So mad - no one around - need to vent SOMEWHERE!

thesuninherhead · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: So mad - no one around - need to vent SOMEWHERE! : I'm pretty fantastic! Life's a little more boring than yours, but I'll take it right now :) I'm just trying to find a job and stay on top of married life. I didn't feel so guilty about the house getting messy when I lived alone. Now I have someone that can see all of it lol. Did you ever get all of your health things work out?
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE] Which health things? Haha. We were just tested for mono on Friday (haven't got results yet) but I am otherwise fine! I guess you might be talking about the breast lump? That turned out to be nothing to be worried about, thankfully (even though that biopsy was something to worry about within itself... ouch!). Maintaining a house is a full-time job in itself, seriously! I'm afraid there will always be more to clean in my house than there is desire to clean it. How are you going with the job hunt?

thesuninherhead · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Personally I think her texting you to say what she did and then refusing the answer when you called is a control tactic. She wants to be in control of the situation and if she doesnt have to hear you out she can justify her anger based on the limited information she has.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE] I don't know. I think maybe she's realised that texting while angry was a bad enough idea, and doesn't want to start having a full-on conversation while still upset (not to mention, in front of the others while camping). Or, as someone else suggested, doesn't want to waste anymore time getting upset about it while on her break and has decided to talk about it after they've both calmed down.

andy71781 · October 2010

re: texting vs phone call - is there anyway that she had crappy service and therefore texting would be better than a dropped call?

brilibby4 · October 2010

To be honest, I would have been hurt in your friend's situation too. While I probably would have waited to discuss it with you, I can understand her being frustrated/hurt and wanting to let you know. I also understand that she was probably around other people and on a camping trip and probably didn't want to argue with you and get more upset. I certainly have ignored phone calls or turned my phone off if I needed some time away from technology (uhh hello camping!) or stupid drama with family or friends. Also, is it possible she doesn't have very good service? I know when I go camping or hiking I don't always have enough cell phone service to call someone but can send and receive text messages. Just thought you might want to consider this before you "defriend' her over her message and the fact that she didn't answer her phone. I agree with pretty much everything said by PPs and think you need to step back and look at the situation (and this thread!) again tomorrow.

thesuninherhead · October 2010

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[QUOTE] Also, is it possible she doesn't have very good service? I know when I go camping or hiking I don't always have enough cell phone service to call someone but can send and receive text messages.
Posted by brilibby4[/QUOTE] Good point (I think this was what Andy was saying, too). Most places I've gone camping have patchy signal that is OK for sending texts/browsing the web if you try repeatedly, but can't support phone calls.

andy71781 · October 2010

eye to eye brillbby & sun.

Nebb · October 2010

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[QUOTE]To be honest, I would have been hurt in your friend's situation too. While I probably would have waited to discuss it with you, I can understand her being frustrated/hurt and wanting to let you know. I also understand that she was probably around other people and on a camping trip and probably didn't want to argue with you and get more upset. I certainly have ignored phone calls or turned my phone off if I needed some time away from technology (uhh hello camping!) or stupid drama with family or friends. Also, is it possible she doesn't have very good service? I know when I go camping or hiking I don't always have enough cell phone service to call someone but can send and receive text messages. Just thought you might want to consider this before you "defriend' her over her message and the fact that she didn't answer her phone. I agree with pretty much everything said by PPs and think you need to step back and look at the situation (and this thread!) again tomorrow.
Posted by brilibby4[/QUOTE]
Then why browse facebook and send texts, you know? That obviously wasnt the case with M&R's friend.

brilibby4 · October 2010

Nebb- That is true. I guess I didn't think that comment through very well.

tenofcups4me · October 2010

Wow, you are way over-reacting. You're going to end a friendship because something you posted made it appear you bailed on a weekend trip last minute so you could stay home and party?

Yeah, we know that's the not the case, but how could your friend? Cos that's what it looks like.

Why didn't she answer when you called? She didn't want to get into this bullshit with you on her vacation... Or she's getting text/internet service but not phone (that was the case at a music festival I went to a couple weeks ago)... Or she put the phone down to eat... or a million other reasons that may or may not have anything to do with you.

