My FI is Chinese and I am not. In my family and in general my culture we have always found some way to represent our loved ones who've passed away and could not attend at the wedding (candle, flowers, picture,etc.). I asked FI's parents for the names of those who've passed and I found out later from FI that his parents see this as bad luck at a wedding and they don't want it to be a part of our wedding. I need advice on what to do b/c this is a very important part of the wedding for my parents. Any help, ideas, or advice would be GREATLY appreciated!!!
Re: multi-cultural wedding question!?!?
I'm having a huge cultural clash with my wedding as well but not on this specific issue. I'm Vietnamese and FI is Korean. We are doing as many of traditions/superstitutions as we can while trying not to disrespect either side. If they do not want to do something your culture expects, just do it for your side of the family. Just have the pictures and flowers for your side and not his. During my sister's wedding...(FI was Laos)..everyone just kept apologizing if they were offending the culture and everything seemed alright.