I got engaged 4 months ago. I'm having 5 bridesmaids, 1 is a guy, 1 is my 9 year old sister (junior bm), and the other three are women a few years older than me. 2 of the bm live out of town but one of them lives two streets up from me.
One of the maids from out of town (Michele) doesn't really keep in touch; she isn't girly or into wedding stuff at all but she does try her best. The other two don't contact me AT ALL. I send out one long email with wedding updates once a month and never get a response from any of them. No text, email back or phone call. And when I text the other two, (not Michele) to make sure they got the email, they don't respond. I know the one that lives close to me (Meagan) is jealous about the wedding thing because she hated her wedding and the location she wanted to have hers at is where I'm having mine. (She gave me all the info for the place and said go ahead when I wasn't even interested!) She doesn't want to see the wedding dress I just bought or anything. And she's always really negative about the whole thing, saying I'm making "the worst decision" even though everyone loves FI. I personally think its projection but hey.
The other maid (L) doesn't respond to anything but isn't mean about it. She just won't respond even when I showed her pictures of my wedding dress.
I'm not expecting them to keep in touch all the time -I know they have lives. But I'll go weeks without hearing from anyone. I've always imagined your bridesmaids being totally supportive like they are in the movies but I'm getting a reality check!
I have the most issue with Meaghan though. I've given her many chances and she is always mean. Should I even keep her as a bridesmaid when I'm just continually getting my feelings hurt? (Her son is the ring bearer, but she would probably take him out if she couldn't be a maid). And what about L?