ARod22 · October 2010

I haven't read all of the comments so I don't know if someone's already pointed this out... but if this girl is out camping right now, presumably her phone is either off, stuffed in her bag, or has very poor reception. Right? You can't assume that she purposefully sent it to vm. And if she did, it could just be that she recognizes her own feelings--she's hurt--and doesn't want to blow up at you. I'd give her a lot fo credit for avoiding confrontation for now... though I agree the text she sent you was a little childish.

I think you are overreacting, but fwiw, I think you sound very stressed out right now and are probably lashing out at friends and fuming over things because of how overwhelmed you are. Just enjoy the rest of your weekend without thinking about her too much, clean your house (I find this therapuetic), and once your home is clean and your mind is settled down, try talking to her calmly by apologizing (your behavior in leaving her that vm was quite immature, no offense), and explain the misunderstanding. It would probably also help to mention what you said to us, that you had really wanted to go camping but just felt that you simply couldn't committ to an entire weekend away from home.

heyimbren · October 2010

I think she saw it on facebook before they left for camping, but I could be wrong. The text could have been while she was leaving or before as well. I do get what you're saying about the control need, Nebb, and it is definitely a possibility that this girl is just a terrible person and a crappy friend. The text was out of line, but I think most of what happened in the situation was as well.

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: So mad - no one around - need to vent SOMEWHERE! : Probably. I'm not use to people getting pissed over something so stupid. I can't deal with these things at all and can't be bothered by them. FB is not the be all end all and I can't understand why people let it dictate their perceptions on people. I'm use to calling, saying WFT, getting it out, then moving on and grabbing a beer. FWIW, I'm not throwing a party, I totally understand why she would be upset - which is why I called right away - and the camping trip was a group of 15 people - me not being there won't crush anything.
Posted by M&R7111[/QUOTE]

I get what you're saying, but I see a lot of what you're blaming her for are things you did as well. FB isn't the be all end all, but neither is a text message.

Nebb · October 2010

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[QUOTE]I haven't read all of the comments so I don't know if someone's already pointed this out... but if this girl is out camping right now, presumably her phone is either off, stuffed in her bag, or has very poor reception. Right? You can't assume that she purposefully sent it to vm. And if she did, it could just be that she recognizes her own feelings--she's hurt--and doesn't want to blow up at you. I'd give her a lot fo credit for avoiding confrontation for now... though I agree the text she sent you was a little childish. I think you are overreacting, but fwiw, I think you sound very stressed out right now and are probably lashing out at friends and fuming over things because of how overwhelmed you are. Just enjoy the rest of your weekend without thinking about her too much, clean your house (I find this therapuetic), and once your home is clean and your mind is settled down, try talking to her calmly by apologizing (your behavior in leaving her that vm was quite immature, no offense), and explain the misunderstanding. It would probably also help to mention what you said to us, that you had really wanted to go camping but just felt that you simply couldn't committ to an entire weekend away from home.
Posted by ARod22[/QUOTE]
I do agree with this as well.

golden1215 · October 2010

Didnt read every response so maybe someone else said this but cant you just text her back and explain? Since we all know people always at least read their texts that come in- at least that way she knows what you're up to.

I would be mad and very hurt if I was your friend too and 1) baseball games are not just 2 hours, more like 3 hours and 2) it's not like if people did come over to your place they would get their right at the opening pitch and leave right away when the game is done. They'd stay and hang out.

Mrs.B6302007 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: So mad - no one around - need to vent SOMEWHERE! : Probably. I'm not use to people getting pissed over something so stupid. I can't deal with these things at all and can't be bothered by them. FB is not the be all end all and I can't understand why people let it dictate their perceptions on people. I'm use to calling, saying WFT, getting it out, then moving on and grabbing a beer. FWIW, I'm not throwing a party, I totally understand why she would be upset - which is why I called right away - and the camping trip was a group of 15 people - me not being there won't crush anything.
Posted by M&R7111[/QUOTE]

Based on the title of your post, aren't you doing the same thing?

Miss Biscuit · October 2010

I think you're both being completely ridiculous.   Your friend is clearly overreacting, but you're being incredibly immature. You hurt her feelings via a facebook post, which absolutely shouldn't have been made. If you're taking a break from regular life and bailing on your friend for the sake of getting your own life together, get the heck off facebook.

