Honeymoon Registry Tacky?

klsnyder84 · March 2010

I was just wondering if honeymoon registries are considered tacky? I have the money to pay for a honeymoon. I was just asking a question related to another post. Opinions?

arbolita · March 2010

They're not tacky if you include a poem with it.

opalsky007 · March 2010

It is never polite to ask for money.

pumpkinpumpkin · March 2010

extremely.

shellydiane820 · March 2010

I think it sort of weird, asking someone to pay for your honeymoon....where you consummate....eww

MrsHaH101010 · March 2010

I don't like the idea, but I wouldn't judge if I was invited to a wedding where the bride and groom had one.

And if you do decide to have one, I would at least create a small registry for people who just aren't comfortable with the idea.

akhensley81 · March 2010

I just about coughed up my lunch all over my computer screen when I saw the title of this post...

emilyinchile · March 2010

I personally don't mind them as long as there's a traditional registry to go along with it, but I think the fact that so many people on here find them awful is important to keep in mind. Probably at least a few of your guests will hate the idea, so I think it's better to stick to a small traditional registry and word of mouth that you're saving up and would love cash gifts.

cfibelkorn · March 2010

It all depends on who your wedding guest are....

All of mine think it is a great idea and so do we.

I wouldn't worry about what anyone else says, do what you want.

pumpkinpumpkin · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_honeymoon-registry-tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8360b71c-cc8c-4b66-a1b6-59355176be25Post:b4845fc9-5011-4a4d-b410-7f95f2a61976">Re: Honeymoon Registry Tacky?</a>:
[QUOTE]I just about coughed up my lunch all over my computer screen when I saw the title of this post...
Posted by akhensley81[/QUOTE]

Ok, it wasn't quite that funny/appalling...

kristinalily · March 2010

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[QUOTE]I think it sort of weird, asking someone to pay for your honeymoon....where you consummate....eww
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

haha this is exactly what I always think about when I hear someone registering for these. No thanks.

pumpkinpumpkin · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_honeymoon-registry-tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8360b71c-cc8c-4b66-a1b6-59355176be25Post:1d10a323-3650-4d5c-910c-e0999d29a40e">Re: Honeymoon Registry Tacky?</a>:
[QUOTE]It all depends on who your wedding guest are.... All of mine think it is a great idea and so do we. I wouldn't worry about what anyone else says, do what you want.
Posted by cfibelkorn[/QUOTE]

if she's going to do what she wants, then why would she bother asking?

Also, how do you know all your guests think a HM Registry is okay? Did you poll them?

AlexiaANDRobert · March 2010

I don't like them.

A woman that works with our office was telling us about her niece's honeymoon registry and how great she thought it was. This woman is in her 60's and it didn't bother her in the least.

I think it depends on your relatives/guests/whatever. Some people think it's a great idea and love knowing that they're buying you something you want (an excursion, a dinner out, etc.).

I'd run it by a parent, or sibling and see what they think. Only you and your family know your guests best.

Also, if you do go this route, use caution when choosing the website. Some charge fees. If I'm giving you a $100 excursion, but $20 go the honeymoon website for fees, it's your loss and it will annoy the hell out of me to know I had to pay a fee for your gift.

georgia_bride09 · March 2010

I wouldn't contribute to a HM registry. I don't mind buying you some long lasting bowls for your kitchen, but you can pay for your own vacation.

lyndausvi · March 2010

I think they are because in reality you will receive a check and there is nothing to say you will actually use it for your honeymoon. Plus most have fees to either you or your guests.

Of course that might be true for other types of gifts. But I think more people will ask for store credit and/or exchange a useless gift for something they do need instead of getting a cash refund.

Also I had to pay for my HM months before the wedding. Most people I know do not give gifts until right around the wedding, so I'm not sure how that would even work.

BTW - I received mostly cash without saying anything. No extra fees or possibly offending people.

cfibelkorn · March 2010

Pumpkin- I did the honeymoon registry and had my guests tell me what a great idea it was and how they wish they knew about this when they or their kids got married.

It might not be for everyone....thats why I said it depends on your guests. My family and friends are very laid back and are not offended by this

Galaxy8227 · March 2010

It's tacky to ask for money...a honeymoon registry is asking for money to pay for your honeymoon... = tacky

akhensley81 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon Registry Tacky? : Ok, it wasn't quite that funny/appalling...
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

No, but I've seen enough of these posts - and the inevitable responses - to be amazed when people still actually ask this stuff. Doesn't anyone search through old posts any more?

kikibaby · March 2010

I don't personally have a problem, but since the overwhelming opinion here is that they are tacky... it makes me realize that most guests would find them tacky.

