Okay, i'm gonna start off by saying that 6 months ago i moved across country already knowing i would be my best friend's MOH and would be travelling back home for the wedding (which cost a lot in the end).
I just got engaged last week and i had already discussed with my bff that when i got married she would probably be my MOH and only bm. Because of the fact that my family and my fh's family live on opposite sides of the country we decided that Las Vegas would be the best option. It's cheap for both sides, and cheap to get married there in general.
Here is the part that hurts me; i know i was the one that moved away but i sacrificed a lot to be a part of her wedding. The plane ticket was a lot, not to mention all the stuff that comes along with being the MOH (throwing parties etc.). My then bf had to miss 3 days of work, and being that he's the only one bringing in money it cost us a lot. She knows all of this. So when i tell her when we want to get married she says she can't miss a single day of school and there is no way she can be there. So i keep trying to give her options and she shoots them all down.
I'm basically having to pick a date around her schedule of school and her honeymoon. It just hurts me that she can't compromise a little with me to be there for me on my day like i was for her.
As it stands right now, i feel like she's avoiding me (thru text) because she doesn't want to deal with this whole situation. I need to set a date, soon. I'm trying to make myself, and my fh happy while still having the second most important person (for me) at my very small wedding.