My FI's brother got engaged about a month ago and since then it's been hell in that house. Not because noone likes her, but because my FIL's have decided to start playing the two couples against each other. First, they couldn't help us with anything, including a rehearsal dinner because they had their wedding to pay for. Okay, fine, they're both in grad school and maybe need more help. But then they turned around and told them that they couldn't pay for anything for them because our rehearsal dinner, (that the finally insisted they would pay for so they could write the guest list), was costing SO many dollars that they couldn't help them. Next it became that we treat them like crap, never want to see them, and make their lives harder. We never see them because they live in another state, and every time we're up there, we try to make every effort to spend at least an afternoon with them. We're all trying, we're just so different. I just can't take being told that i'm being a terrible "sibling" when we're all genuinely trying. The most recent is my mother in law's insistence that I should've asked FSIL to be in the bridal party. I didn't ask because they weren't engaged, and for all I knew, might or might not be together by the time the wedding rolled around. Now they're engaged, but we're a month and a half from my wedding! What was I supposed to do?
Am I being too sensitive or are they being irrational?
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