Why are Stripclubs the go to thing for Bachelor parties?

regansma · January 2012

NoAngelx....lol You won't get postive feedback from SOME ppl on here. So essentially, you are already ahead by giving up. Some of these peeps read into YOUR every word and fault you for doing the same.... I do understand your use of the word "traditional" regarding B-parties. We will leave it at that.

regansma · January 2012

So, now you stand corrected. *smiles*

NcsuPsych · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_stripclubs-thing-bachelor-parties?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:17ca7fdd-2f0b-4612-bd55-1671b53755d6Post:dc647ca4-f133-4d79-b842-7194f631ebdb">Re: Why are Stripclubs the go to thing for Bachelor parties?</a>:
[QUOTE]NoAngelx....lol You won't get postive feedback from <strong>SOME ppl on here</strong>. So essentially, you are already ahead by giving up. Some of these peeps read into YOUR every word and fault you for doing the same.... I do understand your use of the word "traditional" regarding B-parties. We will leave it at that. :)
Posted by regansma[/QUOTE]

Care to share more about who these 'some people' are?

AllAboutTheBenjamin · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_stripclubs-thing-bachelor-parties?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:17ca7fdd-2f0b-4612-bd55-1671b53755d6Post:dc647ca4-f133-4d79-b842-7194f631ebdb">Re: Why are Stripclubs the go to thing for Bachelor parties?</a>:
[QUOTE]NoAngelx....lol You won't get postive feedback from SOME ppl on here. So essentially, you are already ahead by giving up. Some of these peeps read into YOUR every word and fault you for doing the same.... I do understand your use of the word "traditional" regarding B-parties. We will leave it at that. :)
Posted by regansma[/QUOTE]

Please. Chase those chill pills with cold water, they'll go down smoother.

regansma · January 2012

Oh nooo.. sorry. I'm referring to an earlier chat where I was bum-rushed for every word I typed. I am "dumb"...a "12 year old".... "asked a stupid question"... it was great. It's like, TK bullying..lol

regansma · January 2012

lol... the fun continues. Useless, really.

AllAboutTheBenjamin · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_stripclubs-thing-bachelor-parties?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:17ca7fdd-2f0b-4612-bd55-1671b53755d6Post:5ffcb9cb-3de0-4206-9060-3489751b93ad">Re: Why are Stripclubs the go to thing for Bachelor parties?</a>:
[QUOTE]lol... the fun continues. Useless, really.
Posted by regansma[/QUOTE]

it only continues because you keep going... so... there's that.

ArynBaker · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_stripclubs-thing-bachelor-parties?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:17ca7fdd-2f0b-4612-bd55-1671b53755d6Post:5ffcb9cb-3de0-4206-9060-3489751b93ad">Re: Why are Stripclubs the go to thing for Bachelor parties?</a>:
[QUOTE]lol... the fun continues. Useless, really.
Posted by regansma[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm coming in on this thread late (I always do) but you seem to be the one that wants to continue the "fun"</div><div>
</div><div>Side note/back to stripclubs. My FI is a bouncer at a strip club. Because of this he won't be going to one for his bachelor party. He said it'd feel too much like being at work. </div>

regansma · January 2012

In this particular post yes i did. People come to the site looking for feedback, not put-downs and negative remarks. Its easy to get wrapped up in defending yourself, so I apologize.

crash2729 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_stripclubs-thing-bachelor-parties?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:17ca7fdd-2f0b-4612-bd55-1671b53755d6Post:a1c00e4b-be0c-4d8e-a1e4-6676c3110111">Re: Why are Stripclubs the go to thing for Bachelor parties?</a>:
[QUOTE]In this particular pos<strong>t yes i did</strong>. People come to the site looking for feedback, not put-downs and negative remarks<strong>. Its easy to get wrapped up in defending yourself, so I apologize.</strong>
Posted by regansma[/QUOTE]
Did what? <div>But you came over here all up in arms so you weren't defending yourself you sought them out.
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j_jaye · January 2012

Personally I have nothing against strip clubs or the ladies that work there- at least they have a job!

I don't understand why some people get so hell bent on blaming strip clubs and the workers for the actions of individuals. It is a paid service- if someone wasn't flashing the cash then these women would be now where near the male guest.

Personally I would think women would be more worried about their partners going to nightclubs. Some of the things I have seen at those out shine any moves of a stripper and the women often have the same amount of clothes or lack thereof on as a stripper! The difference is that this isn't a paid transaction- those women are doing it because they "like" the male.

