March 2012 Weddings

Vent - semi NWR!

Quick background, my MOH and best friend has a twin brother. I use to be really good friends with him a few years ago. He ended up dating a girl, knocked her up, had a baby, the mama moved back east, now he never sees the child, and could care less about her. Then, he meets another girl maybe a year and a half ago. Does it right this time, proposes (after maybe 6 months), has a shotgun wedding in Vegas, and now has another baby on the way. Needless to say, my MOH doesn't get along with him and he and I are no longer really friends. Both my MOH and I cannot stand the new baby mama. Both baby mamas were crazy and he fell off the face of the earth.

So, there is a shower for his soon to be baby not this Saturday but next. I don't like his wife, she's a royal awful, immature and young b!tch. I originally said I'd go because of my MOH, that's it. I hate baby mama and I'm no longer friends with him, so I don't really care what they think of me to be quite honest.

Well, again out of respect for my MOH and her mother (our parents are friends), I invited this couple to the wedding. She sent me this long message on fb about how she couldn't come to the wedding because she works on Fridays. Since she couldn't go, he's not going to make it. I understand, people work on Fridays, but when you have a couple months notice, who doesn't ask to leave a little early? Even then, if you can't, no big deal. Don't give me the run around though. So, why can't he come? Then, she just told me she can't come to my shower either. It's not that I'm gift grabby (to be honest, I'd be really, really surprised if they even got us a gift or one that we wanted for that matter). Yet, I feel like this is what she is doing. She begs me to drive an hour away to BFE for her shower, but can't make it to my shower or wedding?!

Again, I don't even really like this girl, I just hate how this situation has gone down and it seems really rude. It's totally dumb since I don't care about them, but I'm still annoyed and I can't figure out why. I'm honestly thinking of canceling my response and not going to her shower. It would make my life a whole lot easier because I have the busiest day EVER that Saturday and I was already going to have to leave an hour or so after it started anyway.

What do you guys think? Do I need to get over it? Can I not go to the shower? Thoughts?!

ETA: I spoke to my MOH about the situation. She totally agrees, so I'm sticking to my decision. She honestly doesn't even want to go...that shows you how awesome this chick is.
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  • I wouldn't go to her shower. You said you don't care for either of them. They aren't making an effort for yours, either.
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  • I wouldn't go either.  It really would be a waste of time.  I know it's really about the baby.  So, maybe you could still send something for the baby with your MOH but decline the invite.
  • you know I hate people. dont go!
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  • Hahahaha, I love Allison's post!! I would definitely not waste your time on it.
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  • I would send a small gift, but change your response to no and not attend.  You have plenty of better things to do with your time.  

    Plus who wants to play guess the candy in the diaper if you don't even like the person?
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  • Good, I'm so glad you guys are on board. When I told all of this to JP, he said I definitely shouldn't go, but I still wanted an unbiased opinion. Between these responses and my MOH's response, I'm definitely not going. My MOH replied to the whole back and forth message on fb asking why she hadn't even received a decline to the RSVP - probably for the same reason I haven't received for the wedding even though I know they're not coming. She has a lack of respect, maturity, and real world common sense and decency.

    PS. One other small side note, this girl is SO tacky that when they found out they were pregnant, before telling ANYONE, they posted it on fb. I'm not even kidding. Yeah..
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  • I loath showers & rarely go even if I like the person.  I would totally skip out but I would send a pack of diapers or something b/c it's not the baby's fault it's parents suck.
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  • Don't go...

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  • I agree with everyone...I would cancel and say you have to work LOL
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  • Good choice, I wouldn't go...then again...I am not a fan of showers or royal awful biatches.

    I am also notorious for  swinging by, eating a cookie, dropping off the gift and running. Hel, i'll even be surprised if people show up to my bridal shower lol :)
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