She's clearly not "understanding" your actions as she claimed, but you're not helping matters by posting about an improptu party. How do you think that looks to her? If my friend did that to me, I'd be miffed; it says, "I don't like you enough to give up my weekend to spend time with you, but I will do whatever I want at home."   It gives the impression that you were dishonest, even if that wasn't your intention.

Your friend is probably upset, so give her some time. She's not obligated to hash this out with you on your schedule. It sounds like you're both attempting to claim the right to be righteously indignant about the others' actions, when both of you should be stepping back, taking a deep breath and attempting to see things from the other point of view.

This is how adult friendships work, even between girls.

MISSCOURTNEY20 · October 2010

I would have been pretty upset with you too. I understand your frustration completely but you have to see this how your friend is seeing it.

Hopefully she gets your email and understands but for right now just let it go and enjoy the rest of your weekend. Weekends like this makes me LOVE being a teacher!!

avsfan33 · October 2010

I suffer from anxiety and I'm pretty sure you're just lashing out at people because you're stressed out. Maybe you aren't used to "drama" because you don't normally get this stressed? I know when I get stressed I get pretty angry and overly biitchy with people. Take a break from everything and go relax. Deal with the problems tomorrow.

Like others have said, maybe she wasn't getting service for calls? If she was on the highway maybe she just happned to lose service at that point or didn't have enough to get the call? She might have not wanted to waste her battery life on a call that would result in bickering. She also might have just not wanted to deal with any of this without being able to talk to you.

Personally, I would have been pretty pissed at this. It pisses me off when I see my roommate whine about being broke and then posting on facebook about going to get drunk. It also upsets me when someone tells me they're too busy to hang out with me but openly asks people of FB to go to the bar. Put yourself in her shoes. She doesn't know what you've done all day, just that you were too busy to go camping but not too busy to have a "party" because I would have viewed it that way too.

Just take a break and clear your head.

leah2b · October 2010

I really don't agree with you that you should be mad. You cancelled at the very last minute and remember that she is taking time of of her busy life (you said she is a mom) to spend time with friends. She made the committment to go and followed through - you didn't. Its not like you backed out of lunch. Quite frankly, everybody's lives these days are very busy. You cancelled saying that you were too busy to follow through on weekend plans and then you take to facebook inviting people over for a beer to watch the yankee game. Ya, I think she has a reason to be irritated.

Personally, I wouldn't have said anything but then again, I am a bit of a pushover and I dislike confrontation. But I probably wouldn't have counted you in for the next trip since you flaked before. It doesn't really sound like you really wanted to go as you say or you would have went.

squirrly · October 2010

I really think you're overreacting too.

1 - If you don't take FB seriously, why did you use your status message to invite people over? I don't do much with FB - I post status messages about 5 times a year. Max. Because I just don't think FB is the best way to communicate that stuff, and I don't figure that many people really care.

2 - She doesn't have to answer the phone on demand. Regardless of whether she had service, time, or could hear you when you called, doesn't matter. If she's not in the mood to talk, that's her right. If you wanted to leave a message for her to hear later, that's yours.

3 - People text. Some for serious things. That's the way life is. Clearly you think email is ok for a serious conversation - 15 years ago, that wouldn't have been the case. Your dislike for it doesn't dictate what people can and should do. It's fine for YOU to not SEND those messages, but if you receive texts, you can't really decide what types of messages you don't want.

4 - If you're willing to blow off a friendship because of this, it's clearly not an important friendship to you. I can understand maybe not wanting to talk to her or see her for a few days/week, until you've both cooled off, but FOREVER is a bit ridiculous.

5 - Is your friend as close to the other pepole camping as she is to you? Have you not had much time with her lately? She might have been interested in the trip SOLELY because of spending time with you, and now you've ditched her but opened your door to anybody who has FB, essentially. Taking a break to watch the game is your perogitive, but if you had previously dedicated the weekend to hanging out with her, it's pretty shitty in my opinion to then hang out with other people in lieu of her.

