For some legal reasons that do not need to be brought up, my husband and I wed legally last January (almost 1 year!). No, I wasn't pregnant. Everyone knew we were already engaged, but only our moms and a couple very close friends know that we are technically married now. We didn't want to tell many others because we just figured that what's the difference since we're going to still have a bigger ceremony anyway. I mean I have a dress and everything (purchased before the legal union). Only problem is that now I'm starting to see that it's going to be hard to keep up the pretense that this is the wedding. If I do it in the church, then it's officially a "convalidation," and I won't feel right lying to people in the church, plus I don't think the priest is going to go for that either. Second, what am I going to put on the invitations and what if someone who has had too much wine spills the beans at the reception?? AH! I'm stressing because I want to start planning (for June 2012) and I'm starting to think I should just tell people so it can be stress free, but I'm terrified of what my Dad will say and if my grandma will think I'm a lier. What should I do? Tell? And if so, how? I'm not good at this stuff.