So if you are wanting to stamp out strip clubs for bachelor parties wouldn't it also seem fair that nightclubs be on that list as well?

blush64 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_stripclubs-thing-bachelor-parties?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:17ca7fdd-2f0b-4612-bd55-1671b53755d6Post:4d4e4dde-c217-494f-96bc-4763efada20e">Re: Why are Stripclubs the go to thing for Bachelor parties?</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it's dumb, but wouldn't have a problem with it. <strong> God forbid I should ever be so insecure</strong>. Stripping/lap dancing IS A JOB. The women have no interest in your guy besides his pocketbook. Bottom line: you either trust the guy, or you don't. If you don't, then you shouldn't be getting married. A man who cheats on the bride would have done so regardless of the type of bach party he has. HE made the decision to cheat. The strippers didn't rape him.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Not every women who doesn't like strip clubs or disagrees with her fiance going to on is insecure. Also, not wanting him to go to a strip club has nothing to do with trust for some people.

I happen to agree with you that it won't make a guy cheat.

EDIT I don't want to single out this post, it was just an example of how a lot of people think it's always because of a lack of trust or insecurity, sometimes there are other reasons for not wanting to go to a strip club. (or have your partner go to one)

Queen Jane · January 2012

IMO, I find it disresepectful. I see no valid reason why a man I am in a committed relationship with should want/need to go see another naked woman dancing or doing what ever in front of him, let alone get a lap dance and be in that close proximity. Some women are ok with it, and that's fine.

It's a personal viewpoint and I wouldn't knock anyone or pretend to know why they feel the way they do, either way.

H's bach was a weekend in New Orleans, and before he left I told him that I was not comfortable with him going to a strip club, so he didn't go. I would feel the same way any other day of the week or for any other bach party.

blush64 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_stripclubs-thing-bachelor-parties?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:17ca7fdd-2f0b-4612-bd55-1671b53755d6Post:e8e70646-0bf3-4ad5-8ad1-06c016500759">Re: Why are Stripclubs the go to thing for Bachelor parties?</a>:
[QUOTE]What else is it, blush? If it's personal values, then the couple should have discussed that prior to the engagement.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

<strong>IT is personal values.</strong> <strong>And I did recommend discussing that way before the engagement. </strong>That's what I meant, I wasn't meaning to single you out, just the idea that it has to be insecurity or something.

I was upfront with values and feelings before we even started dating.

I have no issue saying I would not want my FI at a strip club and I am not jealous of the girls there, I trust that he would never cheat and I am perfectly secure in my relationship. If someone says they're ok with strip clubs because they aren't jealous or insecure it implies that those of us who aren't ok with it are jealous and insecure. Sometimes it's a personal value thing. While it's ok for those who want it, it's not for us. <strong>And you are so right, people NEED to talk about this way before you're engaged. People need to discuss values, feelings everything possible before you take that big step.</strong>

RamonaFlowers · January 2012

DH isn't into strip clubs ... he just can't justify "paying for blue balls when porn is free ... and has better end results" (Direct quote), so I've never really had to think about whether or not him going to one would bother me.

Regardless, I firmly believe the following:

1) "Being drunk" is not an excuse for any bad behavior. Drunken actions are sober desires.

2) If a guy has it in him to cheat on his s/o with a stripper (Drunk or not), he has it in him to cheat on his s/o period. He could go his whole life without ever setting foot inside of a strip club, and eventually an attractive co-worker or neighbor or something is going to come along and his true colors will come out.

There's no need to demonize the adult entertainment industry because some of their patrons happen to be douchebags. That would be like blaming liquor stores for every single alcoholic in the world, when in reality, shopping at a liquor store is a choice, and the majority of it's patrons are more than capable of purchasing liquor and enjoying it responsibly.

+HeatherW · January 2012

My H and his friends know of my great disgust in strip clubs. At the time we were married he was in the Marine Corps. They respected my feelings and opted to just go to Dave and Busters. They ate a ton of food, got drunk, played games then headed back to the base.

No half naked/fully naked women involved, just a bunch of men having fun.

A man doesn't have to go to a strip club. Let your feelings be known and if they respect you enough, perhaps they won't go.

DeadUtopia · January 2012

Yea, I'd get shittpissed if my FI went to a strip club without me. I'm just not comfortable with half/fully naked women in front of/on/near my FI if I'm not around. Maybe I am insecure, but either way, he doesn't go because he knows it makes me uncomfortable and he doesn't feel like I have him tied down to no-fun-ever-again domestication.

If you are uncomfortable with it, who's to judge? I do agree that if a man cheats with a stripper, he can cheat with anybody. It is kind of sucky to catergorize every stripper as a skank, because there are plenty of non-strippers who are skanks and vice-versa, but I get that you were venting and not intentionally trying to insult anyone.

JennandJoel2010 · January 2012

Not for nothing, but strip clubs aren't always a turn on. I ended up at strip club for my bachelorette (wasn't planned, just kind of happened), while my husband went to a different one for his bachelor party. We met at the end of the night and had a good laugh at all the roast beef and bad boob jobs we saw. Strip clubs are hilarious!

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