I do hate the whole 'you're going to have sex there!' argument though. So... would you not buy someone sheets just because they're going to have sex on them? Also, FWIW, I don't see a HM as a sexfest when you've already been living together a bajillion years.

btrflykate1230 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]I think it sort of weird, asking someone to pay for your honeymoon....where you consummate....eww
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

It's f unny you say that. When FI and I were planning our wedding, we didn't talk about sex. We only talked about what kind of activites we wanted to do on our honeymoon, like ziplining, sailing, and snorkeling, as opposed to sex.

SaraAndrew2010 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]It all depends on who your wedding guest are.... All of mine think it is a great idea and so do we. I wouldn't worry about what anyone else says, do what you want.
Posted by cfibelkorn[/QUOTE]

How do you really know that all of your guests think it's a good idea? Did you ask every single person? Even if you did, very few of your friends or family are likely to give you a completely honest answer.

If one of my cousins came up to me and said, "Hey, I'm having a honeymoon registry because I think they're a great idea. You wouldn't mind, would you?" I would probably just nod politely, rather than getting into a whole argument. That doesn't mean that I wouldn't secretly think it was tacky

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · March 2010

I wouldn't do it, nor would I contribute to one. To me, it is also like asking for cash. I usually give cash anyway, but this rubs me the wrong way. If someone had a physical registry, I'd buy something off that instead of the honeymoon registry, or possibly give a check, depending on the couple.

ZRex · March 2010

Just register at BBB and return everything for cash. I'm not trying to be mean or anything. Just sayin'.

ac_in_dc · March 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon Registry Tacky? : It's f unny you say that. When FI and I were planning our wedding, we didn't talk about sex. We only talked about what kind of activites we wanted to do on our honeymoon, like ziplining, sailing, and snorkeling, as opposed to sex.
Posted by btrflykate1230[/QUOTE]

Really? DH and I basically planned our HM around the idea that we wanted to have as much sex as possible for 2 weeks.

btrflykate1230 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Honeymoon Registry Tacky? : Really? DH and I basically planned our HM around the idea that we wanted to have as much sex as possible for 2 weeks.
Posted by ac_in_dc[/QUOTE]

Haha, really. We live together, so, we can have all the sex we want at home. We'd rather be out in about in a new place. I know we're totally not the norm though, haha.

AmoroAgain · March 2010

*Points at sig*

Besides the fact that they ask for money... let's remember that they actually take a percentage of your gifts or a flat fee. WHY would you think it's okay to give up part of your gifts? As a guest, THAT'S the part I would find appaling. Either the guest pays the fee, or the bride and groom are. Not to mention, some people think that having a HM registry means they don't have to pay for their own trip and plan to take a trip they can't actually afford. Personally, if you can't afford to pay for that vacation, don't ask me to pay for it for you.

Some registries allow you to have guests pay for certain activities: couples massage, helicopter ride, etc. But, that's really just false advertising to your guests. They pay for you to have that experience, and instead, you just get a check so then it's just up to you to actually do the activity your guest paid for.

If you don't want *stuff* then don't register for anything. You'll get some random gifts, and the rest will be cash.

mandybear7 · March 2010

I just don't like that the registries are a cover up for cash. In the end, the couple receives a check and they don't have to go on that excursion that Aunt Sue "bought."

Just have a small registry and most people will end up giving cash. It's so easy for your mom or MOH to spread by word of mouth that cash would be appreciated because you are saving up for XYZ.

SaraAndrew2010 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]I was just wondering if honeymoon registries are considered tacky? Another member mentioned on a post that they are. Opinions? ************************************************************************************************ UPDATE: I have the money to pay for a honeymoon. I was just asking a question related to another post. Man there are a lot of rude, uptight women on here.
Posted by klsnyder84[/QUOTE]

I never understand comments like this. You asked what people thought about honeymoon registries and we told you our opinions. I don't think anyone attacked you directly or said anything particularly rude. I'm sorry if you didn't get the answer you were looking for.

AlexiaANDRobert · March 2010

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[QUOTE]I was just wondering if honeymoon registries are considered tacky? Another member mentioned on a post that they are. Opinions? ************************************************************************************************ UPDATE: I have the money to pay for a honeymoon. I was just asking a question related to another post. Man there are a lot of rude, uptight women on here.
Posted by klsnyder84[/QUOTE]

Meh, most of the women on here aren't rude or uptight. If you read what everyone wrote, they're all scenarios and thoughts/questions that come up when someone sees a honeymoon registry.

I'd think twice before having one if I knew it meant people thought I couldn't afford the trip I planned!

opalsky007 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]I was just wondering if honeymoon registries are considered tacky? Another member mentioned on a post that they are. Opinions? ********************************************************************* UPDATE: I have the money to pay for a honeymoon. I was just asking a question related to another post. There are a lot of rude, uptight women on here.
Posted by klsnyder84[/QUOTE]

I don't think anyone's said anything rude directed at you or at anyone else. You asked, we answered. Uptight, much?

klsnyder84 · March 2010

Well apparently the original post of "I about threw up my lunch all over the computer" and "if you are too broke say home" have been removed.

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