If YOU were a guest, what would you do?

bmerante · November 2009

Hi ladies! I have a question for you guys! We have not set a wedding date as of yet, but we know that it is going to be sometime this summer. We are trying to cut down on costs (as well as everybody else here I'm sure!!), and one thing that would definitely cut down on cost is having a weekday wedding! I wish my church actually performed weddings on Sundays, but unfortunately they do not. My idea is this: have all OOT guests that want to spend the whole weekend with me & my family (all of my family and friends & his are OOT) come in on Friday or Saturday (or whenever they want) and have the wedding on Monday morning with a lunch reception! But my question for you all is this: If you were a guest at somebody's wedding that you were close to, would you travel if it was held on a Monday? My parents are torn as they can see both sides and I can as well. TIA!

kate51485 · November 2009

I really would prefer not to do this; depending on distance people may have to take that Monday and Tuesday off of work.

janedoe1113a · November 2009

Unless you're immediate family or one of my best friends, I would not come to an OOT wedding on a Monday.

saschaduran · November 2009

We had a Monday wedding. But most of our friends and family are in the restaurant/nightclub/retail business so they work every weekend. I would have no problem with it at all. We had very few people unable to make it because of our date.

salt78 · November 2009

I would not travel OOT for a Monday wedding or a Friday wedding. I just declined a Friday wedding in another state this past August.

ggmae · November 2009

Unless you're immediate family or one of my best friends, I would not come to an OOT wedding on a Monday. This.

casblanca2010 · November 2009

If I had to miss work. Which would end up being at least Monday and Tuesday. Probably not. Especially in the summer time when vaca time is precious. Friday evening might work better.

Night_Sprite · November 2009

I wouldn't miss grad school classes for a wedding.

julezlee · November 2009

It would depend on where the wedding is and how close I am to the B&G. I had a very small Friday wedding and everyone came. I also went to my MOH's church ceremony on a Friday. It added some more money and time to our trip (she also had a Saturday wedding), but since it was my best friend, I was fine with it.

MeaghanandMichael · November 2009

By saving money you are asking people to give up a whole days pay? This does not sound reasonable to me.

betrothed123 · November 2009

I wouldn't. Go for a Saturday morning wedding. You'll save money on the reception if you make it a brunch or lunch reception.

charlsie26 · November 2009

I went to a monday wedding this summer, but left early because I had to work the next day. It wasn't one of the most exciting/get up and dance/drink all night type weddings. I think that was the only downfall.

banana468 · November 2009

It really depends on your guests as PPs have said. I don't work in the hospitality industry so depending on who you are, I'd avoid going to a Monday wedding. However that doesn't mean I wouldn't go - just that I think you'd have to expect a small turnout.One thing to think about - as Monday is a common day off for the hospitality industry - you'll have to search for a place that will be open on a Monday. That may already be a large limiting factor.

saschaduran · November 2009

I just realized that I have never in my life had a Monday-Friday job. Saturday is always my busiest day of the week at any job I have had, and I hate taking a Saturday off. I also realize most of the world is the opposite though.

eastunder1 · November 2009

Are you a very dear, close friend of mine or immediate family? I will be there. You could have your wedding at 2am on a Tuesday and I would be there. Anyone on my outter fray of importance, or that I would enjoy attending their wedding but not consider it a must, no I'm not coming to your midday Monday wedding. Just because people WOULD attend doesn't mean it won't inconvience them nonetheless. Its smack in the middle of a workday. These are things you should be considering. I would never do it.

aMrsin09 · November 2009

We had a Wednsday morning wedding, and while no one was OOT, everyone loved having a valid excuse to play hooky from work. Lunch was over at about 3 and from what I hear, everyone headed back to BILs house and had one heck of an after party.

bmerante · November 2009

Thank you ladies for your input! &MeaghanandMichael, I did not ask anybody to do anything. I asked what you would do if you were a guest.

MeaghanandMichael · November 2009

You are right, but it was a bit annoying to hear about all the money you are trying to save/will save and then make the point of asking about a Monday which is a typical 'workday' for many people.

betrothed123 · November 2009

You're just not in my Monkeysphere, sorry. For those in the innermost circle I'd go.

redheadfsu · November 2009

Take Monday & Tuesday off of work? No unless I was a BM. (have to be that close to the couple)

brookelynpaisley · November 2009

Personally, I think you'd have more luck with a Friday. We did a Friday morning wedding and we had a lot of people come from OOT. We didn't hear one complaint. However, I know that for me, a Monday would be harder.

fangsiting · November 2009

A Monday morning wedding sounds dreadfully boring.

bmerante · November 2009

M&M, Well that is why I would consider it. Most people's ideal wedding would be a weekend setting, mine included. I was just looking at different options and trying to think in the mind of a guest.

agk0125 · November 2009

Are you a very dear, close friend of mine or immediate family? I will be there. You could have your wedding at 2am on a Tuesday and I would be there.Exactly this. A dear friend of mine is getting married in Vegas on a Wednesday. We live in NY. Of COURSE I'm going because I wouldn't miss it for the world.We're having a Monday wedding. It works for us because the vast majority of our guest list (including ourselves) work as freelancers. As long as we give them enough notice on the date they can keep the day open regardless of when it falls in the week.Our situation is rare though. I wouldn't have been open to a weekday wedding if the majority of my friends and fam were 9-5ers who lived OOT.

squirrly · November 2009

I normally take at least half a day off to go to an OOT Saturday wedding, as flight times here aren't convenient. Ever. But - I'm expecting to get a great Sat night party out of it. And fly home on Sunday. For a Monday morning wedding, I'd expect a mimosa or two, no dancing, light food, and ultimately an anti-climactic experience. I wouldn't buy a plane ticket unless it's in an awesome location and I could have a cool mini-vaca because of it. If it's local, I might not come at all - because I STILL have to take vacation. Ultimately, unless you're one of my top 10 favorite people on the planet, I'd rsvp no.

jinxed8605 · November 2009

only for family or close friends. And I would come on Sunday and leave monday night most likely.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2009

I'd prefer a Friday evening wedding. But then, I can take a red eye flight to most places I'd need to go for a wedding and just take 1 day off of work. Will your church do Friday?

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · November 2009

What Banana said. I'm pretty sure you won't be able to find a venue and/or several vendors willing to work on a Monday. Friday would probably be a better option. Or, don't have your wedding during peak wedding season. Or visit the budget board for some other money saving tips. To answer your question though, no, I wouldn't come for most people (only my immediate family or best friend). And if I did plan on attending, I wouldn't get into town until Saturday and I would leave immediately following the ceremony on Monday to get back to work on Tuesday. Not exactly a fun trip, and you wouldn't get to spend much time with your guests.

bmerante · November 2009

Yes, they will do Friday at 1pm or 7pm. I guess I really need to make up my mind soon. Everything is getting booked up!

Thank you all so much!

SparrowSong · November 2009

NoI don't get very much vacation time though. But it's pretty unlikely I'll use any for a wedding.

Simply Fated · November 2009

Well, some people have more flexible schedules than other people, including me. In general, it'll definitely cut a lot of costs. Not only are Monday receptions sometimes cheaper, but the guest list will be shortened, so that'll help cut costs, too.

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