Poll: Kids

BalletBride620 · October 2009

We are waiting four or five years for a number of reasons. We want "us" time for one. We have some friends our age who have a baby and they have to leave him with someone every time they go to a movie, go to a wedding, etc. Two, we are nowhere near financially stable. Three, TJ gets annoyed when he hears babies cry at restaurants and the store.. he def needs to get over that before we have one 24/7!

BalletBride620 · October 2009

Oh yeah and I'll be 26 at that point.

smileysara2008 · October 2009

FI and I want to wait at least 4 years right now - that would make me 27 and him 28. I really want to be as stable as possible before we even attempt having children. Both my siblings have children (my brother just became a father to a BEAUTIFUL baby girl about 2 weeks ago), so my parents are fine with waiting - FI's parents really want a grandchild, but they know we need to be in a better place before we think about that.If we can't have children, I definitely want to adopt like PP said. I know no matter what, I want to be a mom and FI wants to be a dad.

cherrrylll · October 2009

how long after your wedding do you plan on waiting before you start trying to concieve? A year or 2How old will you be when you start trying? 29 or 30 for me, 33 or 34 for him.

prlmrg08 · October 2009

We started trying right away because dd was 4 and ds was 9... It will be right at 14 months when our LO is born from when we got married

SarahandAlex2010 · October 2009

I think we will wait a year or two. We already have one and I would want them to be a little close in age. We talked about traveling a little with our baby girl and take her places we have never been such as disney world, etc and than we will try to have another one. I know I want it to be just us three for awhile. FI and I have dated for 6 years.

Bobbysprncss · October 2009

We're planning on waiting at least 4 years. We've been in a long distance relationship for 5 years and we need some "us" time. I will be 29 and he will be 30, unless we decide to start sooner.

llc_lauren & chris · October 2009

We'll probably wait a couple years after we get married, that would put us around 29 or 30 when we have kids. Hoping to get some more traveling in before the kids comes, although we do plan on traveling with them when they are old enough. I loved traveling with my family when I was young and want to be able to give those experiences to my kids as well.

juliebug1997 · October 2009

We started trying officially a couple of months ago. I'm 34 now--35 in 18 days.

appletango85 · October 2009

After my miscarriage, David said he would be fine with having kids next year...it was at least 2 years. So I am thinking honeymoon baby(June of next year).We'll both be 25.Neither my parents nor his parents have any grandbabies so they are anxiously waiting hahaha. They were SO excited when we told them about my pregnancy even though we warned them it might not be a go. They were really supportive when it turned out to be a m/c but it has stopped the baby talk for awhile lmao! Probably the wedding being so close gives them something else to think about as well. If I get pregnant next summer then I should have all the classes needed for my associates degree finished end of that fall so I can take the spring semester off and go back the next fall to start my next degree lol

Jay&Marissa · October 2009

We started trying officially a couple of months ago. I'm 34 now--35 in 18 days. Congrats and good luck Julie!There really is no good time for us since the next 8-10 years of our life will be occupied by his medical school and residency. However, since we want 4-6 kids, we have to start relatively early...I think we might try during his 3rd/4th year of med school, meaning we'll both be 25/26.We'd be okay with having a child earlier, though--we are both baby crazy now, already!And I definitely want to adopt an older child (3-6 years old) somewhere down the line.

maykious · October 2009

I applaud you on your decision to adopt an older child, Marissa. If you feel the call to do that, you absolutely should. That situation will be very tough on both child and family, but it will also be wonderful. There are so many kids who need it so badly. You will change someone's life one day.

tnickel06 · October 2009

I don't plan on having kids until at least 27/28, so it will be 6 years after we get married. I have school to finish and I want to get settled in my career before I start. FI is a year older than me so it doesn't matter age-wise.

Jay&Marissa · October 2009

There are so many kids who need it so badly. You will change someone's life one day.That is exactly how I feel. I want kids of my own, but I feel like I am the type of person who really could love a non-biological child as my own. Plus, I'm assuming we would have the resources to adopt by that point, so all the more reason. Jay actually has some reservations about it, but I figure we can work that out in 10-15 years :)On another note, you can adopt domestically very inexpensively. The catch is, there are no babies--all older children/multiple child families/babies with problems. There are tons of these poor kids sitting right here in Texas! My mom looks through the website occasionally--she always wanted to adopt more.

maykious · October 2009

It's an amazing thing. My parents adopted a set of sisters at the ages of ten and sixteen. There were some issues with their biological families that made things difficult, but I think they made a big difference overall.

megandchase · October 2009

how long after your wedding do you plan on waiting before you start trying to concieve? 2-3 years depending on finances How old will you be when you start trying? we will both be 25/26 We have been together 6 1/2 years now but only married 3 months. If it were up to me I would have one tom!!! I love kids... I have nannied for years and am a teacher now. I love children and can't wait to have my own, DH needs some time lol

amber&richard05 · October 2009

We really want kids, but just not right now, like pp have said I like going out and doing what I please and when I please. My niece, is the closet thing I will have to a kid until either my sister has another one (which she says when Cecilia is two they are going for another one). We like being able to go out and spend money on the things I want, doing the things we want. We had it in our heads that we wanted children right after we got married, but the way my sisters life changed after Cecilia, changed our rush, not because she doesn't bring joy to everyones life but because they have to find a babysitter or chose diapers or fast food, we are to selfish right now is what it comes down to. We at least want to wait a year, I do see myself having a kid before 25 though. I wanted to have one kid and then adopt another, but Richard doesn't want it that way. He has that mentality that one day they will end up hating each other because of it, or it being thrown it in the adopted child's face. I could see where he was coming from so, I just compromised, but told him that if he ever changes his mind let me know, because it was something I always have seen as a possibility in my future.

maykious · October 2009

Post-poning kids because you realize you're feeling selfish right now is just about the least-selfish thing you could do. I have issues with people who don't use birth control but complain about all their issues with their kids and are obviously bad parents--even worse are people who don't use any birth control out of laziness and just hope they don't get pregnant. If you weren't ready to be a responsible parent, you could have easily prevented it.I'm feeling selfish right now, too. I'm not ready for my life to change. I need to get this part of my life figured out before I can turn it upside down. Babies change everything. Period. Everyone who has ever had a child will tell you that.

SCbrideinTX · October 2009

Very well put Amy : )

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