My FI is Chinese and I am not. In my family and in general my culture we have always found some way to represent our loved ones who've passed away and could not attend at the wedding (candle, flowers, picture,etc.). I asked FI's parents for the names of those who've passed and I found out later from FI that his parents see this as bad luck at a wedding and they don't want it to be a part of our wedding. I need advice on what to do b/c this is a very important part of the wedding for my parents. Any help, ideas, or advice would be GREATLY appreciated!!!