I have no clue where to post this so I thought this might be as good a place as any. Long story short, fiance and I have been together for almost 8 years, engaged almost 3 years. After alot of happenings we've decided it would be beneficial to us to get married this year. We still want to have our "real wedding" next year as planned though. So the question is what do we exchange during the courthouse vows? How do we keep it from being known at work when we update our status and insurance? What do we say to people who find out before we've told anyone? Will the church still "marry" us next year? The last one is our biggest worry. We'll be talking with the church next month before we have the courthouse wedding but right now just looking for advice and anyone who's done something similar. Thanks.