I really hope that you raed this tomorrow with a cooler head and think seriously about what people have said. If you can't understand what we're all talking about, I feel badly for you, because you're going to be totally without friends before long. And I've always thought you came across as a much more level-headed person than that.

thesuninherhead · October 2010

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[QUOTE]You'e just. not. getting. it. Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE] Either all of us normally rational people who are completely removed from the situation (and would probably prefer to take your side of this situation, given that you are a well-liked reg) have gone insane, or you need to drop the defensiveness and take another look at this situation. The way you're reacting to your friend's hurt is completely ridiculous and this is pretty clear to all of us, as evidenced by the replies you've received. You're right- your friend may have been initially understanding about you being too busy to come. Does that understanding prevent hurt when she later sees your FB status inviting your friends over for an open bar night of drinking and game watching? Evidently not. Is it a crime that she cares about you enough to want to spend time with you and to be hurt when you ditch fairly long-standing plans you'd made with her but then publicly request others to come and hang out with you? Make an attempt at putting yourself in her shoes and drop the self-righteousness. Should she have messaged you in anger? Probably not, but likewise, you should not have responded to her passive aggressive message with an email of the same tone. You've both made mistakes here, but she does not owe you an apology anymore than you owe her one.

squirrly · October 2010

Please sleep, have a good breakfast, and then re-read this post. If you still disagree, then. . . prepare for FFF.

Beachy730 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Please sleep, have a good breakfast, and then re-read this post. If you still disagree, then. . . prepare for FFF.
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

Well said! Congrats on the baby too!

Lisa50 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]You bailed on her at the last minute, by the sounds of it (if I'm understanding correctly, you pulled out one day before you were due to go)? She was probably already hurt by your lack of consideration in doing so and seeing your post suggesting a party at your house (open bar =/= quick break from work for most people) was likely salt in that wound. Have you so little empathy that you can't at all comprehend how this might have looked to her? I'm not suggesting that you need to be accountable to her, but surely if you put yourself in her position you can get that there might be a little hurt there, even if camping and watching a game are two very different things.
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

Ditto. Perhaps you need some rest?? You are SO stressed and, I think, blowing things out of proportion. And ... just b/c someone doesn't answer the phone doesn't mean they're avoiding you.

Breathe. Relax. Take a warm bath. Stay off of Facebook for a while (as in for more than a week) and resume communications with your friend via phone when you're feeling better -- and after her trip.

M&R7111 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]You'e just. not. getting. it. I think you're blatantly ignoring the possibility that HER feelings were hurt. Would you like some validation to go with that whine?I'm normally not like this, but you're just being a baby about all of this. It's annoying when a so called friend acts this way.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

No, I think you're missing it. I knew she was taking this the wrong way, which is why I called her right back.

I'm mad she decided to send a text message and not back it up. It was a cheep shot to me, and I agree with neb, a control tactic.

I don't know how you all deal with these things, but to act this way when I call and try to fix a situation is childish. I don't hang up on people and send snarky messages then hide behind them. I confront the situation right on. Some of you said you would send a text then not answer the call when it came in either - childish.

I stand by what I said earlier - she's rude.
The camping trip wasn't even "final" until Thursday night due to cold nights, we were just going to hang out at our other friend's house instead for one night. They changed it back to a three day camping trip Thursday once the weather reports came in it was going to be nice. Friday I said I can't do a three day trip away from my house and work. But I'll be damned if I'm going to "hide" like I would from a boss and not do something local or communicate through FB the way I usually do. I offered my left over beer to friends who were asking to go out and watch the game. It's not like I blew off a one night hang out with D to do something else.

cara91997 · October 2010

OP, just want to throw my 2 cents in. Obviously you are mad at your friend's lack of a desire to pick up the phone. I am like you in that I want to "fix" things right away if there is a problem. The thing is, she may not have been ignoring you because she didn't want to talk to you. Did you ever think maybe she was in the middle of something with camping and she looked at the phone, realized she didn't have enough time to "get into it" so she ignored? I know personally, when I send a text it's usually because I am too busy to pick up the phone and call.

I could understand your point if you had been trying to call her for several days and she refused to speak to her. I honestly think you are just very tired and very stressed and therefore over-reacting. I totally feel you. I am a teacher too, in a new teaching job and I also pull 12 hour days a few times per week due to a night time extra teaching job I picked up for some extra cash. I totally know what it's like and when I am tired, which I ALWAYS am these days, things tend to bother me much more.

