to have them there.  It's your wedding, but it's their celebration as well.  They are proud of the adult you have become and also of the mate you chose to spend your life with(in most cases).  Yes, they want to show you off in a way, but they just want to celebrate such a milestone.Lisa Beth
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