2 WEDDINGS

GINARZA · November 2009

We are going to have 2 weddings. One will be December 2009 which will be just immediate family, we are doing this because we will be living together shortly and we want to be right in the eyes of God. We are having the larger more formal wedding and reception in August 2010. I was thinking maybe I should announce that we are already married when I send out save the date cards - Maybe add a little note, not sure how I would word it... or if we should even announce it at all - the thing is I know everyone will find out before then. Any suggestions on how this should be handled?

crfische · November 2009

And with this post, I'm done being helpful for the day. Don't lie to your guests. Just...don't.

nda_roxybabe · November 2009

You definitely need to let everyone know you're marriedWhy not just have one, larger, more formal wedding sooner and all at once?

LP11509 · November 2009

:::pops some popcorn and sits back to watch the show:::

banana468 · November 2009

Be as honest as possible with everyone in how you handle it.Based on how you phrased it, I assume you're having a religious ceremony next month so invite people to the vow renewal in August 2010.

bbyckes · November 2009

Correction. You're having one wedding and one vow renewal. "We're Married! Come Celebrate with Us!" on the STD's. Simple.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2009

Don't do this. Have one wedding. The second will be a sham. And YEAH people would be offended if they didn't know you were already married and spent time and money celebrating what's supposed to be a special day only to find out you were already married and it was all an act. Basically, as an adult, make your own decisions. Either move in together without being married and plan for a big wedding, or wait to move in together and then have the big wedding, or move in together right away and have a small wedding.

Night_Sprite · November 2009

You get one wedding. You don't get two because you want to be okay with God and have permission to fuuck. Live separately until your "real" wedding.If you insist upon a sham wedding, don't lie to people. They will find out and be pissed at you. They will also take back their presents because you are a liar. Do you understand why this is a bad idea yet? I can keep telling you horror stories.

LauraT25 · November 2009

How about not calling the second celebration a wedding (since it's not), and then your save-the-dates can just mention that you're inviting people to celebrate your wedding (which was in December).

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2009

Also, some people do vow renewals, but call them "vow renewals" not weddings. You might consider just doing a big reception for your first anniversary party and inviting people to celebrate if money is an issue now.

sucrets4 · November 2009

WHATEVER YOU DO, MAKE SURE YOU WRITE IN ALL CAPS!!!!!!

punkyb2b · November 2009

Why dont you just have God tell them if its that important to him?

crfische · November 2009

WHAT WAS THAT SOOKY? I DIDNT HEAR YOU!?

sarah0725 · November 2009

Well, don't lie to people about it. If you're going to do that, you need to tell your guests that you did it.I seriously never heard of this "two weddings" thing until I got to the Knot. If I told my mom that people are doing that these days, I think she would faint.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2009

"If I told my mom that people are doing that these days, I think she would faint." Yeah, God might be cool with it, but my friends and family would think it was tacky at best, highly offensive at worst.

[Deleted User] · November 2009

DITTO SUCRETS

ring_pop · November 2009

I'm confused... if God and your immediate families will know that you're married and you'll be right in the eyes of God after the December wedding, but no one else does... what will your marriage be considered in the eyes of everyone else?

Brie2010 · November 2009

You should call it a VOW RENEWAL on the save-the-dates. Anything else is a lie and a sham.

Night_Sprite · November 2009

Ringpop! Ringpop! I know this! Pick me! It will be a sham!

tidetravel · November 2009

if God and your immediate families will know that you're married and you'll be right in the eyes of God after the December wedding, but no one else does... what will your marriage be considered in the eyes of everyone else?If a tree falls in the forest... no?

mocha beans · November 2009

Unless your first ceremony is JOP only with a few witnesses and the second is a big religious/spiritual blowout ceremony and party, this is a bad idea.Have your small ceremony now, but do not call August a wedding. It's a vow renewal, because you are already married in the eyes of god and the state. Be prepared for people to be less than excited at a vow renewal less than a year/10 years later.Either have a ceremony now and live together, and skip the August party, or have the big August ceremony and not live together now, or be okay with living together before marriage.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2009

*shakes head sadly at Tide's answer*

nda_roxybabe · November 2009

Please, please respond before you DD

sucrets4 · November 2009

WHAT???? YOU CAN'T UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M SAYING??? I THOUGHT CAPS AND EXCESSIVE PUNCTUATION (okay, OP didn't use excessive punctuation, but in my mind they go together) MADE IT EASIER FOR PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND MEEEEEE!!!!!!LOLOL, I DON'T KNOW WHY I'M STILL TYPING IN CAPS!!!!HAHAHAHA

crfische · November 2009

WHAT SOOKY?!

nda_roxybabe · November 2009

Sucrets are you by chance channeling someone there?

Mrs.B6302007 · November 2009

bubble gone

sucrets4 · November 2009

roxy, I have no idea what you're talking about. Not a clue. It has NOTHING to do with WW, if that's what you're alluding to.

nda_roxybabe · November 2009

WW whaaat? HahaOP-why no response?!

sucrets4 · November 2009

Yeah, wtf? I don't even know what WW is. My keyboard is just randomly typing things.

nda_roxybabe · November 2009

LOL!!!!11!!!11

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