Relax and give it a few days. If she is your friend she will let you explain. In my opinion though I think you owe her an apology. Not because you were wrong in cancelling, but because your FB status did make it sound like you were throwing a party after cancelling plans. Of course that's not the same as going away for a weekend, but still a lot of work goes into throwing a party. I'm sure she was just hurt and that status made her feel like she was second rate.

sarah0725 · October 2010

I just read through this whole thing, and while I can see both sides of the issue, I am kind of shocked that so many of you guys think it's okay to use text messages to communicate serious or incendiary information and then not back it up with a phone call or some other way to clear things up. There are so many studies and articles written about the various written forms of communication in the last few decades - email, message boards, instant messaging, and now text - have in some ways made it harder to communicate because we lose the visual and voice cues that would otherwise make it possible to understand one another better.

Sending a message like that is an emotion bomb. It may make you feel better because you said your piece, but it may ruin the receiver's weekend, because now they have to deal with whatever you said without being able to discuss it with you. I would never do something so immature to a friend, and if I had a friend who was in the habit of doing such things to me, I would consider ending the friendship.

That said, M&R, you probably need to back off on the situation a bit to get some perspective. We all tend to feel more emotional at night than we do in the morning.

Manwaithiel · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_mad-one-around-need-vent-somewhere?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1eed2797-3740-440f-b9e9-b8aef2477bf6Post:50ac276f-9b7f-439e-9a22-ba5f47cc6f2f">Re: So mad - no one around - need to vent SOMEWHERE!</a>:
[QUOTE]I just read through this whole thing, and while I can see both sides of the issue, I am kind of shocked that so many of you guys think it's okay to use text messages to communicate serious or incendiary information and then not back it up with a phone call or some other way to clear things up. There are so many studies and articles written about the various written forms of communication in the last few decades - email, message boards, instant messaging, and now text - have in some ways made it harder to communicate because we lose the visual and voice cues that would otherwise make it possible to understand one another better. Sending a message like that is an emotion bomb. It may make you feel better because you said your piece, but it may ruin the receiver's weekend, because now they have to deal with whatever you said without being able to discuss it with you. I would never do something so immature to a friend, and if I had a friend who was in the habit of doing such things to me, I would consider ending the friendship. That said, M&R, you probably need to back off on the situation a bit to get some perspective. We all tend to feel more emotional at night than we do in the morning.
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]

Agreed. Those of you who think this is an appropriate way to handle a situation, I would get pissed with YOU.

OP, just let it go. Try not let it slide. It will be better, I promise. Especially, as I said last night, if this was an isolated incident.

squirrly · October 2010

Sarah, really? It's a disagreement over a camping trip, not a nuclear treaty we're talking about here. I'm not saying either of them was right, but the OP can't dictate how her friends communicate, if she wants to stay friends. Text messaging is a societal norm now, and that's just part of living today. If her friend wanted to talk right now, she would. Since she doesn't, the OP should get her panties out of a wad and settle down. They can talk later.

And, if you're going to chastize the text message sender, you should really let the OP have it for posting on FB to start this whole thing.

brookelynpaisley · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to So mad - no one around - need to vent SOMEWHERE! : I think you need to chill out. Sounds like she was really annoyed you didn't go...which is understandable, considering how little notice you gave her. Personally, when I need to back out of something, I stay off of FB. It's like calling in sick to work and then posting that you're heading out to the mall. Bad juju there. I don't think you're owed an apology at all. If you did in fact want to post something, you should have said 'taking a break from cleaning and planning to watch the game. Anyone want a beer with me? Cause to me, it really does sound like you're planning to party. Yeah, a little immuture to just send it to VM, but I would probably do the same thing.And? I think you're a shitty friend for backing out of the friendship over one little fight. I'm sure you're not going to like this answer, but oh well.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. "Taking a break to watch the game and have a beer" is one thing, "Hey everyone come over and drink and hang out with me" is another. You kinda put it out there and made it sound like you really weren't THAT swamped. And I'm not necessarily siding with her, but is it possible they wherever they were had crappy service for voice calls but allowed texts to go through? Eh, I'd just wait until you get back and call her to explain. Your email sounds a bit harsh, I think it's best to clear it up in a more personal mode of communication.

katiewhompus · October 2010

Ok I just skimmed and I'm late but I wanted to throw a suggestion.

My phone does not charge me if I text while roaming, it does if I call. My friends know if I text them and then it goes to VM when they call me it's because I'm roaming. Could that be the case here?

So mad - no one around - need to vent SOMEWHERE!

Re: So mad - no one around - need to vent SOMEWHERE!

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